New Mother Heavily Judged By Husband For Not Preparing His In-Laws A Meticulous Meal

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    Rectangle - Posted by u/Dinner101_ 10 hours ago 14 a8 3 17 O AITA for serving my husband's family Mac N Cheese for dinner?
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    Font - My husband (Asian) and I (american) welcomed our first born 4 weeks ago. The baby is health (Thank God) but I'm exhausted, haven't fixed my hair, barely able to shower and can not sleep.
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    Font - My husband's family had been pressuring us to visit to meet the baby. I tried to hold them off as much as I could but yesterday, I was surprised to find them standing on the porch. turns out hubby invited them for dinner. I was embarrassed and felt like I wasn't ready for visitors (judgemental ones at that ) cause the house was a M.E.S.S y'all.
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    Font - Anyways, my husband sat with them while I fed my son then later I asked my husband if we should order take out for dinner. He said "NO" because his parents would find this rude and unwelcoming. He suggested that I go inside the kitchen and prepare something, anything long as it's "homemade".
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    Font - I said fine then went and made some Mac N cheese. The reason I prepared this meal is because of how easy it is.
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    Font - Once I served the family, My husband's mom looked at me and was appalled. I noticed something was wrong. She asked if I really found it "appropriate" to serve her and the family Mac N cheese. I asked why not and she went on a rant about how disrespectful this was and that I clearly have no experience in what is right and wrong when it comes to hosting. I said excuse me?
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    Facial expression - Who said I signed up to host an expected visit from them and she took it as in I didn't want them there.
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    Font - her husband said they were just there to finally see the baby that I kept them from seeing for an entire month. that's a whole month of his life they "missed" out on. We had an argument and they decided to go home. My husband said that deciding to serve his family Mac N cheese was more offensive then serving them nothing at all.
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    Font - I told him I was too exhausted to cook their "traditional feasts" that I was forced to learn from his mom. He took offense and said that I was being mean and disrespectful towards not only his family but his culture. I went inside the bedroom to stay with my son. My husband stayed on the phone with his family for an hour then kept giving me the cold shoulder and refused to eat what I cook in support of his family.
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    Font - I understand how some guests might find it offensive especially his family. but I was just trying to make a quick homemade meal like my husband wanted. What's wrong with Mac N cheese?
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    Font - EDIT* Ok, So I'm seeing commenters here offering to come over for some Mac N cheese. It's amazing to hear that some people here would aporeciate this kind of meal. It kinda makes me feel relieved and reassures me that I didn't mess this up entirely.
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    Font - Come on in Y'all! I'll be more than happy to serve you some mac n cheese, some of y'all even offered to bring mashed potatoes and pizza. LOL would love to have y'all over some time.
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I could be AH for serving them Mac N cheese and offending them aftee they came into my home as guests.
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    Font - Zaphod_Beeblerox_ · 10 hr. ago · edited 6 hr. ago 9 3 6 This isn't a culture clash - these people are just AHs. There isn't an asian culture I'm aware of that doesn't practice some form of postpartum confinement where it is expected that the new mother do nothing other than rest and bond with the baby. IF they were so "traditional" they should have showed up with food, offered to clean the house, and run a load of laundry while they're at it. NTA btw. Edited to add: thanks for the awards
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    Font - · 10 X_ Missicat · 10 hr. Partassipant [1] lago NTA. Why on earth would your husband not tell you?? Also, does he need a map to the kitchen? Also..traditionally family bring food TO the new mom, not the other way around.
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    Font - Nervous_af35 · 10 hr. ago Partassipant [1] NTA. Tell them it's customary for THEM to bring YOU food.. that's the unspoken tradition.. someone has a baby or someone dies.. you bring the family food, or order them food, or give them gift cards for food.. the last thing you should be worried about is cooking dinner!

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