Mom Finds Daughter's Rude TikToks About Her, Gets Revenge By Cutting Off Internet

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    Font - AITA for disconnecting the Internet and not paying my daughters phone bill? I'm 39f, my daughter, Jane, is 20f. I am by no means a perfect mother, and my husband, Tom, isn't a perfect father but we did our best all her life and tried our best to make sure she never wanted for anything. I know exactly where we went wrong as parents, and I honestly think giving her unrestricted Internet access was the problem.
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    Font - Jane is offended by everything, and she claims a lot of things caused her trauma. One of the major things that caused her trauma, in her own words was my migraines, which I started to experience in my mid-20s. During a migraine of mine, Tom would either take Jane out for a few hours, or take her for a playdate, or to either set of grandparents. Jane claims this was traumatic because she was forced to separate from me, despite the fact she did not even know until she was in her teens. I ha
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    Font - Jane claims me going back to work part-time when she was 15, 3 days a week while she was in school was deeply traumatic because it meant a change in her routine. That change was that dinner wasn't on the table ready for her as soon as she got in the door and she had to wait an hour.
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    Font - Jane is unemployed. She's not in college and she does no housework, she won't even walk the dog she brought home without permission, and has decided the arguments it has caused between us all are also traumatic. She runs a tiktok account, which recently came up on my for you page, and like the terrible awful mother I am, I decided to snoop. Jane has over 10k followers, but most of the comments are genuinely making fun of her, calling her a snowflake, telling her to touch grass. She had a
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    Font - A lot of her posts with the nasty comments were about me and Tom, and how much we traumatised her over the years, by being awful terrible parents. I confronted Jane pretty much as soon as I got done snooping, and she blew up saying I had no right to call her out on it. She was saying that it was going in the traumabank (not her words but pretty much what she meant). I told her if she wants trauma, she very much needs a different kind of help.
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    Font - I don't know what got in to me, but I ended up unplugging the WiFi router, locked it in my bedroom and spent ages on the phone to our service provider cancelling her phone contract. She's crying all day, saying it's unfair to cut her off like this. My husband things I've gone too far and that Jane will just weaponise this against us, making our lives more miserable. AITA?
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    Font - mammaistired 11 hr. ago Nta. But she needs therapy... Obviously what you are describing is not abuse or traumatic. But she is looking for an excuse for not doing anything in her life. But, she needs a job and to help pay for things. But... She can't get a job without a phone or the internet... 1.6k Reply Share
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    Font - RedditDK2 10 hr. ago Professor Emeritass [... She can go to the library and apply online. 506 Reply
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    Font - NoHour31058 hr. ago She 100% can get a job without those things. I'm not old, but even I remember housephones. She WON'T get a job because she doesn't want to work hard enough to get a job. 80 Reply Share
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    Font - Dashcamkitty. 4 hr. ago If Jane wants to behave like a spoilt child then she should be treated like one. A very basic smart phone and the internet should only be accessible between 9am and 5pm, work hours to look for a job. Then the router should be switched off.
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    Font - King_Pronoun. 2 hr. ago Sounds like the daughter made a very dumb decision then. Just a quick question. At what point does someone claiming trauma take reaponsibility for ANY of ther actions? Ever? Ever ever?
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    Font - Nemini20 2 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Idk why everyone in reddit believes therapy will solve all issues. Therapy is hard work. Unless you engage with it and try to make it work, it won't work. It is a lot like physiotherapy. Unless you do the exercises you were given you aren't going to get better. That girl is not gonna engage in therapy. She lives to be a proffessional victim. It's a wasye of money.
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    Font - Excellent Care1859. 11 hr. ago Why does she still live with you? Why are you not requiring her to work or go to school or clean the house? I'm gonna say NTA in this situation, but you are the hole for the way you raised your daughter. 463 Reply Share
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    Font - TraumatisedKid12021 OP · 10 hr. ago We've spent years trying to get her to do something with her life, and each time we do, she says she's trying but hasn't found "her thing" yet. 239 Reply
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    Font - Excellent Care1859 10 hr. ago And yet you don't require work around the house? She should also be paying rent. Working doesn't have to be 'her thing' but she has to learn to pay bills. She should have LONG ago been paying her own cell phone bills and car bills.

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