'There's a financial literacy crisis happening': Woman spends $30,000 of her ex-boyfriend's money, he fails to notice for 3 years

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Apr 11, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

Money is a difficult topic in many romantic relationships. If you get serious enough, you will inevitably have to get serious about finances too—and that can lead to a sticky situation if you ever break up. It's a big part of the reason that many divorces are prolonged and painful.

What isn't often discussed is that the financial side of things can also be tricky if your split is amicable. This is something that one man recently discovered after he complained to Reddit that his ex-girlfriend had been exploiting his bank account for the past three years post-breakup. Explaining how they had remained friends and she still had access to his debit card details on her phone, he claimed that she had spent around $30k on DoorDash and Amazon during this period.

When this story hit Twitter, most were not impressed with how this guy had failed to notice what was happening. How much money does a person have to earn to be able to ignore this for so long?

 

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    еуспеш @LeaMaric There's a financial literacy crisis happening. Follow
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    r/ r/legaladvice u/dbaser13 17h Join Ex-girlfriend spent @ 30k on amazon and DoorDash over a 3-year period. I didn't notice. We remained friends after breaking up. I'm terrible with keeping an eye on my finances. I have a normal checking account that receives my paychecks via direct-deposit and auto-pays my credit cards. I never look at it. She had used my debit card frequently when we were together, and it was saved on her iOS devices. I put a stop to it a couple months ago, and I'm wondering w
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    punk rock HR manager @SureZher Replying to @LeaMaric Follow This isn't financial literacy IMHO, but a lack of impulse control, denial of spending habits and an attitude of "if I can afford it, who cares"
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    @LaMaric 03 Apr The fact that he doesn't bother to check his statements at all, even just for fraud, is pretty stupid though.
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    Patti McClowry @pattimcclowry • 03 Apr: Replying to @LeaMaric She could just say that he told her to do this and is all of a sudden regretting his choice three years later. Since it's been going on for 3 years without him stopping it, seems like it would imply consent, or at least would be hard to prove consent wasn't given 127 1.7K 215K ex @LeaMaric ⚫ 03 Apr She very easily could get away with that. He'd have to find some kind of documentation (idk if texts would count tbh) of their official br
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    Alex Hansel @al hansel87 - 03 Apr Replying to @LeaMaric Does he just not even look at his statement/ transactions? Cannot imagine lol
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    KECH ndgo 138k @ndgoHODL 03 Apr Replying to @LeaMaric It's extremely based that he makes enough to not even notice
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    Dr. Rupert, Archbigot @RupertVonRipp Replying to @LeaMaric Follow I'd ask how you spend 10k a year on delivery take out but that's what? A few times a week?
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    Light Blue Truck @LightBlueChevy Replying to @LeaMaric Follow That's $27/day. If it's normal household stuff from Amazon that you would have bought anyway and a couple doordashes per month, that's not that bad.
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    Atticus 32 13 L... @onexrd Replying to @LeaMaric Follow It's such a problem that at this point I refuse to call it a financial literacy problem. It's a people not using their brains bc their parents didn't use their brains problem
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    visible viscera @powerhouseQueer Replying to @LeaMaric not even a savings account?! Follow
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    Alevity @AlevityXiaku 03 Apr • Replying to @LeaMaric I think it's more telling the absurdity that this lifestyle costs 30k. Cuz if you think about it, DoorDash doesn't work if it's only ever supposed to be a luxury tier. If only the rich had DoorDash access, they'd go under and a lotta people would lose their jobs.
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    TheManAnimal @The_Man_Animal Replying to @LeaMaric Follow 27+ bucks a day on takeout. Holy Just imagine how much more food you could get with that 20$ markup.
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    @al Qemist . 6d Must be loaded. That is a rich idiot problem
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    brianna @justbrizigs 04 Apr if i don't check my bank account for three days i get stressed out
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    LONDER rusty/reva @pr3cipitation 04 Apr • ...are yall not checking your statements in your banking app every time you buy something so you know exactly how much money you have? am i just overly anxious????
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    Kitty Wenham-Ross @kittywenham Follow why is everyone more baffled by someone spending 10k a year on deliveries and not the person who doesn't notice they're losing 10k a year
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    Lisan al Gaeulib @DonGaeuleone Follow I was thinking 30k isn't a lot for like 3 years till I realized he meant POST break up which lol
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    Venom Rach P @SocialNomadRach Follow The first mistake was staying friends. The second was not changing your credit card information immediately.
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    The Neighborhood Publ... @nhoodpublicist Follow was Umm this breaks down to $800 a month over a 3 year period. And I bet his eating a lot of the food they got delivered so what is he exactly mad at? That food cost that much or that he didn't look at his bank statements?
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