‘I didn’t appreciate his nosiness’: Woman resents brother-in-law for making less money than her sister, berates him in front of niece

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    Font - DinaFelice 8 days ago edited 7 days ago Commander in Cheeks [211] I didn't appreciate his nosiness Wow, YTA for this alone. S2 Bill heard his niece getting some very one-sided advice. He chimed in with his perspective, which he is just as much entitled to as you are to yours and which is just as valuable to your niece as yours is. That's not nosiness, that's looking out for his niece, exactly the same thing you were doing
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    Font - Your ad hominem attack was completely uncalled for. And it's sad that with all your education, you haven't yet learned that money doesn't buy happiness...if it did, there wouldn't be so many miserable rich people I'm glad you are satisfied with your life. Truly. But as a single woman working for a non-profit at non-profit wages, I assure you there are many different ways to achieve a good life
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    Font - Edit: Thanks for the awards! One thing I want to point out is that many people in the comments are debating what jobs they would or would not do/what jobs they would or would not recommend to a young person/what jobs will or will not give a good ROI. And while that's all fascinating, it really gets further away from the original AITA question. Whether you tend to agree with OP's perspective or the BIL's perspective (personally, I think both are massively oversimplifying: it would be more
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    Font - Nickei88 8 days ago . 4.0k She didn't lie and the BIL was being nosy. His wife is providing the good life for him, so yeah he wasn't looking out for his niece. (S) Reply Share
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    Font - Erythronne 8 days ago NTA. Truth is indisputable. He used himself as an example of happiness when his happiness is based on the hard work of his wife. Sure money isn't everything but if he wasn't married to his wife his life would look very different than it does now. I'm not a fan of parents forcing kids into careers. Your niece is not you and the world she's growing up in is very different. Your ability to deal with your parents' expectations are different than hers. I'd caution you to
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    Font - MoonGladeLadyBug 8 days ago (M) unless she wants to live off of someone, she needs to make her own money Every child should grow up believing this. NTA for sharing this sentiment with your niece! Reply Share 2.1k
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    Font - mrs_dr_becker 8 days ago As a doctor, you should know more than anyone that people who aren't 100% passionate and dedicated to medicine have no business being physicians. This road is hard and it already is full of people who are burnt out, the physician suicide rate is extremely high, etc. I don't know why anyone would pressure anyone into it ESPECIALLY someone who knows about it first hand. 2.1k Reply Share
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    Font - Pair of Pearls 8 days ago YTA. Without all those teachers and tutors, where would you be? 1.5k Reply Share ...
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    Font - Marie1420 8 days ago edited 7 days ago BIL said that he "makes as much as a teacher and lives a good life". The "good life" that he lives is due to his wife's salary. That's what OP responded to. She was NOT opining on the importance of teachers. 1.3k Reply Share
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    Font - Low NaturalThinker 8 days ago S Did it ever occur to you that when he said he had a great life, he meant it in ways that had nothing to do with money? Just because you are totally materialistic and see everything in dollar signs that doesn't mean everyone else does. And I say this as someone who also had strict Asian parents; they tried to force me into a lucrative career, but I chose to be a teacher instead. Don't be so quick to dismiss teachers because if it wasn't for teachers and ever

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