Former High School Bully Gives Tone Deaf Apology 10 Years Later, Victim Gets Revenge by Sending it Around

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    Font - AITA for sharing screenshots of this girl's absurdly tone deaf apology for bullying me 10 years ago? I've been out of high school for a while, I'm 27 now. I randomly this long message on Insta from this girl from high school after I moved back to my hometown.
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    Font - And it was a wild message, she started by talking about all the ways she bullied me and why she did it. She also left out the actually stuff she did, like the real wild homophobia stuff, so from her words it looked like kinda petty childhood instead of crazy bigotry. It felt almost like covering to me?
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    Font - She apparently found religion again and was doing better now. Which honestly, was tone deaf to a whole other level, because TBH telling a queer person that you're safer to be around because you've gotten in with the Catholic Church? Bruh... She was talking about how she'd changed her ways and started a family and got married to a man from church? Ookay?
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    Font - So I blocked her and moved on. But the thing that I feel like I went too far on? Was that my niece asked advice on writing a good apology because she wanted to apologize to a girl had a falling out with.
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    Font - When we were texting about it, I mentioned having gotten a truly tone deaf apology and she wanted to see it so I sent her a screenshot. She laughed her off at how bad it was and asked if she could show some of her friends at school because they'd think it's funny. (Most of her friends are lgbt and some have experienced hate for it, so she thought they'd enjoy seeing someone like their bullies completely putting their foot in their mouth.
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    Font - I said sure why not. I didn't figure it would get back to her, from my niece's kid friends, and honestly that was dumb of me. I've lived in big cities for most of my 20s where you're pretty anonymous, and I forgot how small town gossip can be.
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    Font - So it got around, including to the mom of the girl that bullied me. Who called my mom, who was baffled and was like "Our daughters are 27, not 7" (love her)
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    Font - But then this girl's mom called me? She was angry her daughter had given a "heartfelt" apology and I had shared it around. I started to laugh and said "Uhh hold up. She owes me an apology for being homophobic as And tried to say that she's LESS she joined the CATHOLIC CHURCH?" /now that
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    Font - She got really snippy with me for talking bad about the church. So I hung up. But since then, I've heard from mutual acquaintances that the girl who bullied me is vague posting about me.
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    Font - I feel kinda conflicted. Because on one hand maybe this girl really wanted to apologize and was just really bad at it. And I still shared it around, to mock.
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    Font - But on the other, how did she not think for one second that maybe it's not the best way to make amends after being homophobic, to get involved with the catholic church? Like no girl you're not acting better, that's actually worse. AITA for sharing that message around?
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    Font - KingAlastor 43 min. ago NTA ofc, the irony here is some next level but understandable. Religious people don't understand the conflict and contradiction within their religion. She truly might think that she's on the path to salvation and is now a better person. However she think "better" is the same as "hateful" so yeah.
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    Font - cucumbermelancholy 10 min. ago ESH. YTA for acting like a child and sharing her apology knowing that it would be passed around and mocked. She's the AH for bullying you as a child, expecting you to accept her apology and then posting vague things about you in retaliation to you sharing her apology. Her moms an AH for meddling in her grown as child's affairs. The only person here who is NTA is your mom. She's the only person who seems to know how to handle things like an adult.
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    Font - stevenfrijoles. 1 min. ago YTA, for ridiculing someone for trying to be a better person or make amends. You are not an AH for blocking or not accepting the apology, though. Even if she's tone deaf, even if she is not going about it the way you would, even if she was a truly despicable person a decade ago. It sounds like she, unprompted, reached out, admitted to bullying you, and apologized?

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