'I told her to go pack a bag': Uncle kicks niece out of his house for a week to stay with her other uncle, gets roasted in the comments

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    Font - AITA for sending my niece to go live with her other uncle? My sil passed away 12 years and my brother passed away 4 years ago. They had a daughter who is 13 years old now. After my brother passed away both me and my sil's brother tried to adopt my niece but as my niece didn't have much of a relationship with her mom's family I was obviously the better option so I ended up adopting her.
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    Font - Recently my niece has got this very annoying habit that whenever we have a disagreement she says she would rather go an live with her other uncle. I know she doesn't mean it because 1. she barely knows her other uncle 2. I have a high paying job and I'm able to provide things that most people aren't able to provide so she is too spoiled to be able to live with anyone else
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    Font - about a week ago it happeed again she told me she wants to live with her other uncle. This time I told her to go pack a bag. She went to her room. An hour later I went to her room and asked her if she is ready. She said she didn't mean what she said and doesn't really want to go. I told her that she should go anyway, she'll stay for a week and then she can tell me if she wants to stay there or come back home. She insisted that she already knows where she wants to stay but I told her to ge
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    Font - After a week I called and asked if she wants to come home and she said yes however she hasn't been talking to me. My family heard what happened and now everyone is mad at me and thinks I'm an hole
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    Font - Edit: I decided to make an edit and let you know how things are going. We decided to have a conversation about it, I asked her how they treated her and she told me while her uncle was nice, her aunt made her feel unwelcome and she didn't feel good about being there and she doesn't want to live with them and she thinks I was a jerk for sending her even after she apologized. I apologized and told her that even if she wanted to live with them, I would still bring her back home because I love
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    Font - she has some conditions for forgiving me for example she continues to torture me by forcing me to binge watch riverdale with her. and she wants a daddy, daughter day and I'm guessing that I'm not going to like any of her plans based on the evil grin on her face, but I'll do whatever makes her happy. There were a lot of NTA votes. While I'm thankful I don't agree with them. I was definitely being an hole, she was just being a typical teenager.
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    Font - evhanne 22 hr. ago 2 . I had this upbringing. I was 'adopted' by relatives who would pull this "I don't have to keep any time I was you" a normal bratty adolescent. Now I have abandonment issues. YTA 16.9k Reply Share
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    Font - Spank_Cakes 22 hr. ago I know she doesn't mean it because 1. she barely knows her other uncle 2. I have a high paying job and I'm able to provide things that most people aren't able to provide so she is too spoiled to be able to live with anyone else YOU created this problem with her because YOU spoiled her instead of parenting her. YTA. 5.4k Reply Share
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    Font - sloanemlem 22 hr. ago. edited 22 hr. ago YTA . As the kid who got moved around a lot between divorced parents who used to say stuff like this, I get that saying what she said is But the fact that you so easily passed her off to the next person broke her trust. You need to apologize and earn that back. Edit to fix a misspelled word. 2.8k Reply Share
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    Font - sparkling467 22 hr. ago I'm torn here. On one hand I can see how other people get upset because they aren't in your shoes. On the other hand, when my daughter kept threatening to live with her dad after we divorced I finally wiped my tears and told her that if she really wanted to then we would get schools switched and she could. That was the last time I ever heard that from her and that was 2 years ago. She sees her dad 50/50 but I never had her actually go stay with him that wasn't cust
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    Font - Sirenaide 22 hr. ago NTA (go ahead and downvote) You have to stop spoiling your niece because she's going to run into trouble as an adult. Your niece needs to learn handle not getting her way or disagreements in a healthy manner. She can't always mess around because she will find out the hard way. Which she she did when you called her bluff and actually made her stay with her other uncle. 1.7k Reply Share
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    Font - Springloll 22 hr. ago NAH She's entering her teenage years, she's gonna throw an attitude, but that doesn't give her a get out of jail free card with abusing your feelings. What you did is tough love, whether or not the timing of it was good or if you jumped to quickly, I don't know, but young teens and adults at some point need to face the reality and consequences of their own words.
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    Font - Because of her past, has she been seeing a therapist? Usually when I meet children who threaten that they will run away or go live with someone else, it usually stems from deeper issues of abandonment or trust issues. 742 Reply Share
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    Font - Mrfleas 22 hr. ago NTA. She said something hurtful multiple times. It was a consequence of her own actions. One week is not abandonment. You told her parameters and told her you were coming back. You probably need to talk to her about this though. Tell her that her words hurt because you love her, want her and that this is her permanent home if she wants it. Ask her how it made her feel as well so she feels heard. Good luck. 439 Reply Share
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    Font - marklbetya 22 hr. ago YTA. She realized she spoke in anger. She has been through living so you can expect her to lash out now and again. You forced her to go stay for a week with people she "didn't have much of a relationship with" and seem surprised she's mad? You shouldn't have made her go there. Apologize for that. And stop spoiling her. 409 Reply Share
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    Font - angirrr 22 hr. ago NTA, It's not abandonment if he told her the parameters and allowed her back. Did you guys scream abandonment when your parents sent you to your grandparents house against your will? Being an orphan is tough but she knew she was wrong when she changed her mind after OP told her to pack a bag. I think repeatedly saying she wanted to move is beyond lashing out and needed to be addressed 270 Reply Share
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    Font - LilPajamas 22 hr. ago . YTA; this is a 13 year old who has been through some heavy stuff. If you think this is an "annoying habit" you haven't seen anything yet. Put yourself in her shoes, you're not arguing with a fully functioning adult that you can call out on their BS. Spoiling her because you can afford it doesn't compensate for the compassion and love she needs. 248 Reply Share
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    Font - TreadingLife1038 - 22 hr. ago . NTA - your niece was trying to manipulate you. Good for you for standing your ground. Maybe she'll think twice before pulling that nonsense again. 157 Reply Share

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