Woman Chastised For Not Inviting Dog To Wedding, Family Threatens Not To Come

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kalila courban
Nov 11, 2021 1:00 PM EST

Marriage is a pretty big deal, ideally it lasts forever. And weddings are supposed to be days of love and celebration focused purely on the bride and groom. Well, sometimes the Bride's sister steals the spotlight with all of her various issues. Such is the case here. OP has made it very clear that her wedding will be pet and child free, and surprise that includes her sister's service dog. 

Not to mention that the totally legitimate and valid reason that she does not want pets at her wedding is because her fiancé underwent a traumatic childhood experience and still has dog related anxiety, but hey, as long as the bride's sister is happy. Isn't that what they say, 'happy sister of wife, happy life?' For more wedding drama, check this out. 

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    Font - r/AmltheA u/These-Rabbit9624 · 3d 2 AITA for not allowing my sisters service dog to come to our wedding? Not the A-i I (f24) just got engaged to my boyfriend of 5 years (m29) and have begun planning our wedding for early 2023 (only picked a venue so far). When planning, we decided on a child and pet free(ish) wedding. The first hasn't received any backlash yet (here's hoping), but the second has become an extremely controversial subject in my family. My sister (f21) has a psychiatrist ser
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    Font - My fiancé was attacked by a golden retriever when he was 11. While it wasn't physically severe, it did affect him mentally and he had to go to therapy to be comfortable around dogs. He is now fine around all dogs but golden retrievers. Because of this, my sister always visits us without her dog. She's usually fine to go out if she is with our mum and doesn't want to bring the dog, this is what my sister says not me assuming. When my fiancé sees a golden retriever in public, he usually tri
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    Font - When planning save the dates, we told our immediate family in person. When telling my family, my sister begun talking about how she would buy a bowtie for her dog to wear at the wedding. This took place at our home and her dog wasn't present. My fiancé brought up his discomfort and I backed him up, telling her that her service dog couldn't come to the wedding. I posed the idea that she come alone, like she does when she comes over to visit us. She got extremely upset by this, ranting abou
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    Font - My parents called me the next day to tell me that it wasn't acceptable not to allow my sisters service dog to come along, and that it would mean she couldn't come. Honestly we're not that close and she was only coming as a guest, so I posed the idea that she come for a dinner with me individually before or after the wedding to celebrate. Now my parents are threatening to not come and claiming ADA laws against me. I honestly think my fiancés comfort on our wedding is more important than my
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    Font - Consistent-Leopard71 · 2d Professor Emeritass [81] 3 1 Award NTA. Why do your sister's psychological issues trump your fiance's trauma at his own wedding? According to your post she has visited you multiple times without her service dog, so it doesn't seem like a stretch for her to be without her service dog for your wedding. If she absolutely feels that she cannot be without the dog for your wedding, then she can just not attend. Also, the ADA doesn't apply here as attending a wedding is
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    Font - ratsrulehell· 2d Partassipant [2] NTA. Your parents threatening to use laws against you are TA. She either comes without her dog, or doesn't come. Why tf would you cater to her over the guy who's day it is' phobia? G Reply 477 3 ... +
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    Font - Cocoasneeze 2d Professor Emeritass [81] NTA l'd say your future husband's comfort and well being takes precedence at your wedding. If your sister doesn't feel comfortable enough without the dog, then she doesn't have to come. Tell your parents, that if they choose to not come as well, that's their choice. G Reply 295 +
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    Font - ToilandTrouble123 · 2d Partassipant [2] I'm just trying to get my head around how your sisters mental health is supposed to be prioritised over your fiancé's mental health, on what's supposed to be the happiest day of his life??? NTA, but your sister and parents surely are. I love how you even tried to compromise with the offer of dinner, which was dismissed, so it clearly shows how little consideration your sister truly has for you and your fiance. One other compromise I can think of it
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    Font - Icylssue · 2d Partassipant [2] ADA laws are only for public places. Private weddings can ban anything or anyone they want. NTA. Your fiance's mental health at his OWN wedding trumps your sister's. She can stay home if she can't bear to spend an hour at the ceremony and a few hours at the reception without the dog. G Reply 4 3k 3 + Insensitive_Bitch · 2d The ADA laws don't even apply here either because it's not a service dog, it's a support animal 6 4 1.1k ...
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    Font - ExistentialistTeapot · 2d hole Enthusiast [5] 2 Awards NTA. You have to ask your parents why your sister's mental health condition is important, but your fiancé's is not. Forcing your fiancé to deal with the mental distress caused by an animal associated with a traumatic childhood incident could also be considered discrimination. There are competing and incompatible needs here, and considering the wedding cannot happen without your fiancé, but can happen without your sister, there is an o
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