'Lady, you are living under my roof': Entitled stepmother insults woman's deceased mother, sets off chain reaction that divides family

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    Font - 'She thinks I'm such a wild animal...and that I was not raised properly due to having a bad useless mother.'
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    Human body - r/r/BestofRedditorUpdates Posted by u/toohottooheavy 1 day ago I made my dad choose between me and his new family...
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    Font - I made my dad choose between me and his new family... - 3 April 2021 My father (52) and I (25f) along with my 3 yrs old cocker spaniel, Moxie, live in my mom's ancestral house that I inherited along with other assets when she died when I was 16 due to cancer. My father got married to his high school sweet heart a few months ago while he was on a trip with his friends. Apparently they've been in contact for almost 2 years now. I was shocked but it his life and if he's happy then I am okay
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    Font - First issue was the argument of me moving to a smaller room since my room has the second biggest closest out of all the rooms in the house. She needed it to store all her luxury bags and clothes etc. I said no. I told her it's been my room since I can remember and she's not making me move when it's MY house. My dad compromised with her that he'll give his side of the closet to her, while his things are in the other room. Second issue, the twins have this habit of barging in to people's ro
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    Font - would usually nip at when they get the chance. Fourth, all the family photos in the house were removed and put in the attic without my approval, that includes my grandparents', my great grandparents', my mother's family photo, my family photo, my baby pictures, etc. I took my time to put them all back to where they belonged. This happened a few times. Two days ago, Steph did it again but this time she replaced them with her pictures, the twins, and her family etc. Steph and I had a heated
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    Font - I was livid, that's an understatement. I told her that she can pack her things along with her twins because I am kicking her out. She said that I have no right to kick them out from her house. I told her and I quote "Lady, you are living under my roof. This is MY house. I inherited it from my mother and right now you, your twins, and your dogs are trespassing. Get out before I call the cops." My dad got home early that day after Steph told him what happened. I told him my side of the stor
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    Font - Did I do the right thing here? Making my dad choose between me and his new family? I literally gave them a chance and I've put up with so much of their so for the past few months. What she said about my mother was my breaking point. There's no way that she will disrespect her in the house where she grew up in, where I grew up in.
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    The OP added an update later on

    Font - Update in comments [QUICK UPDATE] So, just a quick update. I've read the comments and thank you for your support, I really do appreciate it. It does make it seem like I'm a pushover, well maybe I am, I just don't like confrontation, arguing, or anything that ends up fighting with someone. I'm just not that type of person. I will be changing the locks around the house as some of you suggested. Unfortunately, the gate in the property is old and rusted and it's been open for who knows how lo
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    She gave more details about why her father would choose to join this stepfamily.

    Font - Regarding my dad, he's a good man and he's worked hard to provide for me and my needs when my mom died. He's never asked me to tap on my money to help with the living expenses etc. He makes a decent amount of money as an engineer, like 6 figures, so I don't think he's after my money, I could be wrong though. I just think that he's blinded that someone still finds him attractive at his age, also didn't help how it was his high school sweetheart. I've also talked to him about his impromptu
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    OP and her fiance are thriving, plus Moxie the dog is doing better

    Font - Steph and her evil spawns are staying somewhere in town. No idea where and I don't care or want to find out. They have the money to take care of themselves and if they run out, they always have their luxury bags to sell. Honestly, who needs so much bag that they require a whole closet just to store them? If anyone's wondering where my relatives are.. well, my mom was an only child and grandparents left her everything. When my mom died, I got most of what she inherited, she left some to my
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    In the next update, the OP spoke to a lawyer to iron out the wrinkles of the will

    Font - [UPDATE] I made my dad choose between me and his new family... - 6 April 2021 Here's the update.. I spoke with my mother's previous lawyer, Amy (fake name) about the issue on Saturday and asked if there's a way to contest the will. She showed me the documents and my and I both signed an agreement (in summary) that we agree on what was left to us and that we will not be contesting it in the future. Mom for the win. She also advised to give them at least 30 days to find a place and move out
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    Font - Saturday night, I was supposed to have dinner with just my dad. Apparently a private discussion between father and daughter is a whole "family" affair. Steph and twins were there. To make it quick and to end the misery, I stated that I spoke with Amy regarding the house and other legal issues. I also added that they have 30 days to find a place and move out. Steph tried to object, but dad shut her down by saying that we can fix the issue and that we can all go to family therapy and that w
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    Font - Steph asked why I'm kicking him out of HIS house. I told her that I inherited MY house from my mother. She said that he told her that I live him, I guess she thought that I live with my dad in his house. Big misunderstanding on their part. Lexie argued that it's going to be hard to move since they're finishing up Spring semester and that finals are in a couple of weeks. I just smiled and said to better hurry and find a place. I left after that. Yesterday, Easter Sunday, I invited my boyfr
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    Font - Anyway, right now I'm finishing up on documenting everything that's worth over $500 in the house. I had a few people over to help document them. All locks have been changed. I only gave a copy to my bf (don't worry about my dad asking him about the key, he doesn't approve of him since he's "middle class"). I also hired professionals to install a security system around the house and property and I am scheduled to meet with someone regarding the fences and gate. I have not tapped into the f
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    Font - So, that's about it for now. Not really sure why dad is choosing to be with them than me, his own flesh and blood. I'll update this if there's any news or something stupid happens, but I've come to accept that for some unknown or unexplainable reason, they're more important to him than me. It's hard, since he's the only family I have left here, and I'm really not that close with his side of the family. So, once they move out, I am cutting contact with them. He's a grown man and he can dec
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    Font - [UPDATE] I made my dad choose between me and his new family... - 16 November 2021 My e-mail has been blowing up regarding this and a lot of people were asking how I'm doing, what happened to my dad etc. So, here's the final update... One of my high school friend is a real estate agent and I had her help find them a house nearby, about 15 minutes away after thinking through my decisions. I helped with the downpayment just to get them started, just so that they don't feel like I didn't help
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    Font - I don't know much about their history and I really don't want to find out, but as far as know and as far as I can remember, my mother was nothing but kind to everyone. She raised me to be that way but I guess she'll be disappointed in me after kicking them out, oh well. He changed his will and added them in, but I advised him not to tell them -- been watching too much crime stories for the months and I'm just looking out for him. He did say he was proud of my decisions and that I've grown
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    Font - After that whole ordeal and after making sure that the house is secure etc. I went on a vacation with my bf -- well now fiance -- to unwind and relax. The whole issue took a toll on my mental health and it was a struggle getting back to I guess... being normal? Being my usual self. Also, no wedding bells anytime soon, he's focused on his intern year up in NY pursuing his career in medicine -- wants to be a pediatrician. For all those wondering, he did sign a pre-nup, he was more than will
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    Font - I think that's about it. My dad and I aren't exactly back to our old relationship, I don't think we'll ever get back to it, but we're... hmm... civil about the situation. I've seen Steph and her daughters around town a few times, but I don't acknowledge them, why would I when they took my dad from me. So.. how do I close my previous thread? I'm not much of a redditor. Thank you all for your support and well wishes. It's been hard these past few months, but I am managing. Happy Holidays an
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    Commenters weighed in with sympathy for the OP, as well as their reactions about this crazy step family.

    Font - D chilltorrent 23 hr. ago "i didn't tell you about the wedding cause i wasn't sure how you'd react so instead i chose to do something that would guarantee a bad reaction from you" 723 Reply Share fox13fox 15 hr. ago "And set my new wife up to have zero respect for you. Then letting her act like it's her house and not doing anything about it, becouse it should just fix itself right?"
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    Font - Cyaaanure 23 hr. ago The dad being like "your bf is middle class I don't accept it". But marry a girl that need help from his daughter to have a roof under her head and have a lot of luxury bag but don't seems to have a lot of money. And now they are in the inneritence when the bf goes for the prenup. I wonder who finished with a golddigger and who not... Reply Share 2.9k Theunpolitical 23 hr. ago I was wondering the same thing. She helped them with a down payment too but they don't talk
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    Font - idontcook 23 hr. ago. edited 23 hr. ago My mom did this. Ruined our entire family relationship just to get married to an a with narcissistic kids. We went from a close family that would joke around and loved to spend time together to us kids never wanting to see her. Edit: I see a lot of comments saying that parents remarry because they're scared of being alone with no one to take care of them. That's interesting because I had plans to take care of her in her old age, but I don't anymore.
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    Font - nowwithextrasalt 23 hr. ago Scared of dying alone, and wanting someone to care for them in their old age.
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    Font - hey_nonny_mooses - 21 hr. ago Completely my opinion, but I think a lot of older men who divorce or are widowed have been neglecting or were never responsible for their own social networks so suddenly they are truly alone because the wife did all the friend/family maintenance. Then out of desperation they are willing to marry someone who cuts off the man's few tenuous relationships to make him wholly dependent on the new wife.
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    Font - Assiqtaq 22 hr. ago Society typically has said the children are the husband's property but they wife's family. And heaven forbid they live alone because for the most part they don't know how to take care of themselves. After all, that is the wife's duty. Just remember, men are not supposed to have feelings or form bonds. They are just supposed to own and take, and feel only ever anger or contentment. Not happiness or love or any of those other messy women feelings.
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    Font - small_root 23 hr. ago Get married without telling your only child then move the whole gang in to your late wife's house. Father is down horrendous.
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    Font - SkeleTourGuide. 22 hr. ago Don't forget that he is classist as well. Not liking OOPs fiancé for being middle class. I mean, come on, the dude is becoming a doctor.

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