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Volatile MIL Says She Has To Live With Her 'Golden Boy' Son Against DIL's Wishes

The OP in this story is a supportive wife that just can't support her husband AND his mother. Her husband's mother (MIL) is ill and her health is continuing to deteriorate. The MIL needs a place where she can live and have extra attention. Op's husband has other siblings too, but they all voted that he should take her in even though he also has kids of his own. Not to mention - OP and her husband's mother get into lots of fights and arguments. She doesn't want her children to bare witness to the fighting and animosity. OP say her MIL sees her as the woman who stole her son away from her... big yikes. OP is caught in between trying to be there for her husband and keeping her own sanity in tact. Maybe you can help her and the moral judges of Reddit decide who is truly the a$$hole. 

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    Human body - r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by u/throwaway1193717 9 hours ago AITA for not allowing my husband's sick mom to live with us?

    This is a tricky headline. Carrying for our parents in their old age is an inevitable part of life. They brought us into the world. The least we can do is make the senior years of their lives more comfortable. However, that is easier said than done of course. Every family dynamic and household situation is different. Carrying for a sick family member is especially difficult. They need a routine for medications and usually need a nursed aid present. Not everyone has the space or the ability to afford these kinds of services. 

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    Font - My husband's mom has been generally sickly the last few years but has gone down hill this last year. She's a widow and it's gotten to the point where it's not good for her to live alone. However, I do not want her living with us.

    It's a tough balancing act - wanting your own life and privacy when someone in your family needs you and disrupts it. Having a sick parent takes a team strategy. OP and her husband taking in Grandma is one option. But not an option they particularly care for. 

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    Font - We have had a volatile relationship since my husband and I started dating 6 years ago. She's got 3 kids but my husband is her "golden child" and to her I've never been anything more than the girl who stole him away, despite all my attempts to bond with her.

    Oh no, not the 'golden child.' That already puts out an expectation. MIL is already pitting her children against each other by picking favorites. Naturally, the siblings picked him to take care of her even though his wife has strong feelings against it. 

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    Font - My husband and his two siblings got together last week to talk about her and came to the decision that they wanted to approach her about selling her house and getting some help. Well when they did this she immediately said "I want to live with Aaron" (my husband, fake name of course for privacy).
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    Font - Aaron loves his mom and has always had a hard time saying no to her so his response was he'd love to have her but just needed to talk to me first. I was against it the second he mentioned it to me. Physically she's got some ailments but mentally she is still 100% there, so I know her living with us would just be her picking fights with me and trying to baby him and acting like I don't exist. I don't think I can handle years of someone undermining me.
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    Font - She's sick so if it were just Aaron and I, I would be more open to it but we have two kids and I don't want them witnessing dysfunction and fighting. My husband and I work really hard on marking sure we never argue in front of them and our home is a really stable environment, and the idea of that being disrupted gives me a lot of anxiety.
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    Font - I explained all of this to Aaron and he was offended and upset at first but couldn't deny that her and I would butt head and it wouldn't be good for the kids. He ended up telling his siblings first and they're both really mad at us. One of them is a lot younger and not in the position to have her
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    Font - live with them and the other has a traveling job. She could talk to her job and remain local if she wanted to but she doesn't want to make that adjustment. They just think we're the "easiest" option even though we're the only ones with kids.
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    Font - Aaron just yesterday told my MIL that it may not be the best idea to have her live with us and she completely lost it and called me selfish and a horrible wife. Now that entire side of the family is angry with us and my husband is under so much stress and is feeling a lot of guilt.
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    Font - I'm starting to second guess myself because I don't want him to secretly harbor resentment, since this is more my decision than his. AITA?
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    Rectangle - SJ2012 · 8 hr. ago Assisted living is what she needs. They have some really nice ones. Assisted living is a step down from nursing. She would have some independence still if shes capable but would have meals and nurses available 3.5k 3 Reply Share

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