'Change the menu...my kid won't eat any of that': 30+ Brides and grooms share the weird and funny things people told them while planning their big day

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Aug 22, 2023 3:00 PM EDT

While planning your wedding, everyone is thrilled for you, and they will all insist they have some great advice to tell you. 

From cake mishaps to a mother in law demanding two first dances, these people have had handled some odd requests and advice. While planning a wedding with the person you love, it's so romantic to get swept up in planning your dream day. It's supposed to be the day you and your loved one tie the knot forever, and you want all your closest friends and family right by your side to celebrate your love. 

Though they may not mean anything bad by it, some people want to make the day all about themselves. Whether they're making a million ridiculous requests or flipping out because they can't bring all their kiddos to the reception, some people just aren't taking the spirit of the wedding day seriously!

One of the funniest scenarios people wrote in about where their loved ones who were told about the upcoming wedding, and immediately refused. Some people said that their loved ones basically told them they were definitely not going to their nuptials, so no one sent her an invite. That just makes sense, right? Why waste paper and stamps just to invite someone who already said no? Then, these relatives get all up in arms over how disrespected they feel. Ok but… they were just doing what you said. 

Next up, these people purchased things, and what they received was far from expected. 

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    Flower - TIM
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    Font - Past/Current Brides, what's the most unhinged things people have said to you during wedding planning Discussion OC I recently saw a TikTok of someone sharing the most unhinged things people have said to them while they were planning their weddings and I just found it hilarious knowing that people really do say these things. Here are some of mine (with some elaboration of course): "Your wedding date is too close to mine. You need to move yours." (I got engaged and picked my date first)
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    Font - "What do you mean I can't just invite my girlfriend (who you don't know and have never met) to replace another guest that said no? You already have the headcount." (I've never even met my FH's cousin who said this) "I don't really like cake. Can you just do a dessert bar instead?" (Dessert bar was nearly double the price) "What is it with you and having such a long engagement?" (We got engaged end of 2021... you try fighting all the other brides who got pushed to 2022 because of C D.) "We
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    Font - "Why didn't you send me an invite to your engagement party even though I said I wouldn't be able to make it?" (yeah, someone got really angry at me because we didn't send them an invite to our engagement party that she said she couldn't make) I'd love to hear all your stories! lol
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    Font - sabulous22 "You should have your wedding in [city], it's really so much easier!" City is a 3 hour plane ride from my FH's and my hometown/families and 20 minutes by car from family member who suggested it
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    Font - sweeneyswantateeny. "Well (grooms dad) and I never eat at weddings. So you shouldn't bother feeding anyone, you're just wasting money" -My SMIL. For our 5pm on a Friday wedding. ☺☺☺ There was other things said by other people, but that's the one I remember clearly. We invited 100 people, were expecting 80 or so, and my in laws INSISTED we shouldn't feed our guests.
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    Font - barkeepersbuddy In response to RSVP form that asked for food restrictions or allergies: "I'm allergic to cats". Luckily, we did not serve cat.
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    Font - msfinch87 "You need to arrange McDonalds for my daughter to eat at the reception at the five star restaurant because that's all she eats. It is not fair to make her eat beforehand and have nothing for her to eat there, and you're the bride so it's your responsibility."
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    Font - nitsirkie "You're copying me. I got married first, and now everyone is." in response to me asking why she was actively sabotaging the wedding, in front of me.
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    Font - mikuzgrl I didn't have anything memorable happen during planning, but I had a little drama post wedding. My husband plays in a band. A coworker I was fairly close with asked if his son could bring a friend to the wedding because he was a fan. I agreed because coworker's wife was going to be out of town and there was an extra seat. I figured the kid was 14 and it did not matter to me if the he wanted to attend a boring wedding. When I got back from my honeymoon my coworker said he was disa
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    Font - not try to include the kids in anything. Hubs and I were not introduced to the kids, I didn't even see them with all of the other hullabaloo that day. I guess my coworker had visions of the kids getting partnered up with band members for karaoke at my reception or something. We had a ton of friends and family fly in from out of state, many of whom we had not seen in a few years. I am not sure why my coworker thought kids we had never met would take priority. I told my coworker that my wed
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    Font - urfavdisappointmentf. Not me, but my sister- My grandma told her, "not to send her an invitation, because she'll just throw it away anyway." Then was mad when my sister didn't send her one. It's a big meme here that I might as well just throw hers away for her
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    Font - RagingAardvark "My husband and son couldn't come, so I brought my best friend and her daughter in their place, haha!" It's not like a concert ticket that you purchased, it's an invitation for those specific people. The good news is that while I was pretty PO'd at the time, I've actually come to know the friend pretty well in the interim and I'm not mad anymore.
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    Font - aattanasio2014 "[Pre-teen family friend] is a beautiful pianist so I already arranged for her to play your first dance! She also hates playing publicly but she can get over that!" We had already hired professional live musicians (who aren't children, who don't hate playing publicly, and who we'd be paying for their services).
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    Font - _banana_phone "If people have dietary restrictions, they should figure it out. You don't need to feed them, they knew they were a problem before they RSVPed" • in response to our Italian style buffet where I asked for the following to accommodate my myriad of meat to non-meat friends: a caprese with mozzarella on the side (cause why not?), one cream and one pesto pasta sauce, and protein on the side.
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    Font - Italian is so easy to separate for pescatarian/vegetarian/v egan friends. Why invite people if you want them to feel unwelcome?
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    Font - on_mission My very darling now MIL wanted to have a mother son dance with my now husband...and a second mother son dance with my now BIL. My husband and I were both like ummm no lol
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    Font - alexfaaace "I wish I could have been more involved in the planning process" in a way that you know she's implying she was intentionally left out, my MIL. Who was invited to every single appointment that my mother and grandmother out of town to attend. She chose not to come, she was absolutely invited. drove from
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    Font - lovelikemeow "If you're going to have a destination wedding in two years you'll need to budget for our transportation because we can't save up for it" Listen fam. People not coming is literally the point. Please stay home.
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    Font - quietlycommenting. "Can you change the flavour of your wedding cake please I don't like that those" It was cupcakes. She had 3 flavour choices and none were to her liking. I can't believe you had someone do this to you too OP re cake preferences - the entitlement
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    Font - Pugloaf1 I've gotta shame my fiancée slightly. When we were first dating he asked our friend if he could bring me as a plus one. We all knew each other and I had known her casually before he and I started dating. She gave him a plus one, it all worked out well and she and I are good friends now. But I realize of course in planning, him asking for a plus one is not in good form. It's also about his justification...he said "she eats like a bird." Like...she's fine, it won't be too expensive
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    Font - beccajane72 "You can't have CHOCOLATE cake for a WEDDING!!" • my (now ex) MiL upon seeing the decadent cake covered in chocolate curls I'd chosen from a "Martha Stewart Weddings" magazine. The white and purple marbled fondant cake we ended up with was so hideous, we almost forgot to do the whole cutting bit as I'd hidden it in the corner behind the MC's podium.
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    Font - canuckbuck2020 If you get divorced in less than 5 years you have to pay me back. My mother. She told that to everyone at the wedding too
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    Font - 13 1carphone When talking about my dress, my mother said she'd read an article where a person with my BMI shouldn't gain any weight when pregnant (I was not pregnant). Oh and that I shouldn't wear a dress without sleeves. I let her know she was no longer part of the dress process. Edited to change "with sleeves" to "without sleeves"
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    Font - AUGirl1999 A friend got upset with me because I got engaged/married before her. She had started dating a few months before us but said she wanted to date him for 5 years before getting married. We were almost 40, and I my now hubby was already a friend before we started dating. I guess I was supposed to put my life on hold for her.
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    Font - akw329 Right after our wedding, a friend pointed out that our wedding colors were the same in a kind of pointed way. Our color was navy for a winter wedding lol groundbreaking! We also got engaged months before them and I had told her that we were going to use navy as our color months earlier. Just a weird thing to bring up and say to newlyweds, especially since we had previously spoken about that being a color we were going to use for our wedding party.
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    Font - DoNotReply111 My wedding is close to Christmas and New Years. When sending out feelers to florists for quotes etc one of them emailed me back literally telling me to move my date because "it's inconvenient for florists to work with your date, may [he] suggest the week after?" Funnily enough, he was the only florist to ask me to move it. The rest were super happy to send quotes.
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    Font - numbersrejectedbypi. "Don't you think you're being selfish?" when explaining how the date we chose was meaningful.
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    Font - 90Lil MIL didn't consider our wedding a "proper" wedding because she didn't think my engagement ring constituted an engagement ring and I didn't change my last name.
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    Gesture - Alqpzm1029 "I'm due at that time, you need to move your wedding date." It was 4 months apart.
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    Font - rubyslippers94 This thread is so therapeutic lol I've gotten tons of weird S For my welcome party which is just a casual outdoor pizza party (we're getting married in Italy) someone in my family judged me for nice paper plates. We're feeding the entire guest list of like 100+ three dinners and three breakfasts I think a causal meal is acceptable... A number of guests can stay at our venue but not everyone and someone told me it was rude to make guests stay at my hotel block instead of the
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    Font - The guests are also the farthest removed from us on the guest list. I showed my MIL the wedding dress I wanted before trying it on because it has pearls and I heard she had a superstition with pearls and she didn't say anything and then after I bought it she yelled "NO PEARLS" and basically said she didn't like it in front of the entire family including my husband to be who shouldn't know anything about my dress. A SECOND COUSIN texted me and asked me to bring her SIX grandkids.
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    Font - D laurzregan1 While trying to find a wedding band, my mum kept pushing me to book a popular local one. When I pointed out that my husband didn't like that band, she said "well it doesn't matter what he thinks." When I told her that having my husband be miserable at our wedding was not how i wanted us to start our married life, she acted like I was being unreasonable.
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    Font - majorboredom1 We had a more chill playlist for our backyard reception, definitely not top dance hits, and in the middle of it all, my cousin matches up to me, sticks a finger in my face and says, "THIS MUSIC EFFING SUCKS." I mean, other people said it was the best wedding ever and another cousin couldn't believe we played Manu Chao, but okay. Love her, she's an amazing person, truly, will still never know why that was her one break from reality.
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    Font - No_Albatross_7089. I invited a guy, who was one of my dad's childhood best friend, and his family to my wedding. I've talked with them before and recently had a visit from them the year before our wedding and genuinely thought kindly of them. The wife said I should invite "so and so and his wife" because my dad would love seeing them and they would love seeing me all grown up. I don't recall knowing who these two people were but said what the heck, we had enough RSVP declines so we had th
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    Font - wedding and we're going around the room socializing and I ask where "so and so and his wife" were. She says "oh they didn't want to make the drive." K. Also had a ton of people asking why I chose to have my wedding on a Sunday. Iuno, because it was cheaper per person? lol.
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    Font - tinykoala86 ALL FROM THE SAME PERSON: "I need you to change the menu as my kid won't eat any of that" "Ummm your child wasn't invited?....." "I know all the bridesmaids are going to the same seamstress for alterations but I need my own seamstress so she can focus on me" "Hmmm you know that one colour of dress and one hairstyle that you didn't like? I insist on having those!"
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    Font - "Look if you go back and check you'll find I never agreed to your bachelorette party in writing so legally you can't force me to pay you back for my spot" "Sorry for bailing on your wedding the day before, um, that girl who filled in for you as a bridesmaid, is she keeping the dress? I'd pay you for it?"
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    Human body - ailweni "I bet you can't wait to change your last name."
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    Font - Whitwoc "The vicar didn't return my answerphone message in time, so I've left another message cancelling the wedding". • my mother.
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    Font - Special-Juice-7345 Not what someone said but what they did and it's not crazy but still annoying.....my sibling had a kid free wedding and everyone invited 18 months notice and still had one cousin get py about 2 weeks out cos they couldn't find a sitter in time and then refused to come.....YOU HAD 18 MONTHS TO PLAN!!!
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