'She's paid to be nice to you' : Man Leaves His Number on Restaurant Bill, Reddit Scolds Him for Hitting on Service Workers

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    Font - Posted by u/throwawaywaitressguy 14 hours ago AITA for leaving my number on the bill?
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    Font - So, I (26M) went out for dinner last night with a few friends. We were at this pretty nice restaurant and our waitress (F, early 20s) caught my eye as soon as we sat down. I thought she was really cute and had a great sense of style. Her outfit was really unique and just seemed to suit her perfectly.
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    Font - Anyway, throughout the night, she was really friendly and attentive, and I couldn't help but keep noticing her. After a while, I decided to go for it and compliment her on her outfit. I said something like, "Hey, I just wanted to say that you look really cute tonight and your outfit is amazing. It suits you so well." She seemed to take the compliment well, smiling and thanking me.
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    Font - Later on, as we were finishing up our meal, I decided to write my number on the receipt and leave it for her, just in case she was interested in talking more or even going on a date. When I handed her the receipt, I told her, "I hope this isn't too forward, but I've really enjoyed talking to you tonight and thought you might like to get in touch if you're interested."
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    Font - She took the receipt and thanked me, but I noticed her smile seemed a bit forced this time. I figured maybe she wasn't interested, and that was fine. I didn't want to push her or make her feel uncomfortable.
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    Font - After we left the restaurant, my friends told me that what I did was inappropriate and that I shouldn't have put her on the spot like that at her workplace. They said it's not okay to hit on service workers who are just trying to do their job. I genuinely didn't mean any harm, and I thought I was being polite and respectful about it.
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    Font - MSTater85 14 hr. ago · edited 5 hr. agos Partassipant [1] ● throughout the night, she was really friendly and attentive It is her JOB to be friendly and attentive. She seemed to take the compliment well, smiling and thanking me. You are a customer, what's she supposed to do? Throw a drink in your face?
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    Font - YTA whether you meant to be or not. Please do not go back to apologize or otherwise contact her, you've already put her in a really uncomfortable spot. Edit: Bolding Not in Please do not. 4 11.0k Reply Share
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    Font - ArwensRose 12 hr. ago. edited 12 hr. ago . OP is the reason I tell my baristas to give a fake name when asked. And why servers tell other servers at r/talesfromyourserver to buy a fake wedding ring to wear during work. Nothing like making your server/barista/bartender feel uncomfortable at their job! YTA
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    Font - BresciaE 8 hr. ago Partassipant [2] . I had the reverse happen. Early 20's male server gave me a To go container full of the Andes mints and his phone number...never called him but I was pretty amused.
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    Font - Chemical-Witness8892 11 hr. ago I lied so many times about having a boyfriend to customers because it was just easier than saying "no" especially as a petite 20f working with one other equally petite 17f.
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    Font - lilsatan 10 hr. ago I was just thinking of putting a ring on my finger for my bartending job. OP YTA 100%
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    Font - Ok_Refrigerator1857 10 hr. ago This line killed me too 'caught my eye'. Dude I caught my dad and his old mate doing this to a server. They said women love compliments. She did not love it. The whole cafe was tense with how unpleasant it was. You didn't talk to her, there was no conversation, she made the required chat for serving at her job. YTA
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    Font - CrystalQueen3000 14 hr. ago Prime Ministurd [410] YTA She was nice to you because that's her job and her service impacts her tips. 4 1.9k 1.9k Reply Share
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    Font - KronkLaSworda 14 hr. ago Supreme Court Just-ass [126] YTA Don't hit on the workers at restaurants. They are just trying to get through their day. ↑ 1.6k Reply Share

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