‘Sorry, Do I Know You?’ : Daughter Pettily Pretends Not to Recognize Biological Parents When They Try Reconnecting 9 Years After Abandoning Her on Uncle's Doorstep

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    Font - AITA for pretending not to recognize my parents when they tried to reconnect? I was raised mostly by my uncle and aunt. My older sister developed a serious illess when I was 6 and my parents decided that they couldn't care for both of us I guess, so they kind of unceremoniously dumped me at my grandparents and my uncle took me in. Like, didn't even explain to me what was going on, just "you're going to go visit gran for awhile" and never
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    Font - picked me back up. My grandparents and uncle explained it later, and they were pretty livid at my parents. I've seen my parents maybe 5 times since then and not at all for the last 9 years. I decided to stop having contact with them when I was 12 and since I was the only one reaching out all communication broke down. It turned out ok, I love my aunt and uncle and it turns out they can't have kids so they've always said I'm their miracle kid, I was just misrouted by the stork at first. I w
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    Font - that really expensive and difficult. I'm 21 now. My sister p sed away between thanksgiving and Christmas and I made a trip back from school for the funeral, but I stayed in the back and left before my bio parents could talk to me. They called my uncle to try to talk to me, but I said I didn't want to so he told them that I wasn't available at the moment. They finally caught up to me over Christmas when I went to midnight mass with my gran, and approached me and tried to give me a hug. I d
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    Font - recognize them, but I pretended not to and just backed off and said "Sorry, do I know you?" They said "We're your parents!" and I said "My parents are at home." and went and sat down with my gran. They sat behind us and I could just feel the stare, and on the way out they were like "You really don't recognize us?" And I said "Oh, are you my dad's brother? I think I remember you from when I was little." My gran thinks they deserved it trying to come back to me like nothing happened, but th
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    Font - were trying to do the right thing and how they'll always be my parents and I can't change that. Other family members think I was too harsh as they're grieving, but I don't think they should get a pass just because they remembered me now that my sister is gone.
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    Font - Qr Si_the_chef Partassipant [4] 12 hr. ago NTA. "Are you my Dad's brother" was pure class. 20.6k Reply Share WholeAd2742 - 12 hr. ago 6.7k Craptain [169] And it's technically correct with the adoption :P Reply Share
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    Font - Erebu593 6 hr. ago Yeah their line of "we'll always be you parents and you can't change that" well actually you can with this piece of paper. OP handled this perfectly NTA 657 Reply Share
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    Font - cjrecordvt 10 hr. ago OP dropped their , if they're having to ask. The part I really want to know is: this is a church service. How many of the kindly church ladies "couldn't help but overhear." (I'm personally hoping "all of them.") 1.9k Reply Share
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    Font - TheHorribleSong. 10 hr. ago Oh, they'll all know soon enough. They gossip. A lot. 612 Reply Share Interesting Try5190. 8 hr. ago OP's grandma is going to make sure it gets spread. She sounds like she is there for it. 574 Reply Share
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    Font - son-of-a-mother. 8 hr. ago "Can't change that we're your parents" I find that anyone who says something like this is usually pretty toxic. My toxic mother used to say something similar: "You only get one mother! You're going to miss me when I'm gone!" I was no contact with her for over 15 years; never missed her even once. I will never miss her. 390 Reply Share ...
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    Font - Electrical-Date-3951 10 hr. ago This post just made me sad all around. OP was abandoned and his parents deserve whatever OP dishes out. That said, I still have empathy for them since they just lost a kid. 126 Reply Share muse273 - 9 hr. ago Partassipant [1] They lost my sympathy when their first extensive contact after nearly a decade without speaking to their abandoned child was a long letter
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    Font - about how much the child they abandoned hurt them by not doing what they wanted. Not apologizing for abandoning them, just demanding the child make them feel better. It's the polar opposite of what a parent should be doing, especially ones with that much sh y behavior to make up for. 1.2k Reply Share

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