'She called me spoiled and entitled': Rich kid doesn't get extravagant 18th birthday party, accuses parents of picking favorites

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Mar 4, 2024 4:00 PM EST

For once, the ruthless folks of the internet sided with a potentially entitled rich kid. What backward universe are we living in? Well, it turns out the only thing worse than clueless, entitled kids are their clueless, entitled parents. 

This thread was posted to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit by u/Odd_Emotion662, a young man whose sister got to have an extravagant party for her 18th birthday. Clearly, the original poster got it in his head that when he turned 18, he would get similar treatment. Well, that didn't happen. In fact, his mother accused him of being selfish for entertaining the idea. It seems like the only decent person in the family is the kid's sister, who took it upon herself to take her brother out to dinner because his parents wouldn't even go so far as to do that (and clearly, they had the money to do so). Normally, folks on this subreddit are quick to smell out entitlement, and while some of them did that, most were surprisingly sympathetic. It sounds like what this guy needs is some real friends to spend his birthday with over a chill meal or a movie. Good company is really all you need.

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    APPY BERINGA
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    AITA for being upset with my family that my birthday party wasn't big enough? Growing up, my older sister (27F) enjoyed lavish birthdays. Her 16th was an extravaganza, with live musicians, a rented space, and catering, while I (20M) got to leave the country for the first time for my 16th. Although I loved it, this trip became something held over my head and used as my 17th birthday present and two Christmas presents as well. It never felt like a gift, instead a reason to make me feel spoiled and
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    For my 18th, I expected a celebration like my sister's extravagant 18th, but my parents seemed disinterested. I ended up sharing a party with a family friend who didn't like me and receiving regifted presents, and a store-bought cake.
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    On my actual birthday, my family planned nothing. When I confronted my mom, she dismissed my feelings, causing an argument in which she called me spoiled and entitled. The entire thing ruined my birthday.
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    My sister took me out to dinner, but my mom had an outburst that made me cry and feel terrible. it was the worst birthday ever and it still bothers me. I'm worried for my upcoming 21st and wondering if I should even involve my family at all. Am I the for feeling neglected compared to my sister's celebrations? Should I just be more understanding and appreciative?
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    [EDIT] Re-clarification, grammar mistakes, and added information: 1.After I confronted my mom abt them not planning anything, my sister called and said she wanted to take me out to dinner with her husband. We made plans to do so. My mom decided about 1 hr before our reservations that she wanted to bring the rest of the family including herself even though she was not invited. When I said I didn't want her to go, she and my dad had the outburst.
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    2. So the trip I went on was through my high school, I went with about 15 other kids, and it was a lot of fun! 3. My sister is a child of divorce, her dad paid child support until she was 18. 4.My sister got a car for her 16th along with an extravagant party, that's why I deem it very expensive.
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    plaid prettypatty 10 hr. ago Folk don't take too kindly to richies 'round here spits of tobacco chew on the the ground But in all seriousness, I've seen a post from a well off mother who lost her newborn to her abusive boyfriend and she got on as if her money meant something in that regard (I can't remember why money was even brought up, but that's the thing the pack of rabid dogs clung to).
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    But no, you're NTA, as the youngest who never got even a fraction of what my older siblings got, it hurts and definitely makes you feel less loved or wanted. Especially that your birthday trip was used against you for years and from the sounds of it, was your birthday and Christmas present for at least two years. It's mighty alright to feel upset. But you best not care or want anything from them again because they showed you exactly how they feel about you vs your sister. Reply Share 519
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    Odd Emotion662 OP. 10 hr. ago That's actually insane, I hope that woman is recovering from that. And thank you for your kind words and the advice. I've been trying to transition to an independent lifestyle so I don't have to deal with them dangling a carrot in front of my face for the rest of my life, and it's hard. But I think ultimately it'll be worth it. 4212 Reply Share
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    Adorable-Substance21 10 hr. ago edited 3 hr. ago Unpopular opinion apparently NTA. It doesn't matter what the rest of us get for our birthday's or not. That doesn't seem like that's actually the issue.
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    It seems like your trip and your sisters party for each of your 16th birthdays was about the same amount of money spent. However yours then got spread over 4 or 5 gifts total? And your sisters didn't. That's complete favouritism right there.
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    Then as it seems like your sister got another big blow out on her 18th birthday as well, and you got (essentially) a pitty party. Then ridiculed for pointing out it wasn't fair. I think it would be one thing after your sisters 18th party, your parents financially were unable to continue to throw these big extravagant parties. But that doesn't seem to be the case. Your parents just seem to be playing favourites and that
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    I would honestly plan your own day (or at least tell your family you have plans) and think about going low to no contact as soon as you can. Reply Share 225
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    Waste-Independent-21 10 hr. ago Info: You say your sister was a child of divorce. Was her other parent/family footing the bill for her parties? Reply Share 166
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    Odd Emotion662 OP. 10 hr. ago Not directly but her dad paid child support every month to my mom until she was 18. He also paid for her first two years of college.
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    Ill-Replacement-6344 · 10 hr. ago NTA. Holding a "gift" over your head for years is wrong and reeks of obvious favoritism. Anyone calling you TA because you received a huge trip as a "gift" is just bitter and jealous that they didn't have the same opportunity. 111 Reply Share
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    endless-sky-stone 10 hr. ago NTA, and I think you need to have a mature and calm convo with your mum about why it's important to you that they show they care. It doesn't always mean digging into a wallet but there are ways to make someone feel special on a budget. I would invite the family but set expectations on what you need from them to help or get a friend to coordinate. When you look back at the photos in ten years will you want to see your mum and family there? I'm guessing yes.
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    9and3of4 5 hr. ago ESH. You can't really blame that the sister gets more financial freedom because of her dad.
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    BestAd5844 9 hr. ago . Make your own plans with your own friends. If you make plans for something you really want to do than your birthday won't be a disappointment- especially if you keep your expectations of your family low
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