AITA: ‘She’s not smart enough' : Father refuses to pay for daughter's education, calls University of Cambridge ‘foreign’, demands she study in 'America'

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Eleonora Bader
Mar 13, 2023 10:00 AM EDT

Getting into the University of Cambridge is a pretty big deal, but not everyone thinks so. This father holds quite a few misconceptions regarding what 'foreign' means, and also has a stigmatic stance against his own daughter. Taking to r/AITA, he asked Redditors if he was in the wrong for refusing to pay for his daughter's education, based on the grounds that she 'wasn't as bright as her brother' and because the University she got into was 'foreign'.

Imagine calling one of the best Universities in the world, based in the UK, 'foreign'. The commenters were quick to point out that he better educate himself, as the only one lacking in intelligence is him. Scroll down to read about the absurdity. For more stories like this, check out this Karen who thought she could dictate whether a hotel employee could drink off the clock or not. People are insane, case closed.

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    Cloud - AITA for not wanting to pay for my daughter's education only under certain conditions
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    Font - Posted by u/aitadaughtercollege 10 hours ago AITA for not wanting to pay for my daughter's education only under certain conditions.
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    Font - I 52(M) have two kids, a son (26M) and a daughter (19F). When my son went to college, I thought college would open up opportunities and he was supposed to major in computer science but failed a bunch of classes and changed his major to something less lucrative. He went out of state and I now realize that this was a poor investment.
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    Font - I didn't want to make the same mistakes with my daughter. She also wants to do computer science and last year she got into a foreign university in the UK which she says is like Stanford over there (Cambridge).
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    Font - I didn't want the same thing to happen so I told her I can't help her pay for that and to go to a local state university or community college than transfer. She ended up not going and deferred her admission to see if this year she can get a loan (which I'm not for, but it is her life) or if she can get a scholarship for a better American college.
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    Font - She seems a little annoyed at me since effectively her brother got more money but that was before I knew better. I can afford the same for her but it would be tighter now. and I don't want the same thing to happen especially if it would be for a foreign degree. I suspect the same could happen to her since her brother was typically the brighter one while she just pushed herself the last years of school.
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    Font - DoYou HaveAnyIdea16 · 10 hr. ago YTA. A "foreign degree"? Let's talk about that because incredibly, you seem to not know what Cambridge is. Cambridge University, UK. WORLD RANKING? #2. Just after MIT.
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    Font - You are punishing your daughter for what you view as you son's mistakes when you should be over the moon that she got into Cambridge. Give her at least as much as you gave your son. And while you're at it, maybe give her a cake saying "Congratulations". Reply Share 10.6k
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    Font - Eris-Ares 10 hr. ago Partassipant [2] You made her give up Cambridge when you could've given her the money as you did with her brother ?! And you're even asking if YTA? Ofc YTA !!
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    Font - And even saying your older kid was the brighter one and she doesn't deserve the same amount of money because it's sure she's gonna fail... omg what an ah! 4.8k Reply Share
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    Font - Technical-Soup1595 - 9 hr. ago Yeah.... no wonder the daughter wants to go across the ocean to get away from this guy...... 799 Reply Share
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    Font - Disastrous-Assist-90 · 10 hr. ago Partassipant [1] Such a YTA So you're punishing her because of his poor choices? Also, you're essentially saying she's the dumber one? I'm guessing she's more than "a little annoyed" with you.
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    Font - Lastly, people who push themselves frequently fair better than those born "brighter". 1.6k Reply Share Temporary_Bee_2147 · 9 hr. ago Partassipant [1] She can't even be dumber and still have gotten into Cambridge! 488 Reply Share
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    Font - Chemical-Clue-5938 10 hr. ago YTA. You are punishing your daughter for your son's mistake. It looks like you're not aware of what an amazing honor and privilege it is for your daughter to get into Cambridge. Also, why weren't these choices discussed before? You knew she was a senior in high school. 1.1k Reply Share
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    Font - TheKingpling 10 hr. ago le Aficionado [10] A YTA Cambridge is one of the best universities in the world. A degree from there is better than 90% of others.
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    Font - But I don't think that is the issue here. You are punishing your daughter for what your son did. That is fundamentally wrong. If it was a matter of being able to afford it then you are in the wrong... but fundamentally it would be cheaper for her to go the UK uni then an American one. As we don't have 100,000$ fees like you lot do.
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    Font - Even with the cost of living you could save money from her going to uni in the UK. Think is the money you are saving worth forever tainting your relationship with your daughter. Reply Share 661
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    Font - PeepholeRodeo 9 hr. ago Your daughter got into Cambridge and you want her to go to a community college instead, all because her brother screwed up? YTA. Reply Share 441
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    Font - WorkingMomAndWife - 9 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [22] YOUR DAUGHTER GOT IN TO FI CAMBRIDGE AND YOU'RE REFUSING TO HELP PAY????? YTA!!! Why are you acting like you're so smart when you don't even understand how impressive that accomplishment is?? 284 Reply Share NG
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    Font - SoIFeltDizzy 10 hr. ago edited 10 hr. ago A e Aficionado [11] YTA You sound to be making a worse mistake this time. She got into one of the best universities in the world and you are worried she is a bad investment? Cambridge is arguably much better than Stanford.
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    Font - Seriously this cannot be real. But if it is- perhaps bet the same amount on her as you did on her son. or in these hard economic times talk to her to arrange what help you can? You describe her as a hard worker so she sounds like a good investment compared to your son. It is a good she is so sensible she did not drop her plan.
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