‘The inheritance is all mine’: Husband Threatens to Quit Job After Wife Inherits a Large Sum From Her Father and Proceeds Keeps Her Trust Fund Away From Him

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Mar 14, 2024 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies of the internet. Money can complicate things. Everything is going fine, in one singular direction, when suddenly an inheritance comes to slap you and your family in the face. Falling into a huge sum of money is obviously helpful, but it can distort relationships. Unfortunately, humans are not yet able to detach themselves from material items in this way…so sad. 

So as nice as it can be to get money you didn't expect or work for, there can be unpredictable consequences. Like that you suddenly quit your job but you don't have a backup, or you get in fights with your husband or family over money. It can be a really ugly thing to fight over money, but hey, it's human nature in a way. For some reason we put a green piece of paper before many other things, because money makes the world go round I suppose.

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  • 01
    r/AITAH • 13 hr. ago Throwawaywinherit AITA for threatening to quit my job because my wife just randomly quit hers?
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    My (35M) wife (33F) inherited a large chunk of her late father's sizable estate. She made it very clear that the money she inherited was supposed to go to her dad's bloodline, also known as her and our children (13F, 9M). That I'm not entitled to a cent of it.
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    We live in North Dakota and I make $52k a year doing a property management job I hate. It gets old driving around dealing with tenants who take their frustration out on me because my boss decided to cut corners. My wife worked as an accounts payable clerk making $32k. She
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    hated her job because there was no growth and it was boring. But she held the job to show her dad she was responsible. Her dad died and now she inherited a 5 bedroom mortgage free house in another state. It's in one of the most HCOL areas near a private college where nearly all the students come from East Coast private schools.
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    She rented out the house by bedroom to students, and gets $6,000 a month when it's all said and done. The rest of her inheritance is locked in a trust that pays out $15k a month. Living in North Dakota, the approximately $252,000 she gets is more than enough to live well.
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    However, I feel my wife has been unfair with how she's handled the money. Right away, she rented herself a BMW. And then she decided she was done cooking and would order out every day. The problem is I have high cholesterol and a lot of the foods aren't good for me, and the foods that are good for me, she never leaves enough real leftovers.
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    I can stomach the fact that her inheritance is hers, but it does hurt that I've never resisted picking up the financial burden when I earned more but she hoards all her new money. She puts her inheritance disbursements and rent income all into accounts under her name, and meanwhile our day job incomes kept
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    going into joint bank accounts. That would make sense but then she quit her job out of the blue last week. She said she looked at her boss (50F) and that she was not cut out to work until she was old like her. She wants to pursue her passion of photography but doesn't want to earn money from it.
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    So she quit. But the problem is that she quit because she gets $250k+ basically effort free. I don't benefit from that but still have to pay for the mortgage and other household expenses since she refuses to pay for it, citing it is joint expenses. We got in a fight and I threatened to quit my job too if we were all
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    quitting jobs now because work is hard. Her rationalization was that she buys takeout every day for us now, so my job was enough to pay for our mortgage. I asked that if she wants to upgrade houses like she upgrades cars I'm guessing the new house won't be in my name. Will I have to pay the maintenance/ contribute to mortgage payments?
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    She said I should have to because it would be living expenses that I would benefit just as much as her. AITA for being annoyed at her selfishness?
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    Quelala •⚫12h ago NTA. Does your wife expect you to pay the full mortgage because that is joint property and she doesn't feel she needs to put her money to joint property. Did a read that right? Inheritance is separate property and yes legally you don't have a right to that. If she is going to
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    be that stingy I would start putting all my money in a separate account so that you can control how your salary is spent. And if she's that transactional with her spouse maybe I'd just look into getting a divorce so that she can Scrooge McDuck all on her own.
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    CandyandCrypto • 12h ago Do not quit your job out of spite. That would be dumb. You should immediately create your own account and have all your checks deposited in that account....no more joint account at all! Then decide if you still want to be with her or not. If you do stay then split all bills as
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    evenly as you can. But don't be surprised when she decides she wants to run off with her new money.
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    Current-Cobbler5666 • 12h ago I am in your wife's position and have an income from inherited money each month in excess of your wife's. I pay for our entire life including our cars, mortgage, food, vacation, etc. I choose not to work, but my husband conversely chooses to work in education. From his job
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    we get wonderful health insurance. I am incredibly grateful for his contribution. If he were to choose to retire I would be fine with this. We are a partnership and I would never treat him this way. Please prioritize yourself and your children. You are worth so much more than this.
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    newprairiegirl • 12h ago I think the real question is does your wife still want to be married. If it was me getting that kind of money I would want to make life easy for my whole family. At the very least she should contribute funds equal to
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    income, meaning she should be paying far more of the household expenses relative to annual income. B
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    Frazzledragon • 12h ago So, she wants the "joint" expenses to be fully paid from the "joint" account, which you are paying into, while the 6000 in rent payments goes to her private account?
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    Sounds to me like that should count as joint income, while the trust fund's monthly payment remain inheritance territory. So, probably NTA, because I think you are getting the short end of the stick here.
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    Dlrae... 12h ago Edited 8h ago NTA There's no way in I would stay married to someone who treated Me like that. Your wife is an epic AH
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    BlueGreen_1956 • 12h ago ΝΤΑ The inheritance showed you your wife's true colors. Divorce her and let her enjoy the money. You will be rid of her and your resentment.
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    Nightlover813 • 13h ago Get a lawyer
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