'He thanked me for being a concerned "Daddy" as a backhanded insult': Tik-Tok Teacher dismisses parent's concern about his videos of their child

Recent developments in "mass content" social media have resulted in this strange divergence in the population. On the one hand, there are those who share everything online and post every little detail of their day as if they're living their life on a stage. On the other hand, is the rest of the population who are horrified at the very thought of sharing a single image of themselves, let alone videos with entire monologues about intimate details of their lives. 

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  • Now, you're free to live your own life and do as you please, share whatever you want about your day if that's your wish… but when a significant part of your day involves being responsible for kids, that is other people's children, there are thick bolded lines there that shouldn't be crossed.

    This was the issue that came to the forefront of this disagreement between a concerned parent and this TikTok posting teacher. The teacher posted videos on TikTok of students and the students' projects on his personal TikTok account, which features videos of his classroom and lessons he teaches. While the teacher asks the students for their permission first, the problem lies in the fact that these students are 6th graders. 

    This father messaged the teacher after videos of his son were posted, outlining that the student's “Okay” was not enough and that the teacher needed the parent's approval. The teacher responded that the blanket “photo and video” policy that the parents had signed at the beginning of the term was, effectively, their consent, ending their reply with what the parent took to be a backhanded insult.  

    The parent is wondering whether they're off-base for their stance on the issue and whether or not they're overreacting, sharing their experience with this online community to get their take.

    See their account of events and the responses from readers below.

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    Font - Posted by u/Professional Depth995 12 hours ago AITA for telling my son's teacher that my son can't give consent to appear in his TikTok videos? My son is a 6th grader and his math teacher uses a lot of videos. They did a class project on geometry where groups of students did shorts on geometry and they watched it and the teacher posted it on his school website and his tiktok.
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    Font - I understand social media is popular with kids and it's not going anywhere so you might as well try to moderate it like junk food but I began to wonder if this was a personal project for the teacher rather than a class project. I would probably be okay if this was strictly a class thing if my son was okay.
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    Font - After wrestling with it, I spoke to my son and said I'm fine with you being in class videos but I'm not okay with you being on Mr. J's personal tiktok page without my permission. My son said that he told Mr. J it was okay. That made me laugh. I said you can't even be trusted to shower every day let alone decide when you can appear on someone's tiktok page.
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    Font - So I sent an email to Mr. J telling him what I thought and my stance. He replied that I gave consent when I signed his classroom agreement that he uses videos and pictures of his students and no parent has ever complained. Plus his tiktok page is also his "class" tiktok page because "you realize no one watches YouTube since 2017." He said he's not hiding anything and this is what teachers do to make dense subject material interesting. Then he thanked me for being a concerned "Daddy" as a
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    Smile - I replied that none of my son's other five teachers is doing what he's doing and probably because they don't have time to play on TikTok. But that's okay. I expect my son to be a math whiz and we will check in later.
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the ae: My son's teacher creates video shorts in his math class that he uploads to his personal tiktok page and said it was fine because my son gave him permission tom
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    Font - PsionicOverlord · 7 hr. ago Partapant [3] ΝΤΑ You're absolutely right - you did not consent to images of your son being put up online, especially not given that it would be very easy for a person to figure out his actual location from those videos. Consent for filming is not consent for distribution. I have no idea why this person feels the need to put his class on the internet but it is deeply suspicious. There is absolutely no benefit to that stuff being on TikTok but an awful lot of po
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    Font - oaksandpines1776 · 7 hr. ago Professor Emerita ΝΤΑ You did not give consent for TikTok. You can also revoke permission for filming at any time. I would forward the email to principal and de.and it be stopped immediately. 2.6k Reply Share th3greg 3 hr. ago A de Enthusiast [9] exactly, why does this teacher seem to think permission given can't be revoked? Reply Share 244
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    Font - PO4eva · 7 hr. ago Question: in this agreement you signed did it say that pictures and videos would be put online? Did is specify that they would go on to tiktok? It's one thing to put it up on the school website for other patters to see and decide that's the school they want their kids to attend, it's another when it's tiktok. NTA any tiktoks I've seen about teachers and pupils, never have the students shown as it can cause a lot of agro and the teachers are smart enough to know this. Th
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    Font - ProfessionalDepth995 OP 7 hr. ago It said in fine print that videos or photos may be used for school promotion which I would assume would mean the school website or class website. All of which I couldn't care less. But a tiktok page that looks half school and half personal is pushing it. 1.8k Reply Share Novel_Fox 6 hr. ago A. e Enthusiast [6] Don't forget some people make money off their tik tok pages so like is the teacher exploiting his students for some tik tok money? 1.0k Reply Share
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    Font - Cygnata 7 hr. ago NTA. YouTube videos can be viewer restricted, so only the class and their parents can view them. As far as I'm aware, TikTok videos can't. You are right to be concerned. Reply Share 419
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