Bridesmaid Personally Invites Several Extra People to Bachelorette Party, Demands That Bride Foot the Bill

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Sienna Varady
Feb 19, 2024 9:00 AM EST

Since weddings are joyous occasions, everything associated with them should only be characterized as amazing or thrilling; anything less is completely unacceptable. However, as we are all aware, life is full of surprises, and a bachelorette party wouldn't be the same without some drama.

Thus, the account that follows is the story of a disappointed sister. The Original Poster (OP) gladly agrees to serve as a bridesmaid and takes an active part in her sister's wedding. Everyone is invited to the bachelorette party that the bridesmaids have planned, including one spouse and two children… Yeah, you heard that right! OP's sister-in-law took full advantage of the situation and booked a trip for her and her husband. Basically, the sister-in-law demanded that the bride pay for both herself and her partner—OP's brother, by the way! But at this point, OP has had enough of her sister-in-law's selfish behavior and decides to finally speak up in support of her younger sister. To put it mildly, OP's comments were not well received. Having said that, if you want to find out what happens, read the story below! When you're done, be sure to read the story about the ex-girlfriend that comes crawling back after 6 years!

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  • 01
    Update: SIL is unemployed, therefore making everyone feel bad for her. I kind of feel bad for her, but honestly, my brother should be providing for his family or they need to plan better and only have SIL go if they can't afford to pay for the whole family. In my opinion, just because the bride has a job and SIL doesn't, we shouldn't be charging bride for the hotel and giving a cheap family trip to SIL.
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    AITA bachelorette drama
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    The bride (21F) has all my sisters (including sis-in-law) as bridesmaids. I'm the oldest (30F) married. My sister MOH (27F) is married and has a 1 yo. Sister in law (24F) married has 2 kids under 4. The last bridesmaid is (15F). MOH wants to plan bachelorette and invite all of the girls and their families
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  • 04
    invite all of the girls and their families along. I am used to bachelorettes being one day or one weekend, but I went along with it because this is my little sis. They all want to go to Florida, fine. From the beginning, I made it clear that I work and have limited
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  • 05
    time-off. Not to mention, we have another wedding to attend on the other side of the country, plus I took 1.5 weeks off to assist with wedding prep for the sister's destination wedding. They picked dates for the trip, I requested them off, and they got approved. Bridesmaid (15F) had a
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  • 06
    fit and wanted to change dates to make it longer (6 days) because flight was too expensive for just 5 days. I was told I should just deal with traveling alone if I didn't like the change. This upset me, and I pleaded not to leave me to travel by myself.
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    Bride was accommodating and picked new dates that worked for everyone (5 days). We booked everything. Now they want to book a hotel. Except MOH isn't splitting the cost fairly. I was going to it up and stay silent because I don't like confrontation, but
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  • 08
    something told me that if I don't ask questions now, it'll only cause bigger problems. So I asked how it's being split up because something wasn't adding up. I will be traveling alone and being told by MOH (best friends with sis in law) that we all are paying
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  • 09
    the same price as my sis-in-law who is dragging her husband and 2 kids on this trip. That's 3 extra people traveling??? They also want to charge bride her portion because she is too nice and insisted on covering her hotel because she felt guilty. So when
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  • 10
    I brought up the issue of charging bride but not the sis-in-law with her family (4 people), I was basically c sed out by MOH and told to pay because "the bride agreed to it." Then MOH accused me of sabotaging the whole trip, called me pathetic and
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    broke, demanded I pay the amount she said, and turned all the other girls against me. All because I asked how it's being split up and that it would make no sense to me. To further clarify, MOH said all other expenses such as car rental, gas, activities,
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  • 12
    drinks/food, etc. were going to be split up the same way (we will be covering bride expenses, though). So the rest of us girls (not just bridesmaids) are chipping in while sis- in-law is only paying for 1 person??? I thought it was messed up. Btw It's not
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  • 13
    a money issue for me but more of fairness and why there is favoritism being allowed. Other girls are too scared to speak up for fear of being labeled "ungenerous" or other labels. (Not attending is not an option). What should I say or do? Is there something I can do? I'm perplexed.
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    Update: SIL is unemployed, therefore making everyone feel bad for her. I kind of feel bad for her, but honestly, my brother should be providing for his family or they need to plan better and only have SIL go if they can't afford to pay for the whole family. In
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    my opinion, just because the bride has a job and SIL doesn't, we shouldn't be charging bride for the hotel and giving a cheap family trip to SIL. SIL should've known this prior to agreeing to being a bridesmaid. It's not cheap. On another note, MOH
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    ended up changing the price for the hotel in the end but continues to be and condescending. I'm not sure what will be done with the rest of the expenses, so I'm nervous.
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    mia_magenta. 1 day ago If SIL and her husband can't afford to travel with their whole family to attend a bachelorette party, why is all the family going? The cost of their travels should not be put on other people. It's not their wedding. But it's surely their own family...
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    If I understand correctly, the bride is your little sister? And MOH demanded that she pays for most of her travel expenses on her own bachelorette party?
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    I think if anyone in the bridal party could put out more money than needed to cover their own expenses, the rest should be offered to the bride. Not to SIL's family. That is what I would tell everyone on the bridal party in a group chat. I would also inform the bridal
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    party that you will handle your own expenses yourself (or give MOH the exact amount of your expenses if she's the one to handle the transaction), and that any available money you have for the bachelorette party will be transferred directly to the bride.
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    LibraryMouse4321 · 16 hr. ago This! The bridal party is supposed to be covering the cost of the bride, not the families of the other bridesmaids. You need to get all the other bridesmaids onboard with this. You cover the cost of
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    the bride and each bridesmaid covers the cost of any family members joining them. This doesn't sound like a bachelorette party, it's a family vacation.
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    TSnow1021 1 day ago She's acting like YOU'RE causing issues & being cheap, but she's making everyone else pay for her FAMILY VACATION!? Sounds like SHE'S the cheap one. I'd make something up & suddenly not be able to go. She will have yall covering her
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    family's food & everything. Someone tell her a bachelorette party isn't supposed to cover MOH's family vacation! WTH!
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    Karamist623 - 1 day ago When you do a bachelorette party, the cost is usually split equally between the bridesmaids. The bride usually does not pay, but that is when it's just the bridesmaids and the bride.
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    In this case, everyone should pay for their own airfare and their hotel room. You would pay for your own airfare, and the hotel room. Everyone should split the brides cost for the same. End of story. If the families want to come, that's fine, but the cost should not be split.
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    sdbinnl 1 day ago Say NO and mean it. This is not a fair ride and she knows it. Withdraw and move on
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    lanebanethrowaway 20 hr. ago That is 100% WRONG. MOH is basically getting a free family vacation on your expense. I would talk to your sister about it and drop out of the bachelorette. And since the other girls are already against you, If you want to start a war(I
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  • 29
    know I would after the pathetic and broke comment) I would text this, “Unfortunately, I'm dropping out of the bachelorette due to MOH splitting the expenses unfairly and having my sister pay while MOH's adult husband
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    and children don't have to. This should be about my sister not a free family vacation for MOH. I love my sister and would do anything for her, but I'm not going to have someone insult me and call me pathetic and
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    broke because they can't afford for their husband and kids to have a vacation. I hope you all have fun and don't spend too much on her family vacation."
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