Crazy Mother-In-Law Judges Son's Wife For Not Making Him Home-Cooked

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    Font - r/AmltheAsshole u/Emergency_You_1491 • 21h 2 1 1 AITA for trying to convince my daughter- in-law to start cooking?
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    Font - My son and his gf (both 29) aren't married but they've been together for 7 years now so l'll refer to her as my DIL. We have a great relationship and I'm very happy she's the one with my son. We had some issues in the past with her being too shy and reserved but it's all good now. They're both doctors and are currently at the last year of their residency before becoming specialists. That means that they work a lot and have a lot of responsibilities as they both enjoy academic research, so
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    Font - My DIL doesn't cook. I found out about it after they started living together and my son told me that they always ate at the hospital and on their off days they'd eat outside or order takeaway. I know for a fact that my DIL can cook well as she has helped me host family dinners and always brings something she's made, however she never cooks for them. I have tried telling her that eating home cooked meal is healthier but claims that the hospital food is also healthy and balanced and that ev
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    Font - I am a lawyer so I now what a busy schedule looks like but I still always found time to cook for my family 3 times a week. It's not the most enjoyable task but seeing my son and husband enjoy my meals was reward enough. That's why l'm trying to convince her to try cooking, especially since they told me they'll try for a baby next year after their exam. Last time she was rude to me, she told me to stop trying to micromanage her and mind my own business but I'm just trying to look out for t
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    Font - Edit: I guess l'm the AH. Pls don't twist my words, I never said she should cook for my son nor that my son needs to eat homemade meals. I just suggested it as a way to eat healthier and save money. As for why my son doesn't cook, I guess he never learnt. He never enjoyed it and I don't think he has the time to learn at the moment. My relationship with my DIL won't change because of that, we understand and appreciate each other despite our differences. But I appreciate all the comments. 6
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I tried to convince my DIL to start cooking and she and my son told me to mind my own business. I didn't mean to offend anyone, I meant well.
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    Rectangle - vandajoy · 21h Pooperintendant [63] 1 Award YTA - why aren't you trying to convince your son to cook? G Reply 4 6k ...
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    Font - JudgeJudAITA • 21h Pooperintendant [55] 30 Awards IN.F.O: What did your son say when you tried to convince him to start cooking? Because surely you did? Edit: YTA, but in response to your edit, allow me to explain why. People are not twisting your words; people are pointing out your double standards. Your words: Apparently her mother told her not to send her energy doing things she doesn't enjoy and she doesn't feel like cooking and washing the dishes after, so she just doesn't do it Also
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    Font - TahinilnMyVeins · 21h Certified Proctologist [22] Wow really? Difficult to count the ways YTA but let's try: 1. are you having the same "you should cook more" dialogue with your son? 2.I have known doctors and I've known lawyers. At this point in her life and career free time is like gold, and she definitely has it tougher than you likely ever had. 3. Her mother's advice about focusing on things she enjoys is perfect 4. she makes enough $ that it isn't an issue 5. she's 29 and knows what
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    Font - Impossible-Pause3788 · 21h Colo-rectal Surgeon [42] YTA. Their lives, their choices. If you care about your son getting home cooked meals that much, bring them to him yourself.
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    Rectangle - Nevali4 · 21h Partassipant [2] 2 Awards YTA mind your own business and also why don't you tell your son to cook??? Why is all the expectations on her?
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    Font - UnluckyDreamer1 • 21h Asshole Aficionado [13] YTA Why aren't you harassing your son about cooking? Why can't he be the one to cook their meals if it is so important that you need one of them to cook their meals? Men can cook too.

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