‘Some of the most intelligent women I've met have bad fathers’: 26 Green Flags in Human Relationships that Get Mistaken for Red

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    Posted by u/ShareFlat4478 15 hours ago What's the biggest "Green Flag" that could be misinterpreted as a "Red Flag"?
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    plasma_dan 14 hr. ago Not having any social media 2.2k Reply Share
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    crazyrich 15 hr. ago Being able to own up to and speak to personal faults and failings could easily be misread at the beginning stages of dating. 10.9k Reply Share
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    neuroid 99 10 hr. ago I once told a woman I was seeing that I was having some feelings of jealousy over something, that I recognized those feelings as irrational, and she didn't need to do anything different, I was just letting her know. She immediately ended things. In hindsight, just a sign that things weren't going to work anyway, but sheesh. 3.0k ↓ Reply Share
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    DukeofVermont 9 hr. ago Depends on where she is coming from. She might have had a very jealous ex and didn't want to deal with that at all.
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    Momentofclarity_2022 11 hr. ago Close relationship with a parent. Yes I've met "momma's boys" but also sons who are attentive to his mom. Or dad. Same for daughters. 5.9k ↓ Reply Share
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    I_Poop_Sometimes 10 hr. ago Agreed, there's a difference between having a close and healthy relationship with your parents, and having an unhealthy momma's boy/daddy's girl relationship with your parents where they're just enabling your ineptitude and immaturity. ↑ 1.7k ↓ Reply Share
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    FinalGirl678 · 9 hr. ago Same goes for with siblings. I've had guys call my relationship with my brother "creepy" or "weird" just because we get along so well and are always there for each other. I'm sorry it's apparently normal to have a toxic or sibling rivalry relationship?
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    huckster235 · 6 hr. ago I've seen/been the "not close" with family version of this. I don't have much a relationship with my family. They were very abusive and narcissistic. I'm a kinder, more thoughtful, gentler man because I actively STRIVE to not be like them and distance myself.
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    Most women I've dated either look at me funny when I say I'm not close family, or feel it's personal when Im slow to have them meet family. My lack of relationship with my sister particularly is something women either find odd, or want to fix.
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    Likewise I know guys will talk about Daddy issues with women, but some of the most kind, intelligent, grounded women I've met have bad or pretty much non-existent fathers.
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    sammcgowann 10 hr. ago I thought my husband was full of because he was so nice to me while dating. 6 years later it turns out he's just genuinely a good person. ↑ 2.5k ↓ Reply Share
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    esperlihn 8 hr. ago Lmao I love the idea of you just casually sideyeing this man through various major relationship milestones before standing in a beautiful home with a beautiful family being like "Oh my god, he's actually just a good person" ✩ 1.3k 1.3k Reply Share
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    moosecakems • 10 hr. ago Overly kind. Someone that loves and appreciates you like a golden retriever. Some people distrust happy and warm people 3.5k Reply Share
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    you-want-nodal · 8 hr. ago One of my good friends at university was a friend of a friend first, and when I was first introduced to her I didn't warm to her very quickly because she was just so nice I though she had to be fake. She was asking me questions about myself and although my answers were quite standard/mundane, she seemed to show a genuine interest in what I was saying with some excellent follow up questions.
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    I didn't trust that sort of engagement, her smiling and eye contact it felt like she was so good at being nice to be around it had to be an act.
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    As I got to know her more, it turned out I was just broken and she was absolutely that nice of a person! She's doing well in life and I can't think of anyone else who deserves that more. ↑ 1.2k ↓ Reply Share
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    11thNite 12 hr. ago Clear boundaries. If you come in with emotional immaturity, boundaries can seem cruel, arbitrary, and alienating 4.9k ↓ Reply Share EmperorKira 9 hr. ago At the same time, I've seen people use boundaries as excuses not to address real issues ↑ 1.3k ↓ Reply Share
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    Askefyr 9 hr. ago ● Therapy speak has worked its way into a lot of people's vocabulary, and it's genuinely a problem. Plenty people will demand insane things and go "please respect my boundaries"
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    TRY TO EROTE PRYSELF 52 1 STAY CRI gutterpoett 9 hr. ago Correct. "Boundaries" are actually meant to be applied to oneself. For example, "If this person does XYZ, MY boundary is to exit the situation."
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    godoolally 7 hr. ago Oh my... I have noticed this. Someone accused me of gas-lighting them when I called them out on lying. I asked "what is gas-lighting?" "I can't define it, but you are doing it!"
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    DarthJiveTurkey 10 hr. ago Had a coworker saying that the way I talk about my ex is both a red and green flag. Because I speak very highly of her it seems like I'm still hung up, but it's also good that I'm not someone constantly talking on my ex
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    lampcouchfireplace 3 hr. ago I think a good relationship with exes is a green flag. Not a weird obsessive hangup, but people whose previous relationships didn't end in a big disaster speaks to their ability to choose good partners and to end things with maturity and grace if the time comes.
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    If your boyfriend or girlfriend one "crazy ex" well, everyone has bad luck some times. If they tell you all of their exes are insane? Youte probably going to be the next one.
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    Donttrickvix 9 hr. ago Bro when I was dating I had men get upset with me because I would admit when I was wrong. "Why don't you put up a fight" because I'd still be wrong like huh???
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    Rogue Alt07 10 hr. ago edited 6 hr. ago Sharing your insecurities. If you are comfortable enough with a partner to explain what makes you tick, I'd say that flag is greener than a traffic light Holy 2.2k this blew up Reply Share ●●●

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