'Sister in law stole our baby name. Now she regrets it': Entitled SIL burns bridges over name dispute

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
May 14, 2023 11:00 AM EDT

While they certainly aren't the first family to squabble over baby names, this SIL sounds especially toxic to her other family members. 

People oftentimes feel strongly about the names they choose for their babies. After all, a name is the first thing someone knows about you, and it sticks with you for life. Some siblings choose the same name, fall in love with it, and fight about the name with their family, but not quite to the extent that this person did, as they shared in a post to r/EntitledPeople. 

Once you read through this lengthy post, you'll understand why this person had to go low or no contact with their SIL. Some people are just hard to get along with. Especially when they take something so minor as a shared baby name so seriously, it's time to cut them out of your life. As the OP wrote in the end of the post, "Not our monkeys, not our circus."

Then, read all about these neighbors who are bickering over everything from pets to missing packages. 

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    Gesture - 'I cannot even imagine the level of petty you've been dealing with from a woman who would pull this."
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    Font - r/r/Entitled People Posted by u/DadWhoStood His Ground 21117 11 Entitled sister in law stole our baby name. Now she regrets it
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    Font - Hey y'all. Long time lurker and all that. This is a throwaway account. To cut to the chase my wife and I spent four years trying to get pregnant before the wrong side of 35. We are currently 33 respectively now and are blessed with a wonderful infant son. My wife has a younger half sister that she has been LC with for some time. The woman is entitled and toxic, and also her mother's golden child. We've refused to let her or my MIL in the house since they both blatantly tried to make off w
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    Font - My wife and I had nearly given up trying to conceive when it suddenly happened. And we were ecstatic. After we found out we were having a boy, we started looking into names. I ended up suggesting the name of my Scottish grandfather, and my wife loved it. So that's the name we settled on. But we made the mistake of posting about it on social media. Well no surprise to the stereotype in this mess, my SIL was pregnant too. And was months further along than my wife and also having a boy. She
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    Font - We realized that drama was exactly what my SIL wanted. And she thought that by taking the name for herself, we'd not be able to use it. I laughed and told her that while what she did was dirty and underhanded, we would keep our chosen name. And she could just deal with it whether she decides to go through with copying us or not.
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    Font - Well my SIL's baby-daddy called me and said I was an unreasonable di for still wanting to use the name after SIL claimed it. I said she claimed nothing. And since we couldn't own the name, then neither could they. Before he ended the call he threatened me by saying I'd be sorry if we didn't change the name. Then he hung up before I could respond.
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    Font - Months later SIL has a healthy baby boy and names him my grandfather's name. We did not show up for the birth. Both because of the pandemic, and because we simply didn't care to be there. SIL called us wanting congratulations. But we told her we simply didn't care. And that if she was still insisting we change our baby's name, then she'd be in for some big disappointment because we were not. SIL demanded I put my wife on the phone. But it was already on speaker and my wife spoke up and sa
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    Font - Two months later we were blessed with our son. He came out perfect, and we named him just as we'd intended. Well no surprise my SIL called us a few days after the birth to scream in our ears that we copied her son's name. I pointed out she was the real copycat since she had no familial ties to the name and we did. And anyone who looks at our family trees could see that. Then my wife spoke and said after the attempted theft of her grandmother's jewelry, she no longer considered SIL her sis
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    Font - For months we were bombarded with messages and emails from my wife's side of the family. Half were on our side after finding out the whole story, the other half were not. And SIL's baby-daddy true to his word showed up at my door to "Make me sorry". I'm not sure what his plan was. But I pretty much towered over him. I'm 6'1 and well built from regular exercise and three trips to the gym a week. He on the other hand was very skinny and about 5'6 with a babyface that was badly hidden by a s
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    Font - SIL and MIL called us from a different number to yell at me for making SIL's baby-daddy feel emasculated. I didn't even threaten the man. Just told him to leave and not come back. And if he didn't want to feel emasculated, then he shouldn't have come knocking. Then they tried to bring up the issue of the baby name again and demanded we change our son's name as "He's so young. So there's still plenty of time to do it!". "
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    Font - That was NC again for a little while till SIL called us again some time later to bitterly tell us we'd won. She and her Baby-Daddy got in a huge fight and he left. He was apparently very sore that SIL didn't let him even give their son a middle name from his family. And he said he was sick of the bulls and wanted his son named after him and not some guy he wasn't even related to. SIL finally caved and they got the boy's birth certificate reissued with a completely new name. Which cost SIL
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    Font - Since then we've been NC with SIL and MIL. But my FIL who's a very nice man and divorced from MIL for obvious reasons would come by often and loves his grandson. From what he and other relatives told us the situation between SIL and her Baby-Daddy was pretty tumultuous. But we don't care. Not our monkeys, not our circus.
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    Font - ▸ [deleted] This was very satisfying to read. SIL sounds awful.
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    Font - DadWhoStood HisGround OP She is a completely spoiled, toxic and petty woman. Her cousin and mother too. So we want nothing to do with the lot of them
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    Font - + [deleted] Sounds like y'all are better for cutting them out. They fted with the wrong ones and lost.
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    Font - DadWhoStood His Ground OP Pretty much. But it never needed to be a competition to begin with.
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    Font - unprepared4gcoco Wait, wait, wait... hold up so you mean to tell me this man threatened you over the phone and pulled up to your house over a name he didn't like or want for his son? Defended your bat crazy sil for a name he didn't want or wasn't consulted on? Huh?
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    Font - brerosie33 Holy cow what a sh show. Going no contact with these people is most definitely the best thing you could do for yourselves and your baby. Congratulations on your new baby.
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    Font - atomskeater I cannot even imagine the level of petty you've been dealing with from a woman who would pull this. She created and participated in her own stupid game even though both of y'all made it clear you weren't interested in playing, then wants you to pay for the consequences of her actions? Lordy. Congrats on your son and cutting the crazy out of your life.
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