Fiancé's Family is Forcing This Bride to Ignore Her Cultural Norms at Her Own Wedding

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    Font - Posted by u/PuzzledSurround6810 16 hours ago 53 3 9 AITA for not wanting to wear a Western Wedding Dress at my wedding? I (25F) am set to marry my Fiance (26M) in the Fall of next year. My Fiance and his family are Catholic and very religious. Because of this I have agreed to a church wedding despite it not being my faith but the one sticking point for me is what i'm going to wear.
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    Font - I am Japanese while my Fiance is White, I don't care if he wears a tux like he wants to but I want to wear a Shiromuku for the actual wedding and change into a Iro-uchikake for the reception. My future MIL is uncomfortable with this and has told me if I want to wear a veil and dress I should just go the western style as it will fit in with the theme of the wedding better and not stick out too much. My Fiance has asked me if this is a sticking point for me and even suggested I just wear th
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    Font - O2 2 2 5 & 11 More Inalle Partassipant [4] ago NTA Firstly it is your wedding and you get to wear what you want. Secondly don't let them pull out the Catholic card. Being Catholic has nothing to do with it. I'm Catholic and I've been to several weddings with either one or both parties in non-western dress. Nobody cared. The bride didn't wear white or ivory - nobody cared. There is no Catholic Church law stating that the wedding dress must be western/white/etc. The only stipulation is that
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    Rectangle - Evendi Partassipant [3] Also "not stick out too much?" Uhhh it is her wedding day, she should be the centre of attention along with her fiance. What is wrong with the MIL *and the Fiance? NTA. 15.3k Reply Share longweeke nds What is wrong with the MIL? She racist. NTA 4 13.9k Reply Share
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    Organism - _CaesarAugustus_ · 14 hr. ago Sounds like good ol' fashion racism to me. 4.0k Reply Share SentientShamrock · 14 hr. ago And just Fashion Racism. 2.3k Reply Share _CaesarAugustus_ · 14 hr. ago Amen 380 Reply Share
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    Font - PoseyCircles · 16 hr. ago Asshole Enthusiast [6] INFO; Are you prepared to fight over every major holiday or event in your life? Because that's what's going to happen. Your own fiancé is asking you to compromise on your + wedding dresst. He is NOT going to have your back over Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, Children's names, Children's Birthdays etc. Think about this before you marry into this family. 10.8k Reply Share •.. arsenik-han · 15 hr. ago · edited 7 hr. ago They're trying to rep
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    Font - SordidMorbidCre edited 2 hr. ago Partassipant [4] 16 hr. ago NTA. Get ready for a marriage of "compromise" where you agree to keep the peace and he gets everything he wants. Edit: Thanks for the award! 5.3k Reply Share •.. Berly653 · 14 hr. ago All of it conveniently justified by his parents faith 1.6k Reply Share •.. SordidMorbidCreature · 14 hr. ago Partassipant [4] And his own faith, of course! Her own aspirations will be fine until they get in the way of the family structure. Her cult
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    Font - Medievalmoomin - 16 hr. ago 3 NTA there's a fundamental issue of mutual respect and compromise here. You have the right to wear the garments that you want to wear. What your future mother-in- law is saying when she says a western dress will 'fit' with the theme better and not 'stick out' is that your being Japanese is something that doesn't fit and sticks out in her mind. She is trying to minimise who you are. I'm sorry to be blunt, but it's very clear and that is just not ok. If you marr
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    Font - Kari-kateora· 16 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [44] NTA, and no one should control what you wear as the bride. It "doesn't fit the wedding theme"? It's your wedding. Who gets to choose the theme but you? They should make an effort to blend your cultures together for the wedding. I This is 50% your wedding, too, and they need to stop whitewashing you. Is your MIL usually racist? 4 1.1k G Reply Share
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    Font - Corfiz74 · 15 hr. ago · edited 14 hr. ago Partassipant [3] NTA , and please go to pre-marriage counseling with your fiancé - and NOT to a counselor from their church, but to a religiously and culturally neutral one. This issue raises a lot of red flags that you'd best settle before tying the knot. Like, how prominent will YOUR culture be for any children you raise? Will he/ MIL object to you raising them bilingual? Are they supposed to be raised as Catholic? 656 Reply Share ••. perfection
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    Product - theWet_Bandits · 15 hr. ago NTA. Also, from the headline did anyone assume it was going to be a cowboy wedding dress? 566 Reply Share Rantipolee · 15 hr. ago Glad to see Im not the only one. I found it very difficult to imagine a cowboy wedding outfit like... is it a cowboy hat with a veil? 151 Reply Share

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