'Hear them out or cut them out': What to do if your bestie tells you they're cheating

Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor

Jul 4, 2023 7:00 PM EDT

We all say we're ride or d!e with our besties, but how deep do those words actually go? Are you willing to sacrifice your own moral standards to stay riding or is that where you draw the line? A Reddit thread on the subreddit r/AskWomen has been pondering this question. The thread asks what would you do if your friend tells you that they are cheating on their partner?

It seems this questions has a lot of wheels starting to turn in people's heads. Some are instantly turned, and say that if your friend is a cheater, then they are most likely fine with backstabbing you and you shouldn't be friends with such a toxic person. While others say that there can be many understandable factors for someone to make a mistake like cheating—for instance, they're in an abusive relationship and it feels like their only way out. Or maybe the cheating was just the catalyst to help your friend realize that they are unhappy in their relationship and they need to end it.

The answers seem to be split 50/50 on whether you should stick by your friend or follow your own morals in a situation like this. But the #1 thing that seems to be clear in this discussion, is that someone else's relationship is never black and white, especially to an outsider's perspective no matter how close you are to the couple. Read some of the words we found the wisest below and decide for yourself!

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