'They are trying to control you in your own house and they don't even pay rent': Entitled roommates insist on strict schedule

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    Blue - 'Both of my roommates were sitting on the couch glaring at me, demanding to know why I showered outside of schedule.'
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    Human body - Posted by u/Chocolate-Lab2520 14 hours ago r/AmItheA AITA for showering when my roommate was going to?
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    Font - I (f21) have been very fortunate and am living in my own house. Recently (in the last 2 weeks), my 2 suite-mates from college moved in with me until they can get on their feet. We all have pretty packed schedules as a result of our jobs and two of us being in grad school.
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    Font - Due to this, they created schedules for when each person will do certain things. For example, "Cassidy" will do her laundry on Monday mornings, while "Marie" will do hers on Tuesday mornings. My day to day agendas are less open than theirs, so they don't include me in these schedules but I've learned when they do what. We've found that keeping things on a steady rotation makes it easy for everyone to have access to appliances and whatever else when needed, so we kind of assigned ourselves
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    Font - I always shower in the mornings, "Cassidy" midday, and "Marie" in the evenings. This is because these are the times that our schedules open up. It sounds silly but it's really worked for us and reduced arguments so I'm fine with anything. Here's where the issue comes in: Last night, "Cassidy" and "Marie" attended a university banquet while I was in my evening classes. In my lab, we ended up doing dissections and I felt pretty gross afterwards so I planned to shower as soon as I got home.
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    Font - I was aware that "Marie" usually showers in the evenings, but they had both said they wouldn't be home until well after midnight. I got home at 8 and immediately took a shower (15 minutes max). When I got out, both of my roommates were sitting on the couch glaring at me demanding to know why I showered outside of schedule. I apologized several times and told them I wouldn't have showered if I knew they'd be home at that time. "Cassidy" let up and said she doesn't care and knew I wasn't tr
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    Font - AITA? *they don't pay rent and only have one bill each ETA: I texted our group chat when I arrived at home, so they were aware of my plans to shower and neither objected. Tiny UPDATE: After spending the majority of my night last night reading through everyone's comments, I've decided to do 2 things.
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    Font - Tiny UPDATE: After spending the majority of my night last night reading through everyone's comments, I've decided to do 2 things. 1. I'm going to draft a rent plan charging each of them $700 a month, which would mean that they're each pulling 1/3 of the weight when it comes to bills and utilities. This draft will also include specific statements about what I am free to do in my own home and how schedule conflicts will be resolved (a simple text should suffice, in my opinion. But I leave i
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    Rectangle - woodchuck33 · 14 hr. ago Enthusiast [9] As NTA. You had a reasonable belief that it wouldn't be a problem AND profusely apologized. Let them know that they can find their own place if it's such a big deal.
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    Font - kimtpring 5 hr. ago Absolutely. You are doing them an ENORMOUS, KING KONG kind of favor allowing them to live rent-free in your home. That carries an unspoken agreement that it's STILL YOUR HOUSE and they don't have any say about the using of said property and it's facilities. Just a little reminder that if they are so unhappy, they are free to find a better place where they won't have to wait 15 minutes for a shower AT A HOUSE THEY DON'T PAY RENT IN. Christ O Mighty, the entitlement is b
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    Font - crystallz2000 24 min. ago Partas ipant [1] Yeah... does OP need these people living in HER house? Because they're already treating it like theirs over something so small. I'd be having them move out before they start paying rent, or are there long enough to be established tenants.
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    Font - jrm1102 14 hr. ago Cptain [186] NTA - planning a chore schedule is fine but scheduling when you can shower is ridiculous. Also why arent they paying rent? They definitely shouldnt be telling you when you can shower. 679 Reply Share Chocolate-Lab2520 OP 14 hr. ago Honestly, I'm a bit of a pushover and let them move in without a rent agreement. They do buy groceries sometimes so that helps but otherwise I foot all the bills (except Wi-Fi, and cable)
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    Font - Positive-Amphibian 14 hr. ago NTA. What bizarre world does someone live in when waiting 15 minutes to shower in a place you don't own or pay rent for is worth even mentioning, let alone glaring at your (very generous) host for? Reply Share 164 CymruB 11 hr. ago Parta: pant [1] They don't even seem to pay for utilities either!
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    Font - 18-450 jussigoosey 13 hr. ago NTA and I think you should decide they've gotten back on their feet and can get tf out! 134 Reply Share Chocolate-Lab2520 OP 13 hr. ago I find this to be hilarious. Marie can stand up in her showers that she's so angry about, so why can't she stand when it comes to bills? I think maybe she needs to go.
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    Font - SheeScan 5 hr. ago NTA. They have no plans to get back on their feet. Get them out now! For sure they will beg to stay because they have nowhere to go, so keep in mind it is not your prooblem where they go. They just have to go.
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    Font - Chocolate-Lab2520 OP 13 hr. ago The original plan was for them to move out by June. After reading these comments, I don't think we will last this long.
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    Font - krankykitty 13 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [40] ΝΤΑ First, it is your house. Second, you had a valid reason to shower "out of schedule." Did they expect you to wait until morning to shower, while you were covered in god-knows-what? Third, you showered from approximately 8 pm to 8:15 pm. This should not have interfered with Marie's evening shower, other than to delay it for a few minutes, if she decided she wanted to shower at 8:05. Fourth, Marie told you she wouldn't be home until midnigh
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    Font - And what the heck were they doing home at 8:15, when they said they wouldn't be home until midnight? Why did they lie? Why did they ambush you as you left the shower? And it stands to reason that occasionally, someone will get dirty or sweaty and need to shower out of rotation. You did your due diligence-you thought they were at the banquet, they told you they wouldn't be home until midnight, it's not like you took a three hour long shower. A word of warning. There are three of you. Very
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    Font - Because I think they are trying to pull a power play on you. Marie especially needs to hear that if she is unhappy with the owner of the house taking a shower while Marie is out of the house, Marie is free to leave any time she chooses. Reply Share 62 Chocolate-Lab2520 OP 13 hr. ago I think they may have come home early intentionally, but of course they didn't explicitly state that. The banquet began at 6pm but at our university it's very common for those types of events to last for HOURS
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    Font - author124 14 hr. ago Enthusiast [7] As NTA they sound petty as fu especially Marie. Oh no, she had to wait 15 minutes for a shower! Still infinitely better than shared bathrooms in dorms, especially since she doesn't pay rent.
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    Font - Bdizz11 13 hr. ago NTA They are trying to control you in your own house and they don't even pay rent.
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    Font - CaughtInTheCameraEye 12 hr. ago I would kick them both out after that.
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    Font - Bogqueen1024 . 12 hr. ago NTA, but did Marie actually go shower after complaining? Or was she just being super petty? 45+ Reply Share Chocolate-Lab2520 OP 12 hr. ago I'm unsure if she ended up showering last night after the argument (I went straight to my room to get dressed, then left for work), but this morning she made sure to take a shower during my regular times. Which I guess is fair, but makes me think she didn't take one after yelling at me.
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    Font - Ghitit 14 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [23] ΝΤΑ They shouldn't get all snooty because you needed the shower during "their time" when they weren't even expected to be home. Beggars - choosers, etc.

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