What Happens in Our Twenties Should Stay In Our Twenties: 24 Hot Takes of Twenty Somethings Flirting With the Idea of Commitment

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Sienna Varady
Dec 11, 2023 2:00 PM EST

Friends with benefits in theory sounds like an amazing idea. However, in reality, it's a recipe for disaster and fails to stand the test of time. Friends with benefits, or situationships, can end in one of two ways. The first option would be for both parties to fall head over heels for one another resulting in a fairy tale ending. In other words, the boy falls for the girl, not realizing that the girl has loved him from the very beginning. The second option would be complete and utter heartbreak. A one-sided love relationship, with one side completely content with the situation at hand, and the other side hopeful for love in the future. 

So, are the stakes worth it? Are you willing to lose a dear friend for a moment's whim that is likely to fail and end in tears? At this point, I will admit, I don't know. So, if any of you out there can relate, feel confused, and would love some clarity and guidance, be sure to check out the thread below! And when you're done, check out wholesome relationship memes that capture all of love's cute quirks here!

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  • 01
    "What do you think about friends with benefits? Have you ever been in that situation?"
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    What do you think about friends with benefits? Have you ever been in that situation?
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    Goetre 22 hr. ago · edited 15 hr. ago Few times, One turned into a 2 year relationship ands ended on friendly terms Second went up like a nuke. First time we met was in a date capacity, we had 3 dates before doing anything. Third date was
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    in the afternoon and she went out that night and hooked up with someone. We both agreed, that given she did that and I wasn't overly fussed, we probably shouldn't date and left it at that. 6 months later she drops a message, one thing to
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    another and we agreed to be FWB. We met up once a week / fortnight for 6 months. We had an agreement if any feelings popped up we'd tell the other person and cut it off. We also agreed each month we'd both check in with the other to make sure we're still happy as FWB. And lastly, if anyone of us went on a date with anyone else,
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    we'd knock it on the head if the date went well + tell them we were going on a date. Everything was going fine, then 6 months in someone asked if I wanted to try a date. So told the FWB I was trying a date, had a real nice night and felt an instant connection. So told the FWB and we both agreed it was time to knock it on the head then.
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    Next day I wake up to a barrage of ab se for wasting her time for 6 months, from her, her mates and family I had never met, some of our mutual friend group, the entire package. Edit:
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    As this is gaining a bit more traction than I anticipated. I'd just like to add theres no trouble on my end or her on her end after that initial barrage. Both gone our separate ways and thats that. I don't think the reaction was done out of malice or anything, just something built up as a "what if" type scenario,
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    Coldfire2050 21 hr. ago I had that for two years with a close friend. We never had romantic feelings, but we're super close. After we both went through breakups at the same time roughly, we just had a funny "should we" moment and tried it.
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    It was two years of the absolute most guilt free amazing we ever had. It ended when she started seeing someone, and it sucked, but no hard feelings.
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    AdMaterial9419 - 23 hr. ago I have. It was fun and was what we both needed at the time She actually was the one who told me to really commit to the woman who is now my gf. And I'm glad
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    llllPsychoCircus - 21 hr. ago Indeed, it can definitely be done it just takes honest communication. It also helps if you both already know what you're looking for and realize that its not whats in front of you.
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    ImLazyWithUsernames 21 hr. ago I drunk messaged her at 3am on Facebook and asked her if she wanted to be FWB. She said maybe. We've been married 7 and a half years.
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    renatijd · 22 hr. ago I had a friend who was a tax accountant. He did my taxes for Free. Does that count as friends with benefits?
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    The3rd Pedal23 · 23 hr. ago It's fun and exciting but eventually it becomes harmful because at least one person develops serious feelings.
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    Another Rickenbacker · 22 hr. ago I've had pretty good experiences with it, but they've always been situations where both of us were mature adults who could communicate and see the bigger picture at all times.
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    reedipie108 · 22 hr. ago I had a friends with benefits relationship 8 years ago. Developed into more than that. Now we're married and have two kids.
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    talknight2- 22 hr. ago My first ex became a friend with benefits a few years after we first broke up. It's going well. It's just nice to spend some time together every few months without the pressures of a relationship.
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    Comfortable-Figure17 · 22 hr. ago Tried it once, my partner didn't stick to the rules and got emotionally involved. Wound up leaving my job to get away from her.
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    Successful-Snow-562 21 hr. ago Did it, wasn't really for me, we stopped and we're still great friends. He's married now to the perfect woman for him. She knows about our past and doesn't care because we both know it would never have a chance of ever happening again
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    Drewskeet 22 hr. ago . Numerous time. It's awesome for awhile. I've had a couple last years. Someone catches feelings though everytime. Once it's over it's kinda sad because you also lose a friend. If you have the opportunity, I'd take it.
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    BrianFantana_69 - 22 hr. ago Yeah, turned ugly. We stopped speaking for a year before. reconnecting a friendship.
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    Ok-Grade1476 - 21 hr. ago My wife and I were friends with benefits. Well it was complicated. We were friends, then dated, then broke, then stopped being friends. Then we became friendly, and it escalated to benefits very quickly. We became friends again after benefits. Then we dated again.
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    Sloths_Can_Consent 22 hr. ago Yes. Fun when I was younger. But not a good idea in the long run.
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