'Once a cheater always a cheater?': Woman Breaks Up With Boyfriend After She Finds Out He Cheated On His Previous Girlfriend, Sparks Up Debate On Whether It's Fair To Punish Him For The Past

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    Font - Posted by u/previouscheatingex 1 day ago I broke up with my bf after I learned he cheated on his ex
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    Font - Me (24F) and my ex (28M) have been together for 10 months now. Our relationship had been good so far, some light arguments here and there but nothing worth breaking up over.
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    Font - A little context is that I despise cheaters. I have not been cheated on but I have seen the aftermath of what happened to those close to me. It affected a huge aspect of their lives and it took them a long time to get over it.
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    Font - When we were still in the talking stage, I have already shown my strong dislike for cheating/cheaters. He told me he wasn't that kind of person and that he'll never do it to me. Fast forward from that time, he pursued me and eventually we got together. Sometimes, I would show him news about local celebrities and cheating scandals and I would trash talk the cheaters. He would mostly just keep quiet and agree with what I say.
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    Font - During our relationship, we shared our dating history to each other. It was nothing too serious just the basics of what happened, how long it was, their name, and why they broke up. I was pretty happy in the relationship at this time.
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    Font - It all went downhill two weeks ago when we were invited to his friend's party. They were catching up so I decided to get drinks for my then bf and I. When I was deciding what to get, I heard one of them say "Oh damn, Maya got married." There was another couple with me in the kitchen so I asked "Who's Maya?" I knew the name of his friends and their gfs so I was pretty surprised since they never mentioned a Maya before. They looked uncomfortable when I asked and told me to ask my bf for it
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    Font - When he drove me home, I decided to ask him who Maya was and told him I overheard them say her name. He got nervous and told me not to hate him after what he'll tell me. He also told me he didn't mean to keep this from me but he was scared of how I'll react to it. At this time, I got a bad feeling in my gut. He then proceeded to share how Maya was his ex gf who he cheated on. They were together for 3 years but 2 years into the relationship, he wanted to find some spice in his life so he c
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    Font - Obviously, I was dumbfounded. I told him I needed some time to think and for a whole week we had no contact. When I was ready to talk, I texted him to meet in a café we frequented in and I told him I was breaking up with him. He was very upset and begged me to rethink my decision. I was firm and so we split ways. Our mutual friends eventually knew of the breakup and days after, some of them called me AH because I was punishing him for a mistake he made years ago. They told me he planned t
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    Mammal - aterriblefriend0 - 22 hr. ago I think the big thing is that he lied about it. So like normally I'm not for breaking up with someone over their history but he lied about it
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    Font - aterriblefriend0 - 20 hr. ago Like I hate cheaters, but I've dated someone I knew cheated in the past. When I voiced that I disliked cheaters like third date in he disclosed it had happened once, he was deeply remorseful for it and considered it the biggest mistake in his life, explained the circumstances of how it happened and was extreemly open to answering any questions I asked. We had a good relationship after that until he decided he wanted to join the military and our life paths sep
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    Font - shamusfinnegan 14 hr. ago Devil's advocate: he knew how she would react if he was gonna be truthful. So it was damned if he did, damned if he didn't. I'm not excusing the omission/lie. He picked the option that would allow him to be with OP longer and he paid for it.
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    Font - sbgonebroke 13 hr. ago He shot himself in the foot. Like, he got her longer, and got to experience the more painful feeling of watching a woman you want to marry being unable to accept you, versus ripping off the band-aid from the jump.
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    Font - LRGinCharge 21 hr. ago . Ok, I was ready to be like "oh if he made one drunken mistake when he was young, that can be looked over..." but knowingly cheating on his gf for a YEAR???? That's sociopathic behavior. He was totally comfortable lying through his teeth to someone who trusted him every single day for a year. I'd be out, too.
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    Font - gerbileleventh 20 hr. ago . And then he went to date the girl he was cheating on his girlfriend with. Homeboy didn't even take time to be single and learn from his mistakes, he totally monkey branched. The fact that he can't be upfront about it without being afraid of how it reflects on himself tells me that he haven't moved on from that either.
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    Human body - anime-zingjohn 15 hr. ago I was told by some old timers "never tell anyone about yourself, it never ends well" everything
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    Font - redditrabbit13. 22 hr. ago I cheated on my ex. I was over him before I realised I was, and drunk at a party someone hit on me and I went with it. I told my ex the next day, and broke up with him. We eventually got back together, then broke up again. I was young, I used the cheating as an excuse to break up with him (I already wanted to), and in my family cheating is also 'normal'. The pain it caused him opened my eyes to what it really is and what it does to someone. It changed my entire

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