'She [must have] planned this heist for a year': Bride's MOH steals $25,000 from the bridal party to pay for her own credit card debt; gets kicked out of the wedding

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Oct 28, 2023 12:00 PM EDT

Bridal events are sacred and if you're lucky enough to be included in a person's bridal party at their wedding, you should consider it an honor. Especially if 'honor' falls in your title. Being a bride's maid of honor is a heft responsibility but also proves that your friend considers you closer than family and capable of handling whatever the wedding throws at you. However, when MOH duties get fumbled, that can throw a wrench in any friendship. Once again, weddings put everyone's relationship to the test and if you fail in the big leagues, you might just strike out for the rest of your life. 

In this story, one bride was flabbergasted when she found out the treachery that her MOH was up to. Not only did this maid of honor destroy the sanctity of her friendship with OP (the bride), but she also used her wedding as a way to rake in some extra cash– $25,000 to be exact –to pay off her own credit card debt. Scroll for the full story of betrayal and retribution, where a greedy MOH covers up her own shortcomings with the cash contributions of the whole bridal party. 

Next up, here's a story of another choosing beggar– a teenager who asks his step mom to give him her 1963 vintage Fender guitar valued at $3,000 so he can swoon a few college girls. Sorry buddy, but absolutely not.

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    Font - r/r/AmIthe ole. Posted by u/kayelle-99 17 hours ago AITA for kicking my maid of honor out of my wedding with 5 days notice? I'm (23F) getting married in a couple days. Most of this is in the last two weeks.
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    Font - My MOH (26F), M, was in charge of planning my bachelorette party, which I wanted to be a surprise. We live in a city, but none of us live downtown, so I was hoping for a hotel room downtown and having a fun night out with friends, maybe a brunch. Most of the bridal party live locally, but two girls flew in for it.
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    Font - When M picked me up 2 weeks ago on Friday, I was excited to see where we were going and what we were doing. We ended up going to M's 1 bedroom townhome and spent the whole weekend there. There are 8 of us, so it was cramped and we kept running into issues with only 1
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    Font - bathroom. On Friday night we had games and ordered pizza, Saturday we had a mimosa bar, went shopping, ordered food, and watched. a movie, before parting ways on Sunday. It wasn't the bachelorette party of my dreams, or a particularly fun weekend, but it was ok, and I appreciated it.
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    Font - Last weekend, my fiancé (32m), J, had just returned from a work trip. I hadn't caught him up to speed on the party, because there wasn't much to report. But when he returned, we were chatting and I told him about the party. He looked confused but said nothing else that evening.
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    Font - The next day, I got a message from M asking to meet up to talk about "something." M revealed that I had given her a significant amount of money over a year ago, with the intention that it was used to pay for a bachelorette party. It would have been enough to pay for the entire bridal party to do a week long vacation out of town, including
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    Font - airfare, hotel, food, drinks, and fun. I wasn't expecting this type of event; a weekend downtown would have been wonderful, and even though the party at her home wasn't what I hoped for, I was fine with it because I got to be with all of my friends. She, instead, used the money to pay off credit card debt and hoped that no one would notice.
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    Font - I told her I needed some time to process and went home. After talking with J about it, I decided, that the best action would be to remove her from the wedding. I came to this decision because I don't feel I can trust her and don't want her to be standing next to me at my wedding. I slept on it overnight and sent her a text saying this on Monday.
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    Font - Since then, I have been getting texts from her mom and boyfriend telling me how awful I am for doing this since I didn't need a big party and M was able to financially benefit. My mom is also against removing her from the wedding, as she's like a sister to our family and it would be
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  • 10
    Font - tragic for me to get married without M there. The rest of the bridal party is split, with half saying I shouldn't have kicked her out and the other half agreeing with me. M has called me crying because she already has her dress (J and I paid for all dresses) and she can't wear it anywhere else.
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    Plant - At this point, I want the wedding to be over with so I can be on my honeymoon and not have to deal with these people. So, was my action too extreme? AITA?
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    Font - dunks615 16 hr. ago edited 13 hr. ago 1 NTA. She STOLE MONEY from you essentially and it sounds like it was a decent chunk of money too. I would honestly have a stern talking to with your mom and maybe cut off people that are taking her side. This is ridiculous that anyone wouldn't immediately be on your side after she misappropriated money meant for your bachelorette. She also obviously knew it was wrong because she told you out of guilt.
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    Font - ETA: Stealing $25,000 is insane. Put her on blast to everyone and file a police report. She also only told you because she was pressured. Cut contact and let the law handle it at this point.
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    Smile - kayelle-99 OP 15 hr. ago She didn't tell me out of guilt. After he found out what my bachelorette party was, my fiancé told her either she needed to sit down and tell me or he would.
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    Font - stinstin555 14 hr. ago tendant [63] OP is better than me. My fiance and I would have filed a police report. She stole a significant amount of money, not chump change. Play stupid games and win stupid prizes. 1.3k Reply Share sparksgirl1223 14 hr. ago Enthusiast [9] Isn't 5000+ considered a felony?
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    Font - orangeupurple1 14 hr. ago That was really weird to me too. She was given money for a specific purpose. Not to spend on herself but to plan a nice party for OP. Yes.. that is theft. I would never trust her and OP made the right choice.
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    Font - FancyPants Dancer. 11 hr. ago I understand having debt and wanting to pay it off, but M couldn't use $5k for a nicer bachelorette party?! It still wouldn't have been right to steal $20k, but it sounds like she put in no effort or much of anything money-wise.
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    Rectangle - entirelyintrigued 11 hr. ago This! I'm so boggled over this! She could have turned down the money if she didn't want to plan that big of a party. But she took it, and then hoped no one would know?!
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    Font - WasabiIndependent419 13 hr. ago $25k?!!! What?! WTAF?!! I audibly gasped when I read that. NTA, at all. If it was $50, it would still be disgusting to steal from a friend's partner. But $25k?!! She is a criminal and anyone supporting her is either not getting the full story or is enabling this person's awful behavior.
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    Rectangle - Western Fuzzy 15 hr. ago She stole from you, scammed money out of your fiancée and lied about it. Unless everyone batting for her has had a collective brain leak, I don't understand their point.
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    Gesture - Blue MoonTone 15 hr. ago And she planned it for a whole year! This wasn't a gut reaction where she had a mental snap over her debt and stole the money, she planned the heist for a year!
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    Font - Western_Fuzzy 14 hr. ago Riiiight! This was 100% planned. I wonder if she initiated the plan for fiancé to give her the money 'to pre- book a big trip' etc... It's such grimey behaviour regardless.
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