'I'm practically bald now': Husband faces divorce papers after playing a ‘hilarious’ practical joke on wife

Advertisement
  • 01
    My husband (30m) shaved my (31f) head
  • 02
    Me (31f) and husband (30m) have been married for 3 years and together for 5 years before getting married. We've always had a healthy, harmonious relationship (or I thought so) and welcomed our daughter 3 months ago.
  • 03
    Yesterday morning, we were getting ready in the bathroom - my husband was shaving next to me, while I was brushing my teeth. Out of nowhere, he takes his electric razor and runs it through my head, shaving a part of my hair just above my forehead. First I thought he just pretended to do it but then saw a big chunk of my hair falling into the sink. I didn't get a complete bald spot but the damage is clearly visible. (It's imporant to know that I've always had long hair reaching the mid of
  • 04
    imporant to know that I've always had long hair reaching the mid of my back, never cut it short, not alone got a buzzcut. My husband likes my long hair, too, and never told me to get a different haircut.)
  • 05
    I totally freaked out, started crying and yelling at him, while he was laughing. He told me it was just a prank, how it wasn't not a big deal, it was "just hair", and that I could grow it out again. We had a serious fight afterwards and in the end he did apologize, admitting he was an AH but still insisting it was a prank and was funny (at least to him).
  • 06
    Although he apologized, I still cannot forgive him. I will either need to wear a hat/scarf, brush my hair over, or get bangs (which I normally wouldn't do due to my face shape) to cover the damaged area. It will take years to grow out my hair again to its current length. However, what I'm most concerned about is that he still insists it was funny. I just don't get it why he would laugh at my mysery, it seems borederline sadistic and abusive to me. I'm also afraid that he would
  • 07
    me. I'm also afraid that he would do something like this again in the future to me (or even to our daughter!!) because he finds it "funny". I don't think I will ever be able to forgive or trust him and seriously consider getting a divorce.
  • 08
    On the other hand, he has never done anything like that before, it seems totally out of character. He isn't a "prankster" or has ever made fun of me. Neither did we have any marital problems nor big fights, not even after the birth of our daughter.
  • 09
    Until I make up my mind, I don't want to talk to my friends and family about this as I don't want to be pressured into deciding either way or being judged, if I don't take their advice. Should I stay with him or divorce him over this?
  • 10
    Overqualified_muppet 1 day ago The reason you don't want to tell your family and friends is that you know they'll confirm what you already know: that this was a completely cruel thing to do. I would separate over this at the very least, and insist he sort himself out with a therapist before he's allowed back in your home.
  • 11
    roadt... Absolutely this. I'm not one to jump to its abuse but for him to keep insisting it was funny to him while you're in distress is a massive red flag. • 22 hr. ago • Edited 21 hr.
  • 12
    Aussiealterego • 1 day ago Although I'm tempted to tell you not to make decisions too quickly, this is assault. It's cut and dried. People have been charged for this. It's not a prank. It's abusive. The fact that he honestly thinks it is funny is deeply concerning.
  • 13
    Merrik4t Abuse can often start after pregnancy because your abuser feels they have you trapped. He knows what he did is evil- this is to destroy your confidence in your own attractiveness and devalue you. ● 23 hr. ago I would divorce.
  • 14
    KangarooSweater • 1 day ago Honestly this is so insane and if it really is out of character I would consider getting him checked by a doctor. He sounds very mentally unwell. If he's physically healthy and this is just his new personality, run for the hills. He could feel more comfortable being cruel now that you're vulnerable with the new baby.
  • 15
    redpe... 23 hr. ago Edited 23 hr. a I'm going to jump on this comment and say maybe insist on him getting checked out.
  • 16
    Oblgobl 1 day ago ● You don't want to tell your friends or family. Lets imagine one of your friends or family came to you and told you their other half did this to them. What would be your advice? Mine would be to run before he does something worse.
  • 17
    Glittering Bottle706 1 day ago He knows that you have a long hair, put a lot of effort into it, it your pride. He deliberately ruined it and quite happy with results. He showes no remorse. He planed it. It's jealousy or power play or something else that pushes him into this. This one wasn't a funny prank. This was scary, deliberate and cruel. You are no longer safe with him.
  • 18
    ApolloRocketOfLove • 1 day ago Shave a spot just above his forehead while hes sleeping, then hand him the divorce papers.
  • 19
    Hagetisses 1 day ago ● While you're at it shave his eyebrows too, if he has a shave a beard/moustache dodgy line in it
  • 20
    Blue-Phoenix23 You're not overreacting. This is horrible. I also have long, pretty hair that I'm proud of and I would be DEVASTATED. Girl, I'm so sorry this happened to you. ● 1 day ago
  • 21
    k8ekat03 23 hr. ago ● You should ask him to get a brain scan to check for a brain tumour because this behaviour is wild and erratic. It's not a prank. You don't prank permanently damaging things. Go smash his car window and call it a prank - no, it doesn't work like that. You SHOULD tell fam/friends and let him reap what he sew.
  • 22
    5 swoonmermaid • 23 hr. ago My dude. He better have a brain tumor or something going on cuz what in the actual FCK???????? He randomly shaved your head? Like complete loss of impulse control? I'm so baffled.
  • 23
    HumanityIsBizarre You need to speak to friends/family they can tell you if they've noticed any changes. in him as well as him doing something like that is very strange. I'd definitely take some time away to think about things though, see if you feel safe around him. ● 1 day ago
  • 24
    OneDeep87 1 day ago A girl I went to school with was caught talking to boys and her dad shaved her hair off in 8th grade. I still remember 20 years later because it was the summer before high school. Everybody knew. So yes fathers can do this to daughters and you should really consider not staying with a dude like this.

Tags

Scroll Down For The Next Article