'I don't know what to do': Man falls in love with mother of child and risks co-parenting relationship

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Sienna Varady
Dec 5, 2023 2:00 PM EST

I am a hopeless romantic. I'll say it loud, I'll say it proud, I LOVE love. I believe that every single one of us has that one person who is meant to love us forever. I don't know how or when I'll meet my mysterious man, but I know he's out there, and when the time is right, we'll cross paths, and if I'm wise, I'll realize that the person that I have been searching for is right in front of my eyes. 

The story below is of a person who met his person at the wrong time. Fortunately, through a stunning little girl named Lisa, fate has predestined them for a lifetime of love and happiness. You know the hymn "First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes Baby in a Baby Carriage?" Well, let me try to explain. In this instance, the baby comes first, and only then does love come into the picture. Hope you enjoy the screenshots below! And when you're done, and still crave some love and romance, be sure to check out some hopeless relationship memes here!

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    In love with the mother of my child, but afraid to jeopardize our co- parent relationship...
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    I'm (M28) realizing that I'm in love with the mother (F27) of my daughter (F7) but I'm afraid to jeopardize our coparent relationship. How should act I in this situation ?
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    A little throwback for context: 8 years ago, I met Tina through a friend of a friend, we were both students. I invited her to a date that went really well, and we kissed at the end. A few days later, we met again at a party, we were both dr k and had unprotected , she told be she was on BC. I was really into
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    her and we were supposed to met again the following week but it fell through and then I had my exams had planned holidays directly afterwards.. Well, few weeks later, she called me panicked to tell me that her BC failed and she is pregnant. We both freaked at the
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    beginning, after reflection, she told me she wanted to keep the baby, I said that I will stay by her and won't back out of my responsabilities. The pregnancy was a very stressful difficult journey for both of us because we were young and didn't really know
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    each other, she did a test to confirm my paternity and we sorted out how we will parent together, we grew closer but at no moment we started a relationship we were focused on our future lives as parents. And then Lisa, our baby girl came to the world. It was tricky for Tina
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    to manage the pregnancy, the post partum and her studies but she faced it like a boss, and graduated brillantly. Since the beginning, Tina and I act as a team and supported each other. I trust her with all my life
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    Flashforward, our Lisa is 7 now. she lives with me every other week but I see her and Tina almost every day, because we live in the same neighborhood, we often eat dinner together at my house or at Tina's, we have a really good co parent relationship and Lisa is a happy kid and our main priority.
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    3 weeks ago, there was water damage at Tina's so I invited her and our daughter to stay at my home. Tina and I took a few days off because Lisa was a bit shaken by the disaster. It was wonderful, those days were probably the best of my life, we had so much fun. Getting Lisa from school then all three of us cooking together,
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    playing silly games. A few times we even slept all the three of us in my bed after reading stories. I loved every moment. Last friday, Tina's home was finally fixed so they could go back, Lisa was sad, cried and said it was so much fun to be with Mom and Dad at the same time.
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    Since they left, my home feels so empty, those days were marvelous, Waking up every morning with Tina by my side, prepping breakfast and then waking up our daughter.. we were like a normal family. I even teared up a little. Over the
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    years, I wonder about what would have happen between Tina and me, without those badly timed exams and holidays? If we were together when she discovered the pregnancy? I was questionning myself those last few months but last few weeks confirmed it, I am in love with Tina,
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    even madly in love I would say. I think of her all the time and not just the mother she is but the amazing woman she's always been. Yesterday, she took me to lunch to thank me, she told me that she really enjoyed those days as well and talked about
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    trying to go to vacation together. I was looking at her and __ I I wanted to kiss her so badly.. I confied my feelings to my best friend and he told me to be careful because I could be hurt and it could harm our coparent relationship and so harm Lisa. I know he is right but on the
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    other side, the feelings are here, and I don't know if I should try to restrain them or expres them. Relevant info : on the dating scene, since Lisa's birth, I only had one serious relationship which last 1 year, a few years
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    ago until she cheated on me. She also said that us couldn't work because the real love of my life is Tina. At the time, I thought she was just justifying her cheating, but recently, her words took a new light
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    Tina had 2 relationships that lasted a few months, she told me that she didn't feel like she could build something with them on the long term. TLDR : Got a baby girl 7 years ago, Mother and I were never in a relationship, but stayed close and have great coparent
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    relationship. Mother and daughter spent 2 weeks at my home after water damage. Had the time of my life, and slowly realizing that I am in love with the mother of my child. Don't know if I should suppress those feelings or express them
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    Ok_Copy_8869. 4 days ago Bro go for it why wouldn't you, she seems like she feels the same way. Just be polite and give her the out to tell you if she's not interested and stress how much you care about your corparenting.
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    DetectiveSudden281 4 days ago Dude. You're already married. The only difference in your life and a married person's life if you're paying double the rent. Ask. Her. Out. On. A. Date.
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    Ask her out on an actual date, just the two of you. She already asked you out and you went and apparently had a good time. Take this to the next level. Ask her over and cook something together. After dinner, share a glass of we and tell her how you feel.
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    Explain to her she is the one you picture growing old with after you've spent your life making her happy. Tell her the "accident" is the best thing that has ever happened to you because it brought her into your life and it gave you part of her in your daughter that you can cherish no matter what else happens.
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    Just grow a pair. She done everything BUT propose to you already.
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    aquatheghost Honestly the best way to go about it is to just tell her that you feel that way, but at the same time making it clear that you will be respectful about it, if she doesn't feel the same way not making any further moves or making her uncomfortable. • 4 days ago
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    Give her the choice and discuss boundaries. Then you will know how to act, what to expect and she will see you as an emotionally mature person, so it's a win/win situation!
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    screamingfoxface 4 days ago You should absolutely tell her how you feel but also make it super clear that you value your co-parenting relationship and prioritize Lisa's well being even if Tina doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
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    teamfivezero5. 4 days ago Bro. They make movies about what you are describing!! I'll go grab my lobster suit and sing for ya KISS THE GIRL!
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