‘You bought me the gift for yourself’: Boyfriend Disappoints Girlfriend With Revealing Undergarment Gift For Birthday, Making Her Feel Unappreciated

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    ● r/AITAH 16 hr. ago burner71836 AITA for refusing to wear the lingerie my boyfriend bought me for my birthday
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    I (25F) been dating my boyfriend (26M) for a just over a year and i'd say I've done really well at buying him gifts for his birthday, Christmas and valentine's day. It was my birthday 3 days ago and my boyfriend gave me a lingerie set and a box of chocolates. I literally only wear lingerie for him so his gift felt more like a present for himself and the chocolates are like so cheap
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    obviously money isn't important but it just feels like he didn't even bother finding anything i'd actually like. I got really upset at him and we got into an argument over it and i've made him sleep on the couch since.
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    I haven't worn the lingerie or opened the chocolates because i'm just so | off at him like I get that he doesn't have as much money as I do but he could've at least put thought into what he got me instead of just getting be chocolates and lingerie that he only bought me so he could get off on me wearing it. Like for his birthday I bought lingerie for myself and surprised him with it
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    as one of his presents because he's like it when I wear it and I only wear it for him it just feels weird and gross yk? ugh. My boyfriend has been trying to persuade me to try it on and he said i'll look really good or whatever but I've just been ignoring him I don't wanna speak to him rn like I've tried
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    My boyfriend has been trying to persuade me to try it on and he said i'll look really good or whatever but I've just been ignoring him I don't wanna speak to him rn like I've tried so hard for every present i've bought him and i've put so much thought into it. He said i'm overreacting. AITA? Should I be grateful? Am I just overreacting?
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    ResultSecret2021 • 11h ago Another relationship to place your bets on folks. Lmao!
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    kezzarla 16h ago NTA - as you said the gift was for him, sounds like he doesn't understand your love language or why you're offended that he didn't think about something you would like. He's not going to get it unless you sit down and have a conversation about it, if you address it and he does the same again then consider if
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    you want to stay in a relationship where you don't feel valued
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    xosherlock • 15h ago I re-read your post and NTA. It almost sounds like a last minute gift (cheap chocolate). AS far as the lingerie, most 'bedroom ' lingerie isn't all the comfortable so yes, it is more for him than you. Have you thought about telling him how you fell and how the gifts made you feel. This is still a new
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    relationship, "just over a year", so if you like him and barring this incident really care for him then communication is key for the going the distance in any relationship. Your voice matters and he should know how you feel. If it him off and he throws a hissy, better to know now than 5 years down the road. Good luck!
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    Reduncked Nta lol you buy lingerie for his birthday not the other way around. ● 14h ago
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    [deleted] 13h ago Yeah.. that's a valentines present. Birthday should be more personal. I love lingerie and heels ALOT!!! and I know better than this!! lol I've also been married for 10 years. Teach him the error of his ways. He's just an idiot that's love having with you. lol
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    dickpierce69. 16h ago Probably NTA. Only question being, have you ever expressed that you feel in or love wearing lingerie? I have bought my wife lingerie in the past, albeit not for a birthday, because she generally feels and desired when she wears it. It makes her feel better. If you've expressed
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    better. If you've expressed these feelings, maybe he was thinking about how you'd feel. If not, you're definitely NTA and he's selfish.
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    Diligent-Ability-447. 12h ago NTA. Wear it on his birthday.
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    Fun_Comparison4973 12h ago Save it for his birthday. Get him nothing and just wear the lingerie. Let's see how much of a "gift" he thinks it is then. Either he likes it and you've spent nothing, awesome. And if he doesn't like it, tough
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    2dogslife 12h ago There's that scene in Working Girl where Melanie Griffin's character says to Alec Baldwin, "You know Nick, it would be nice if you bought me something I could wear outside of the house for my birthday like earrings or something." ΝΤΑ
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    You could watch the movie with him and play that scene on repeat! It's a real issue. I mean there must be a book, or CD, or DVD, or something small that wouldn't break the bank but would show he pays attention or at least knows where to find your Amazon wishlist!
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    Wanda_McMimzy • 11h ago Next time you give him a gift, give him lingerie for him to wear.
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    Wombat_wobble • 13h ago We are under no obligation to wear any clothing bought for us, like any gifts or use them. You are even less obliged to wear something he bought for his pleasure if you dont want too! Especially if it is making you feel cheap and there at his disposal as and when required- which I'm suspecting this has
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    which I'm suspecting this has done. He used your birthday as an opportunity for self gratification, though I doubt he grasps that.
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    You deserve better. Or you could return the favour with a ring and gimp mask......
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    Worried_Oil8913 • 11h ago Wear it to bed while he sleeps on the couch; win / win
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    Whippasnapa02.• 15h ago clearly a self gift. NTA
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    Cute-Profession9983 • 15h ago NTA is this the usual? You give him gifts he wants and then he Homer Simpsons you? Other than liking how you look, is he even into you?

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