“AITA for taking my wife’s side after she screamed and cursed at my mother?”
—posted by u/dadof2throwWay
The comment section
Many redditors in the comments felt second-hand outrage on behalf of OP's wife. Obviously, no one thought OP was the a-hole.
“I couldn’t let her 3 store quest be for nothing, she was dying for that chicken lol. I have no clue what’s up with my mom. I want her to be able to be in my childrens’ lives but we need some serious boundary work idk what to do dude” OP replied.
“It sucks but consequences. The faster you enact consequences and make her understand you’re serious the sooner she will probably realize you’re serious and start respecting you as an adult. I see so many posts from people who pussyfoot around actually enacting boundaries and consequences and they ruin their marriages because a person can only take so much. The sooner you show you’re a grown man and always support your wife, The sooner your mother will understand her role. Hopefully anyways.” said u/ObjectiveLocksmith4.
“NTA brother might be NC too, 'defend your mom no matter what???'” said uMayoBear.
“I say over and over again that men who choose their mothers over their partners are unfit for relationships.” said u/user_friendly_socks.
“You're ‘choosing another woman over her’? Sounds like you need to remind her she's your mother, not your wife.” said u/certain_people.
“My mom told me shortly before my wedding that ‘forsaking all others’ doesn't just mean not cheating. It means putting your spouse ahead of, for example, your parents. That's an oversimplification - it was a very long conversation and made much more sense when she said it than how I've typed it. Anyway, I think about that when I read threads featuring this type of overstepping MIL. NTA Best to OP and Melody” said u/mcatem87.
“I just showed this comment to Melody & she couldn’t stop laughing 😂 thank you for making her night hahaha” said OP.
“You and your dad are champs, when you get a chance, you and your dad should talk to your brother and set him straight. At least try anyway.” said u/lazyady.
“Of course he'll find someone who will tolerate this. We read these posts on reddit almost non-stop. But you are right in that if you want a healthy relationship, boundaries with family are very necessary.” said u/TurbulentSituation79.
“She claims all the seasoning and grease from the way rotisserie chicken is made isn’t healthy. I don’t know how true that is but Melody is so healthy and was even before the baby, she works out consistently and eats really well unless she wants a treat which I think is healthy. I wouldn’t want her overdoing ‘healthy eating’ or exercise anyway pregnant or not” explained OP.
“Threw away her food, berated her choices AND ORDERED HER A GOD DANG SALAD. The woman is the freaking devil. Agree with you on all counts. OP is so far from TA that I’m convinced he doesn’t even have one.” said u/Passivewalnut.
“Melody encouraged me to do so a long time ago, it did put a lot into perspective. I’m not as bad as my brother though, but he refuses to go. I’ll definitely be bringing this up in the next session lol” replied OP.
After reading through hundreds of responses, OP followed up with some updates
You can find the original thread here.