Update: 'AITA for calling my GF out?': Boyfriend snitches on his GF's eating habits in front of her strictly vegan friend

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Apr 12, 2023 3:00 PM EDT

It's surprising the lengths people will go to impress someone in their social circle. When you want to fit in with a social group, it's easy to begin dressing like them or talking like them as a result of spending so much time together. This woman, Michaela, did something similar when she met her coworker Sheila, who's a strict vegan. Michaela then also began to have a "vegan lifestyle," and started posting about it on social media. However, her boyfriend, who wrote the post, noticed that Michaela is still eating animal products like cheese and milk — so she's a vegetarian, but not really keeping to veganism. However, that's really bugging the OP to see his GF act like a hypocrite. He chose a really inopportune time to call her out! 

Up next, this husband lied to his wife for 13 years about a candy she loved — and now that she found out his secret, she's really annoyed. 

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    Human - 'You didn't snitch, you called her on her BS':
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    Font - • Posted by u/nonVEGANTHROWawayyy 13 hours ago r/AmItheAs AITA for calling my gf out on not being a vegan in front of her friend? 2 My girlfriend has a vegetarian diet. For as long as I've known her, she's been a strict vegetarian: no meat at all; if we go to a restaurant and there's complimentary soup, she doesn't hesitate to flat out ask if there are meat products in the broth.
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    Font - Back in December, she met someone new where she works, a younger girl by the name of Sheila. Sheila is a vegan, and doesn't even want to be around a place where cheese might exist. She's been chatting with my girlfriend, Michaela, frequently, and Michaela apparently has been telling Sheila and their other workmates that Michaela is a vegan. She's gone so far as to put on Facebook ridiculous posts such as, "loving my vegan lifestyle!" "Salads for lunch, being a vegan is great!"
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    Font - The whole time she's making these comments, I'll see her eating cheese, drinking milk, etc. She's still keeping with her vegetarian diet, but is definitely not a vegan by any stretch of the term.
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    Font - I've pretty much tried to ignore it even though it's been a little annoying hearing her talk about it, but I snapped yesterday at our Easter dinner, which Michaela insisted be held at our home. Michaela invited Sheila (who I honestly didn't like, because when she was looking at the dinner spread, she made comments about Michaela putting up with so many animal products), and I'd had enough.
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    Font - So when Michaela and Sheila struck up a conversation in which Sheila proceeded to insult our food once again, I interrupted, saying that, "it really isn't a problem for Michaela, given that she's not a vegan. In fact, I watched her eat an omelet just this morning."
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    Font - Michaela began to deny it and claim that I was lying, but Sheila looked a little upset that Michaela had been "bullshing her". (It's genuinely lost on me how a person can get upset over their friend eating an egg, but then again, I am not on a diet.) Long story short, Sheila is mad at Michaela for faking veganism for months, and now Michaela is upset with me because I "should have kept my mouth shut". AITA for calling out my girlfriend on not being a vegan?
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    Font - Brief update: I talked to Michaela today and asked her what was going on and why she felt the need to lie about it. I told her I was sorry for upsetting her and causing an uncomfortable situation between her and a friend, and she told me that she genuinely liked speaking to Sheila, and while she hadn't expected her lie to get as far as it did, she wanted to gain a bond/friendship with Sheila. Apparently though, Sheila hasn't spoken to her outside of work related topics.
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    Font - CADD NewAnonima234 13 hr. ago. The edited 5 hr. ago Partas pant [1] . This may be unpopular, but NTA. The "snitch"ing didn't come from nowhere. It was pre-empted by Sheila's snobbery and Micahela's lies. That being said, OP, you may still be getting "stitches". Sounds like Michaela's more Sheila's gf than yours as she is more upset at you telling the truth to her, than defending her insults of you/your food. I won't be surprised if the relationship doesn't last.....no offense.
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    Font - Boeing367-80-9 hr. ago Partas_ipant [4] Michaela's behavior is bizarre. Are those the qualities you want in a partner, OP?
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    Font - asakadeva 7 hr. ago Really though, OP needs to take a step back and think about why Michaela is trying so hard to impress Sheila. ΝΤΑ
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    Font - madelinegumbo. 2 hr. ago Commander in Cheeks [221] I like how even when the situation is a non-vegan choosing to repeatedly lie about being vegan and then even tries to throw her boyfriend under the bus to impress a co- worker, the vegan is somehow to blame.
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    Font - Apart Foundation1702 2 hr. ago Partas_.pant [1] The vegan is to blame for her actions not Micheala's. She was rude and disrespectful to OP in his own house about his food!
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    Font - F yourslipper 2 hr. ago Going to someone's house and insulting their food is rude as f. I'd question my wife if she was trying to impress someone like this.
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    Font - chichi98986 6 hr. ago I have to say, Op has great patience to handle her girlfriends fake life. But I like how he dropped all the cards when the "friend" was insulting his cooking. Just because someone leads a certain life- style doesn't mean you get to insult them flat out, just don't come. NTA
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    Font - Wayward Princess1025 Supreme Court Just-a [149] 13 hr. ago NTA. This girl came to your house and insulted your food. Your GF has been lying to her and making herself look like a victim. They both suck.
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    Font - bearamongus19. 13 hr. ago e Enthusiast [7] A NTA. You didn't snitch, you called her on her bulls***.
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    Font - 003b6f 12 hr. ago As Enthusiast [6] I'm not going to post a judgment. I am going to ask OP this though: If your girlfriend was so casually lying about that daily, what else is/has she been lying about?
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    Font - Carl__Gordon Jenkins 10 hr. ago And why didn't OP confront her about this before the Easter blowup? If I found out my SO was casually lying, I would absolutely call them on their bulls in a one-on-one conversation.
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    Font - Cornwalleous_Dankson 12 hr. ago Partas pant [1] A hypocrite is a hypocrite, and their choices open them up to being called out, happens all the time. ΝΤΑ
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    Font - dripless_cactus . 2 hr. ago Partas ant [2] I don't really see how pointing out that there's a lot of non- vegan food at a house in which a supposed vegan lives is insulting. I'm a vegetarian and I'd also be disappointed to come to a gathering I was invited to at a fellow vegetarian's home only to find that there wasn't much I could eat. It'd be awkward af. I really don't see how Sheila is the villain in this story.
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    Font - Sandpipertales 13 hr. ago ESH - you should've handled that better. Calling her out on her immature actions in front of someone is your own immature action here. There were plenty of opportunities to have that discussion in private but you chose the dramatic route. But, your gf actions were more of a red flag. Going as far as posting on social and lying to someone so intently is concerning. It was at bare minimum it was immature and at worst, more malicious. Either way, how did she think s
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    Font - Dark_Mode_Nose_Wind 13 hr. ago Enthusiast [7] A: ESH - Your girlfriend for lying, Sheila for being overly judgmental, and you for snitching.
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    Font - Prose Paragraph 10 hr. ago Partas pant [2] NTA- your girlfriend is a liar. You pointed that out.
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