‘Let Me Show You How It’s Done’ : Patronizing Boyfriend Mansplains to His Girlfriend How to Take Job Interviews in Her Own Area of Expertise

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    Font - Posted by u/Fun-Construction-112 13 hours ago AITA for criticizing how my girlfriend takes job interviews? She basically interviews them, and I feel like she isn't taking it seriously
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    Font - My girlfriend is at a job she can't do remotely, and we're planning to move to another state together, so she's job hunting right now. Her first interview, she had a call with a top company who's recruiter had messaged her on LinkedIn. I was expecting her to treat it normally, but she spent an hour grilling the company on its engineering practices then withdrew her application.
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    Font - And the next few calls with companies she had, she basically grilled them all and decided against moving forward with four of the six. I told her around then, that I feel like she's making a mistake, being so picky, and she's gonna ruin her reputation in the industry if she's going around taking interviews and cutting the process off early.
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    Font - She said she wasn't making any enemies, hell, the companies she dropped had been emailing and calling constantly, wanting to bring her in for another interview or asking her to reconsider. If anything, she was a hotter commodity. I felt like she was probably still hurting her reputation long term, even if her little power play was working for a bit.
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    Font - She said it wasn't a power play, it was professional, she just didn't want to waste anyone's time. But the next interview I overheard started a big argument. One of her final two companies had her taking a Zoom interview and she was laughing it up with an interviewer and he was telling her this story about how he and his coworkers fell off a barge into the river working on a project. And she just was like "waiiit they had y'all
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    Font - doing that, not tied off to anything? Look as funny as that is, that's honestly kind of fi ed up they put y'all in d. nger like that - I'm honestly gonna have to withdraw my application" She got off the phone and said "Damn, people really tell on themselves if you just listen and smile, did you hear that sh t?" And I said that I thought she ended it a little prematurely, like didn't even ask if they'd changed anything there, just ended the call.
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    Font - I said it felt like she was trying to delay getting a new job, was she getting cold feet or something? She said no, this is literally how people at her level interview, she was serious about the interview process and she wasn't interested in walking into a sł show.
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    Font - I said that was BS, she was sabotaging herself on purpose basically haranguing the companies who want to hire her on the phone. And she was like "why do they keep coming back for more then? Like I'm critical but I'm not wrong and they know it." We had this big fight where she insisted that anyone wo was at her level of a career
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    Font - "interviewed" by interviewing companies to see whether they were worth their time, just as much as the other way around, and I said that was BS. She got mad I was telling her about her own career and said she knew it better AITA for arguing with my girlfriend about her interviews? I feel like she's dragging her feet, she says she's interviewing normally for her field.
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    Rectangle - Shieby1234 10 hr. ago edited 6 hr. ago 22 Asshole Aficionado [17] 2 YTA. Stop mansplaining how to interview for a job that you do not do and in a field you do not know. It isn't an issue until it becomes an issue. Yes, I am assuming OPs sex. ETA: Thank you for the awards kind people! 17.8k Reply Share
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    Font - Invisible_Target . 9 hr. ago The job field isn't even relevant. This is how literally any real professional would tell you to interview. Just because op doesn't know how to interview, doesn't mean his gf has cold feet lol 4.8k Reply Share alysl 8 hr. ago Right, an interview goes both ways. 1.8k Reply Share
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    Font - hmarie1768 hr. ago I don't think I've ever gone into an interview for my professional career and not had a list of questions to ask. I want to get a feel for if that place is a good fit or if I'm walking into a dumpster fire and you can't do that without grilling the interviewer. Reply Share 513
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    Font - Somebody_81 · 10 hr. ago Partassipant [2] Came here to say exactly this. Mansplaining is so wrong! OP YTA for certain. Reply Share Oh 803 Fantastic-Gift978 - 5 hr. ago It seems to be that he doesn't see her at the same level as these companies do. It's almost like OP "doesn't believe" that their gf is in such high demand. 64 Reply Share

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