'You need to decide who your girlfriend is': Oblivious Boyfriend Thinks He Can Have The Best Of Both Worlds By Juggling A Girlfriend & A Girl Friend

Author image for elina lee
elina lee
Jan 4, 2023 4:00 PM EST

We don't know what it is about men and the idea that having a best 'girl' friend is okay while being in a full-time committed relationship with another girl. Call us crazy, jealous, whatever - but we don't see how this could ever work out, even in a perfect world. One way or another, someone will get jealous, someone will get hurt, and hearts will definitely be broken.

And that's exactly what we have in store for y'all today. We recently stumbled upon the juiciest Reddit post where an oblivious boyfriend tells the story of how he's in a long-term relationship with a girl. The only problem is, his girlfriend is not the only girl in his life. Turns out, he has a girl bestie. We won't spoil any of the details for you because it's definitely worth the read but we do want to ask your opinion on it - do you think it's okay for a guy to have a best 'girl' friend while being in a committed relationship? 

Add as a preferred
source on Google
Advertisement
  • 01
    Font - Posted by u/throwRA678901 17 days ago 8 My girlfriend thinks my girl space friend is crossing boundaries.
    via u/throwRA678901
  • 02
    Font - I (19M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (20F) for over 3 years, I've known her for 5. I've known my other friend (20F) for around the same time. My friend, who'll we'll call Greta, and I, talk a lot. Greta sometimes asks for things like for me to buy her expensive clothes and food and a lot of stuff. She also begs me to hang out with her and we shared locations.
    via u/throwRA678901

    "Greta sometimes asks for things like for me to buy her expensive clothes and food and a lot of stuff. She also begs me to hang out with her and we shared locations." 

    Sir, we just have one question for you… are you good??? 

     

  • 03
    Organism - My girlfriend didn't mind this until one day, while looking in my Find My app (not to snoop, but to look for something important on the app), saw that I had Greta's location. My girlfriend (who we'll call Fran) questioned me and asked me why she had my location, and I said it was because she asked and I gave it. She said she felt uncomfortable so I stopped letting Greta have my location. I thought it was dumb, sure, but I did for her security.
    via u/throwRA678901
  • 04
    Font - A couple of days later, Greta questions why we stopped sharing locations. I state my girlfriend was uncomfortable. Greta said that Fran was insecure and that we couldn't have anything because of her, and thar Fran didn't like her and was controlling. I didn't back Fran up and agreed that I thought the decision was stupid. This was two weeks ago.
    via u/throwRA678901

    "Greta said that Fran was insecure and that we couldn't have anything because of her, and thar Fran didn't like her and was controlling. I didn't back Fran up and agreed that I thought the decision was stupid." 

    We hope Fran will come to her senses soon enough 

  • 05
    Font - However, today, Fran found out, and she was livid. She was pissed that I would basically let Greta say these things about her, especially when some of them weren't true. She also found it weird that Greta reacted badly to the location thing, especially when Greta expressed that she only does it for fun and that she doesn't care or check. She basically thinks now that Greta doesn't know her place as her friend and she doesn't know boundaries because she says Greta made up lies about her be
    via u/throwRA678901
  • 06
    Font - She stated that she needed a boyfriend who was going to defend her from people who say bad things about her. Fran says it's up to me who I'm friends with but she's extremely hurt I let Greta say all this stuff without backing her up. I do agree that now after talking that some of Greta's behavior is weird but I don't know what else to do.
    via u/throwRA678901
  • 07
    Font - MckittenMan 17 days ago edited 17 days ago Just why? • Greta sometimes asks for things like for me to buy her expensive clothes and food. • We share locations. . Valid: • My girlfriend questioned me and asked me why she had my location.
    via u/MckittenMan
  • 08
    Font - Bad: • Greta said that Fran was insecure and that we couldn't have anything because of her Wrong: • I didn't back Fran up and agreed that I thought the decision was stupid. Understandable: • Fran found out, and she was livid. She was pissed that I let Greta say these things about her, when some of them weren't true
    via u/MckittenMan
  • 09
    Font - Greta directly challenged your GF right here: I state my girlfriend was uncomfortable. Greta said that Fran was insecure and that we couldn't have anything because of her, and that Fran didn't like her and was controlling. The dynamics of your friendship with Greta is abnormal. Why do you buy her expensive shit? Why do you let her talk smack about your GF? Why are you sharing locations with her? I don't know if you're the weird one in this situation. But Greta sounds like an odd character
    via u/MckittenMan
  • 10
    Font - SeaOnions 17 days ago Dude you have two girlfriends. That's the problem You're treating someone that isn't your girlfriend, better than your girlfriend. And then siding with that person in arguments. You're choosing her over your girlfriend on many levels. This isn't cool. Set some boundaries or you're going to lose Fran. Also stop buying random girls stuff. If you don't reserve some things just for your partner, she's bound to feel betrayed and unimportant.
    via u/SeaOnions
  • 11
    Font - AMoosBoosh 17 days ago . Don't forget to have some agency yourself. It sounds a little like you've just been agreeing with whoever is in front of you.
    via u/AMoosBoos
  • 12
    Font - Mytuucents8819. 17 days ago Euwwwwww... you and Greta are gross.... If I were your GF I'd dump you ages ago... Greta doesn't need you to be her bf... she already has all the benefits of you BEING HER BF... wtf is buying her all that expensive shit for? Fran is waaaay too patient on you
    via u/Mytuucents8819

Tags

boyfriend jealous best friends relationships oblivious girlfriend dating long-term
Scroll Down For The Next Article