Dude Fires Brother From His Plumbing Company After He Proposes At His Wedding

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Aug 27, 2023 1:00 PM EDT

Y'all…let's be real for a second. It's 2023, and we should all know by now that it's socially unacceptable to propose at somebody else's wedding. Unless you have permission and the bride and groom are actually genuinely cool with it, there's no reason to get on one knee at the reception unless you're doing a needlessly complicated dance. That said, there are ways to handle the situation if somebody has the audacity to propose at your wedding. You will definitely have a very serious conversation with the person who proposed and try to understand why they thought that would be an okay thing to do. You might even ask them to leave your wedding, which I don't think is completely out of line. Those options are so safe, though. Why not live on the edge a little bit? For a bit more flavor, you could do what this Redditor did and try to ruin the life of the guy who proposed (who's also his brother) by firing him from your business. That seems reasonable, right? 

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    Font - r/AmltheA. u/Daquii. 11.. AITA for firing my brother after he proposed at my wedding?
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    Font - So a bit of background. I own a plumbing company and hired my brother 3 years ago. He was jobless after the pandemic and I offered for him to come work for me. He was 22 at the time, and is now looking to become a master plumber and start his own business.
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    Font - At my wedding, in which he was the best man, he decided that during his speech he would give us all a big surprise and decided to propose to his long time girlfriend. Me and my wife were appalled. We both feel like he stole the shine from our day. Everyone else in our families were so excited and kept taking pictures with her, looking at the ring, etc.
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    Font - I decided to fire him the very next day. He still doesn't understand why. He claims I'm being selfish and irrational, and our parents agree. They're saying that "business should be separate from our personal lives", but I just can't overlook what he did. and how he ruined our day. Am I overthinking this??
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    Mammal - EDIT: I should have mentioned this, but he will be getting severance. He is still my brother, and I wouldn't let him lose his home over this. But as a small business I can't imagine seeing him every day at work. Not now at least.
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    Font - Fabulous_Egg_7603 - 10h Nta this case can't separate family and business because you only offered the job because he was family. I would tell him that he can have the job back after he pays for half of the reception since he turned it into a combination wedding reception and engagement party. Reply 18.6k
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    Font - CurlyGurl_Bee409.9h Agreed, he owes you an apology as well. How does he not see that he made you and your wife's day about himself. NTA, I hope that you show him this post. ... 6.3k
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    Rectangle - erbear048 9h ● Time to announce a pregnancy at his wedding! ΝΤΑ 44.5k
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    Font - Representative Ok5968 10h Asshole Enthusiast [5] ● NTA. Seriously how many times does it have to be pointed out to people that you don't propose at another person's wedding? It's lame, tacky, and disrespectful to the couple who wanted you to share in THEIR special day; not share their special day with you. ... Reply 7.9k
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    Font - A few things: Ok-Ebb4485 • 10h Asshole Aficionado [13] ● Never mix "family" and business. I learned that years ago and this is your lesson. • You handled it badly. Your brother did not commit a fireable offense. You're justifying a business decision based on something that happened outside of business. Your brother did the one thing nobody is supposed to do at a wedding. That is inexcusable, to say the least. ● For all these reasons, I'm voting ESH. ... Reply 4.5k
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    Font - But Why Thoughhhh • 9h He was 22 at the time, and is now looking to become a master plumber and start his own business. I have to disagree with OP not having just cause. The brother has made it known he's planning on becoming a rival business after getting enough experience, and that might be enough of a reason to let him go. 834
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    Font - SignificantJacket912. 9h That's not why he let him go though, we know why he let him go, the OP admitted it. There's no ambiguity here. 41.2k
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    Font - Daquii OP 10h Additional Info: I wouldn't speak poorly if a potential employer asked me about him. I would be honest about his work. But what he did shows me a lack of maturity and has caused me to lack in trust. Not good qualities for an employee. I get it was "off the clock", but you can't insult your boss off the clock and expect to have no consequences. We are a small business (5 employees, now 4) and I oversee everyone. He will be able to find work elsewhere in the area. ... Reply 1.
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    Font - hocuslotus 10h Partassipant [1] ESH. Him for hijacking your wedding day, you for being unprofessional and firing him. Reply ... 681
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    Rectangle - SunshineKittenYESYES 10h ● NTA. What sort of trash does that? Unemployed trash. Good for you, and congratulations to you and your bride! ... Reply 437
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    Font - 888 vancitymala. 10h Partassipant [1] ESH. This is why most people would refuse to work with family. For them to say that you should separate business from personal is absolutely true, however, if you had done that from the start, he would not have had a job and he would not be working towards getting his masters plumber license. Had someone who you did not know and was completely unqualified and jobless came to you those years ago and asked for a job, you most likely would not have given
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    Font - Also, he sucks for proposing at your wedding and your family sucks for celebrating that and not calling him out on his shit the moment it happened However, to turn around and fire him without stating whether or not he's good at his job or if you even had a conversation with him and allowed him to apologize and understand exactly what he did wrong also means that you suck. You can't undo firing him at this point and he can't undo ruining your wedding for you. But I'm just not sure you will
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    Font - EDIT 2: I reached out to him and we plan on speaking later today in person. EDIT 3: I love all of the people who say "you've been looking for a reason to fire him" or "you're just jealous". He was my best man. I never felt upset about him opening his own business, in fact he has my complete blessing. This job was only supposed to be to get him on his feet again. I'm so happy he liked the field and wants to go further in it. There was no malice before this incident.
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