‘That money will never be yours’: Boyfriend Demands a Share In Girlfriend's Large Inheritance To Finance His 'Boy's Trip,' She Embarrasses Him In Front of His Friends

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    Posted by u/cereal-killher 1 day ago AITAH for "embarrasing" my fiancé by saying that just because we are getting married does not entitle him to my inheritance?
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    I (32F) recently got engaged to my partner (35M) just a year ago. As of right now we have been together 5 years, and our wedding is planned for May 2025.
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    I am just going to get straight into it. Unfortunately, only a couple of weeks after our engagement, my nanna passed away, the reason for it I will not disclose. My nanna and grandpa worked extremely hard throughout their lives, were very successful, educated and had really high paying jobs. They were very restricted on spending money young and so lived their elderly
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    years with lots of it. Worth noting my grandpa is a very, very intelligent man, and he's very smart with money and investments, so when I say lots, I do mean lots.
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    My nanna wrote a hugely generous sum of money into her will that was to be inherited by me, my brother and my three cousins. Even after the money was divided up, there was still thousands to each of our names. I also won't disclose the exact amount.
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    When I heard the news, I told my fiancé and he was incredibly overjoyed, much more than I expected him to be. I went along with it and shrugged it off until later in the day I heard him on the game with his mates saying "I can pay my credit card off with that money mate! We can finally get that boys holiday we've been planning, ay?" and laughing.
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    I walked into the room and asked "What money?" and he immediately looked at me funny and said "From your nan, babe."
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    I immediately exploded on him and said "You won't be paying anything off without my permission, and there most certainly will be no 'boys' holiday. It's not your money to have, it's written to me from MY nanna, it's not for you."
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    We had a shouting match and I left the room upset, he later got off the game and found me in the kitchen where he scolded me again and said "We are getting married, you will become my financial BURDEN. Any money you take in is mine also. It was incredibly selfish of you to make such a fool out of me in front of my friends and giving them false hope
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    of a holiday." Again, worth noting it wasn't me who said anything about a holiday, and where I become a financial burden I don't know considering I am in a very good job, and don't want children.
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    I left the house without saying a word and am typing this at my friend's house right now. I forgot to mention that this incident has literally just happened, the reason my fiancé only just found out is because until now even I didn't know if the money was coming to me or not due to several family and court complications.
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    AITAH? EDIT; This was originally posted yesterday, I have spent the night at my friend's house.
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    midnightschild. 6 hr. ago You really want to marry this guy? There are 2 problems: 1. He assumed he's entitled to the money 2. He assumed he can spend it on a
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    spend it on a discretionary item that does not include you Pt2. is the bigger problem
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    PrideofCapetown. 5 hr. ago Nanna gave OP 2 gifts: • the money • got the fiancé ● to reveal how much of an he was BEFORE any marriage or co-
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    marriage or co- mingling of assets. OP needs to run like her tampon string is on fire. And before he tries to baby trap her
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    MistakeOk2518. 2 hr. ago Better yet... make sure there is NO MARRIAGE to bring the money to!
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    bardo666- 2 hr. ago Yes. The silver lining here is she is seeing something about him that is unflattering with regards to his values... They clearly don't line up with hers.. It happens pretty often in relationships, you get engaged, it's a bad
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    situation, you go through with it anyway & live a miserable life because you felt obligated to make it work or whatever. Just give him the ring back, & be free.. It's a big, beautiful world..
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    Mobile-Programmer-77. 3 hr. ago Fiancé's entitlement to your inheritance is a major red flag. Set boundaries or reconsider. #RespectYourSpace #FinancialBoundaries
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    TwinZylander214. 4 hr. ago I came to say but I clearly wouldn't have been as colorful in my description.
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    OP, do not marry this guy. He showed his true colors. Obvious NTA and you just dodged a bullet. Thank your grandmother for it!
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    Hyacinth_Bouque. 4 hr. ago Absolutely. The second gift from Nanna is worth its weight in gold.
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    dumbassdruid · 5 hr. ago 3. you're not even married and he's calling you a BURDEN. NTA and think long and hard about this relationship
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    Just-some-peep. 5 hr. ago That's because in his mind her money is already his. While he is the one with debt. Some delulu entitlement going on.

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