‘He wants me to quit’: Woman’s fiancé is already married and wants her unemployed

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    Product - My (already married) fiance wants me to quit my job
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    Font - I am engaged to a married man who still stays with his wife and kids. He hasn't filed for divorce yet. He also wants me to quit my job because we work together. What should I do? 8 Answer 15 Follow Request i Details 000 More
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    Font - Sherry Jones. Follow Sports ticket writer. Jan 15 X Give him back his ring because he is not your fiance, he is her husband. Find yourself someone else, get a dog, join a gym or take cooking or automotive classes. Move on with your life and stop waiting for him to leave his wife. Knew a rich man's lover once. He kept telling her that when his wife passed away( she had a heart condition) he would marry her. She wasted over a decade of her life waiting for him. When his wife died, he marrie
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    Font - Dawn Furnish. Follow Former Legal Advocate at Domestic Violence Shelters (1990-2018) Jan 15 Don't DO anything but unengage urself. Seriously. If he really was going to divorce he would have started. the paperwork, got his own place etc. He's playing u like fiddle. Don't quit ur job either. How ru going to support urself? He's trying to control his situation with u and the wife.
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    Font - Sherrill Regolini . Follow Jan 15 SHAME ON YOU for getting involved with a married man in the first place especially if there are children involved. CLEARLY he is NOT going to DIVORCE his wife to suit you or else he would have done it long ago. He wants YOU to quit your job TO SAVE HIS ARSE get out of this relationship HE IS A manipulative control FREAK. If he truly loved YOU he would NEVER EVER ask you to give up your job. What does HE expect you to do should you give up you job. Upvote
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    Font - Susan D Smith. Follow Happily married, not interested in online dating. Jan 15 This is a disaster waiting to happen. You have no business "being engaged" to a married man. Dating a coworker is never a good idea. I hope you aren't compounding your mistakes by thinking his lying deceitful cheating as loves you. What he loves is in your underwear and he's using you. He has no intention of leaving his family, but if it makes you feel better, know he has no respect or love for his wife either.
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    Font - Shamim Islam. Follow Jan 15 Run. Don't look back. Don't think. Do not pass Go. Do not collect $200. (Monopoly reference). This is your get-out-of-jail-free card. Cut all ties. Get a dog. Get a hobby. Meet some new and considerate people. Look after yourself. You are not in a good place. 4 Upvote. 52 ♡ 30
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    Font - Helen Chapell. Follow Jan 15 Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope! He is future faking you. He is making all kinds of promises, even proposing to you in a display of commitment, but look at his actions. He has not left his wife or filed for divorce. His solution to the fact that you work together is for YOU to take the steps needed to protect your relationship and HIS job. He's all talk, no action, all take, no give. Do not quit your job, and do not trust this man. Do you really want to marry him
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    Font - Lisa Lawson. Follow B.S. from Pennsylvania State University - Jan 16 I would not be with a married man. If he wants you, wait until his divorce is final. Also, do not quit your job. If things don't work out you'll be without a way to take care of yourself. FYI, if he cheats on his first wife, he'll cheat on you. I know from experience. Find a good man who loves you and respects you. Upvote 11 D
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    Font - Flying Monkey 5775 . Follow Not a lawyer, but work with the law. Jan 15 You should wake up and smell the coffee. He is never going to leave his wife and kids for you. Never. Why should he? And why doesn't he quit his job, if he doesn't want you to work together? You are worth so much more than this waster and abuser. 4 Upvote - 22 ♡ ●●●
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    Font - Chuck Sears. Follow Lives in Houston, TX. Jan 18 Girl, he's keeping you around for the nookie. He's not going to divorce his wife as long as you keep putting out. You do need to get another job. You also need to get rid of him. Then you need to do some serious soul- searching over your lack of honor in fooling around with a married man in the first place. 4 Upvote 29 D ...
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    Font - Michele Lamberts Elston Follow Studied Art Major. Jan 15 X First of all, you can't be engaged if he's already a married man. Secondly, he will never leave his wife and kids for you. He wants you to quit your job to get you out of the picture because he knows he is a liar. Give him his ring back, (his reasoning is that's just to keep you hanging ) but most of all, have integrity!! If he's cheating on his wife, what'll keep him from cheating on you! Would you want him doing that to you and
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    Font - Angela Birch . Follow BA from Pepperdine University (Graduated 1974). Jan 21 No dear you are not engaged to him. You are his bit on the side he has no intention of filing for divorce. If he had he would have done so. He lives with his wife and kids because he wants to live with his wife and kids you are his bit on the side. If he wanted to actually marry you he would have left his wife and kids honorably making sure their needs were met but divorced and actually been in a position to marr
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    Font - Rhian J. Follow X Lives in The United Kingdom (1994-present) · Jan 15 Don't quit your job tell him to quit HIS job. How would you support yourself because you're not eligible for unemployment if you quit. Also he's lying he never intends to leave his wife for you (if he loves and cares about his kids they would always be in the picture even in the very unlikely event he left his wife). He loves the sex with you but that's it. He loves that you're picking up the sex to make up for the lack
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    Font - Sandie Guy Follow Business Owner · Jan 15 I seriously have no idea how our species is still surviving lately. You can't be engaged to a married man, he's married. He doesn't want you to quit your job because you work together, he wants to make sure he doesn't get in trouble and keeps his job. You're being played and you're dumb enough to let it happen. Take a couple of weeks off work, go to a therapist who's also an ethicist, and gain some self- respect. 4 Upvote. 74 ♡ 04 G ...
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    Font - Frank Langben. Follow Jan 15 X Seriously reconsider this relationship. He cheated on his wife with you. If he marries you, will he stop his cheating ways? You're hoping to break up a family to marry a man who is still living with his wife and kids and hasn't even filed for divorce, but tells you he'll marry you. You're not his fiancée - you're his mistress. You deserve better. Upvote 13
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    Font - Friday White Follow Former Scientist - now just old, opinionated and retired! Jan 15 He hasn't left his wife? He isn't serious about you! Or better still - ask him if you, he and his wife can sit down this weekend and discuss this three-way relationship? His reaction will tell you that he is playing you as his "side-piece"... Then you need to Run - don't even just walk away! Quit your job AFTER you find a better one - and move on and forget this user/loser! 4 Upvote. 22 01 G
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    Font - Mohit Khullar Follow Jan 15 Never ever quit your job. Ask him to do something for you before you do something for him He is living in his comfort zone, his job and his family and wants you to quit the job? Surprisingly, you didn't raise eyebrows. If he is feeling uncomfortable, better he should look for another job. Frankly you don't have a future with him, rest your decision about your own life. 4 Upvote 10 D X G
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    Font - Deborah Barber. Follow Former Administrative Assistant (1970-2010) · Jan 15 . Kick that piece of t to the curb and walk away. He has absolutely no intention of ever divorcing his wife. Are you really engaged to him? Did he actually give you an engagement ring. I'm saying, no, he didn't. A man who intends on divorcing his wife has moved out long ago. Tell him to shove his idea of you quitting your job up his- and blow it out his ear and to leave you alone.

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