Boyfriend With Commitment Issues Plays Victim On Reddit By Saying His Girlfriend Is Bullying Him Into Moving In Together

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    Font - Posted by u/HearsayHesaid 15 hours ago GF trying to bully me into her moving in.
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    Font - 34m 30F She doesn't like where she lives at her apartment because her neighbor below her has cameras facing out every window. She feels like she's watched and stalked.
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    Human body - That being said, because we've been dating for 9 months I should want to get her out of that situation and she should move in. I'm not ready for that, however, she insists that I'm being an asshole and that I must not really care for her well being.
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    Art - That we've dated long enough and that there's been enough time. She's threatening to break up with me over this and constantly badgering me and making every day a living hell. Throwing a huge tantrum and crying over all of this.
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    Font - Agreeable-Comedian24 15 hr. ago Do yourself a favor and break up with her first. She is showing you how she handles conflict. Could you really live like that forever. Plus once she's in your home you will never get her out. Run, don't walk.
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    Font - pixelsandfilm 13 hr. ago Big red flag if her threat is to breakup when she does not get her way.
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    Font - sucks4uyixingismyboo 11 hr. ago edited 11 hr. ago . Or, she is giving a very clear expectation of where she expects and wants the relationship to be at this stage and if he isn't prepared for that (his choice 100%), she is ready to leave. This very short statement by OP is from his POV and there are no other details from hers. Fundamental differences in expectations of where your relationship is going is a very fair reason to break up. It's not automatically used as a threat to manipulate
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    Font - Edited to add: her thinking about needing to move now would require an expensive lease break and make a more permanent decision about what's next. Which means deciding something as a single person and choosing to move forward with next living situation which would be for a long period of time as a single person. It's really not all the weird if he is adamant about not considering living together at this stage or giving clear answers as to when he would consider it. The need to move now an
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    Font - Griffintastic 11 hr. ago Yeah, agree. Sounds like OP twisted her words- she's upset because the relationship isn't at the stage she thought it was; and that's why she wants to end it. It's not blackmail.
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    Font - deram_scholzara 9 hr. ago If she's willing to break up over what is either her impatience or her own misunderstanding of their relationship progression, then she's created an ultimatum and isn't actually interested in him, she's interested in her projected idea of him. Nothing wrong with that, but it definitely isn't conducive to growing intimacy. Threatening others with your absence makes your absence desirable.
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    Font - throwawayformobile78 12 hr. ago Trust your gut 110% on this one. Made a similar mistake of letting my ex move in "because her roommates were mean to her". I soon found out why.
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    Font - HearsayHesaid OP. 12 hr. ago She abruptly moved out of her last place 6 months ago with a roommate because her roommate was "crazy" and tried to control her and that she couldn't be there anymore.
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    Font - crushmans 12 hr. ago 35 It sounds like you are dating someone with malignant narcissism. I had a similar experience. If I didn't bend over backwards for her, I didn't "love her enough." had problems with everyone and it wasn't her fault. Get out of there immediately. If you're going through hell in a relationship... Bail.
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    Font - GF trying to bully me into her moving in. 34m 30F She doesn't like where she lives at her apartment because her neighbor below her has cameras facing out every window. She feels like she's watched and stalked. That being said, because we've been dating for 9 months I should want to get her out of that situation and she should move in. I'm not ready for that, however, she insists that I'm being an a: shole and that I must not really care for her well being. That we've dated long enough and

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