BF Threatens To Break Up With GF IF Her Roommate Doesn't Stop Using Unisex Products

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    Font - Posted by u/throwrasmellyalater 10 hours ago AITA for using men's fragrances and bath products?
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    Font - I (23F) live with my roommate, "Sue" (24F). As background, although I identify as a cis woman I strongly prefer men's or unisex bath products and fragrances.
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    Font - I have this preference for a few reasons - first, I just don't really like smelling like a flower garden or fruit salad all day, and I find men's (or some unisex) scented products to smell more fresh/clean (like clean laundry) than anything.
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    Font - I don't douse myself in anything too strong, but will use such products in the shower as well as spritz on a little cologne afterwards or in the morning.
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    Font - Sue recently got a new boyfriend, "Jake" (about 25M). They have been going on dates and she has spent the night at his place several times but last night he spent the night at our place for the first time (which is fine, we don't have any restrictions on the other having overnight guests as long as everyone is respectful about noise).
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    Font - However, this morning I woke up to yelling, and when I came out to see what was going on I saw Jake storming out. Apparently Jake saw men's products in the shower, as well as smelled a trace of men's cologne, and accused Sue of cheating on him and seeing other guys.
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    Font - Sue apparently tried to explain they were my products, and he sort of accepted this explanation but said either the products go or he does because it's "too confusing to walk into my girlfriend's apartment and smell a man."
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    Font - So Sue wants me to get rid of all my scented products that I keep in my own home to keep Jake happy. She says if I don't want to use feminine stuff I can just get unscented products. I refused, saying that barring allergies I should be able to use the scents I like in the home I pay for (we split the rent 50/50).
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    Font - Sue cried and said I don't care about her and her relationship, that she hasn't had a boyfriend in a couple years and that it shouldn't be a big deal for me to switch out the scents to avoid making Jake upset.
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    Font - I responded that both she and Jake are being unreasonable here, Jake for flipping out and being demanding about a new girlfriend's apartment and Sue for demanding that I change a lifestyle thing that hasn't previously been an issue just because her boyfriend says so.
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    Font - So, AITA for not wanting to accommodate my roommate's boyfriend's insecurities by not using/wearing my preferred scents? I should add that Sue and I are cordial enough as roommates (aside from this incident) but we aren't friends who hang out socially.
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My roommate's new boyfriend freaked out that I (a cis woman) prefer men's or unisex bath products and other scented products and my roommate demanded that I get rid of them and switch to feminine or unscented products. I refused because I think it's a ridiculous request to make of a roommate who pays equally for the apartment. However, this might make me the AH because my roommate is really excited abou
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    Font - D CMBM20 · 9 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [20] I'm literally cracking up. He said that your products have to go or he is gone and your friend actually said that your products have to go and if they don't then you're not a good friend?! What in the absolute ridiculousness is going on here?! NTA. And Sue needs a new boyfriend and some self esteem.

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