'I'm not a shelter!': Homeless Boyfriend Tries To Manipulate His Girlfriend Into Letting Him Stay With Her By Threatening To Get Rid Of His Cat If She Doesn’t

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    Font - Posted by u/Cracked_Auto-maniac 14 hours ago AITA for not letting my homeless boyfriend move in with me?
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    Human body - Hi. I am 30/f who has been dating this guy 27/m for almost 3 years. We have been on again off again and honestly it's beginning to show that it's just not working.
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    Art - But we do love each other and he makes me feel safe - but we just both want different things. I have a good career, own my 2 bedroom condo, my car and etc. I want my partner to be my equal.
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    Font - He used to work on cars but then got fired for attitude problems and was a delivery driver up until Sept if last year. He was living rent free at a friends until that friend decided to sell the home and move out of state.
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    Font - My boyfriend and his cat are now living with his brother and his wife while not contributing to bills. Now My boyfriend is mad that I won't let him move in. But he can't contribute to the bills, and he doesn't like to clean and complains about it when I ask him to help me.
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    Font - He says "well if you don't want me at my lowest then you don't deserve me at my peak" He has no education, trade skills, or anything and just keeps saying he is going to join the military but he keeps getting rejected. He knows I love his cat and is now threatening to get rid of the cat if I don't let him move in.
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    Font - I've told him so many times that I believe in him but I refuse to allow him to sit around my home, eat my food, and do nothing. And before anyone asks why I don't just adopt the cat and leave the man. I can't take his cat bc I currently have 3 of my own and his has feline leukemia which is a serious condition and is contagious to other felines.
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    Font - Alternative-Ask2335 7 hr. ago Partassipant [1] INFO: how does he make you feel safe?? Your description of him makes be feel very uneasy and... unsafe. He's obviously unreliable, so I'm very curious about this.
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    Font - Cracked_Auto-maniac OP · 7 hr. ago Hi! So he used to be very attentive and we were inseparable back when he had his own apartment at the very beginning of dating. He was my best friend and we always enjoyed being around each other. The sex wasn't amazing but it wasn't bad. He is always my first call when I'm upset but for the last few months I've noticed that he doesn't really listen or engage with me when I'm upset. It makes the whole experience even more isolating especially when I was
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    Font - _addycole 6 hr. ago What are the positives of this relationship with him? What kind of future are you thinking of, with someone who has shown long term that he is unwilling to provide for himself?
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    Font - Cracked_Auto-maniac OP 6 hr. ago Sometimes when I'm with him it's like holding your favorite teddy bear as a kid, like nothing bad can happy as long as you have that comfort item - but like I've mentioned in some other comments - that isn't all the time now - I barely ever saw him before he needed a place to live - and when we do talk on the phone or text is bare minimum responses
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    Font - calling water 6 hr. ago Partassipant [1] That sounds like a feeling of comfort due to familiarity, which you can overcome with absence. When the benefit of a person in your life is something you liken to an inanimate object, it's past time to go.
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    Font - Splatterfilm 6 hr. ago They make people-sized teddy bears. And body-pillowcases with favorite characters printed on them. They still lay around all day doing nothing, but don't make messes or eat your food!
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    Font - ● pacingpilot 6 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Do you realized you used past tense to describe all his good qualities? I think you're holding on to the past, he's not who he presented himself to be in the beginning of the relationship.

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