‘Try and stop me’: Woman Finds Out Her Manager Is Having an Affair With a Coworker, She Collects Evidence to Show Manager’s Wife

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Apr 17, 2024 9:00 AM EDT

Can someone please explain to me why there are women out there who knowingly go out with married men? Are there not enough single men out there? Why would you develop a relationship with someone you know is not loyal and has no problem cheating on the person who is supposed to be the most important to them?

I wish I could ask these questions to the woman in this Reddit story because I honestly don't get her. Long story short, OP (original poster) found out that two of her coworkers - "Jane" and "John",  have been having an affair, while John's wife is at home with their newborn baby. OP confronted Jane about it, but she didn't seem to care that much. Now, these two lovely people are giving OP a hard time at work, and she is seriously considering telling the wife about their relationship.

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    Two coworkers (25F & 35M) are having an affair. How can I inform the wife?
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    I (25F) work as a receptionist. Four months ago, I made the stupid decision to recommend my (now former) best friend "Jane" (25F) for an open position after someone had left. It's a
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    prestigious hotel, so they are very selective about their hiring process. Jane had little to no experience, so I took a risk by vouching for her. Looking back, it was dumb, but I knew she
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    was a hard worker and I could've never guessed what was to come. I trained her during her first month, and she picked things up quickly. After that we began working separate shifts. It was
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    around this time that I started noticing a weird dynamic between her and "John" (35+? M), our chief receptionist. One night when I arrived for my shift, I found them acting all
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    giggly and their body language just seemed off. They didn't notice me at first, but when they did, they tried a little too much to act cool which raised some red flags. There have been too many similar
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    situations over the months, but I tried to deny it. John just had a baby, and his wife comes at least 4-5 times a week, sometimes with the baby too. Jane sees this as well, and I just couldn't think she would do something like that.
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    But the awkward tension, quick glances, and giggles just wouldn't quit, so I brought it up two weeks ago when we were out for drinks. I was floored by her response. She confessed in a playful manner almost like
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    sharing a dirty secret. She said they couldn't keep their hands off each other and that she had wanted to "spill the tea", but didn't want to involve me in the "drama." When I brought up his wife and their newborn child,
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    she said she didn't care. Apparently John told her they had been sleeping in separate beds, and his wife stopped caring about the marriage after the pregnancy, and other like that.
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    I was disgusted and we had a major fight. She stormed off and cut all contact with me. Since then, going to work has . John is in charge of been our shifts and ever since our fight, he's been giving me the
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    worst shifts and making sure we're not scheduled together. I've considered telling the wife since day one, but I don't have any proof. Same with our manager and HR. I texted Jane saying, "Tell your boyfriend to
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    stop giving me the worst shifts," hoping for a response that could serve as evidence, but she didn't reply. One week ago, someone got sick, and I had to work with the two evil . Close to our
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    lunch break, John's wife came in to bring him lunch. She looked tired as too, and my heart broke for her. Then I noticed something on John's wrist. He had Jane's scrunchy on his wrist (he also has long hair, but I know for a fact it's hers). He
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    held and kissed the baby with the _.scrunchy. on. his. wrist. I legitimately thought I was gonna throw up. I had a panic a ck (I think?) at the smoking area. I was crying and couldn't breathe.
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    I come from a divorced family because of my father's infidelity, so this hits too close to home. I am losing sleep. Please tell me what should I do
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    in this situation? Should I send the wife an anonymous message? I only have her Instagram. I feel like I'm losing my mind.
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    vitalesan 1 day ago • Talk to the manager above "John".
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    • super_bluecat · 1 day ago I don't know about telling the wife but I'd be tempted to tell John not your friend - that he had better stop giving you the worst shifts just because his gf thinks it's fun to sleep with a married man.
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    And the nerve of saying his wife "doesn't care about the marriage since the baby!" Yeah, she is probably just trying not to lose it with not getting sleep and dealing with a newborn. Man-babies are the worst
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    DelightMine 1 day ago • Yeah, she is probably just trying not to lose it with not getting sleep and dealing with a newborn. Or he's just lying.
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    She's literally still coming in to see him at work. This girl is just hearing what she wants to hear, and he's not even bothering to try and hide it well.
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    Limp-Comedian-7470 1 day ago Contact the wife. But start looking for a new job too. The fact you're being bullied for is off the wall their
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    mspooh321 1 day ago · edited 1 day ago we had a major fight. She stormed off and cut all contact with me. Since then, going to work has been John is in charge of our shifts and ever since our fight, he's been giving me the worst shifts and making sure we're not scheduled together.
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    He can't do that.....it's retaliation. Report them and report what he did and report the fear that they are having. As for the wife you might first need to get some proof of them (one of the) talking
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    about the affair or just write her a typed letter and give it to her (untraceable and won't lead back to you). *But tell your HR about the retaliation 1st
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    Competitive_Bird_705 1 day ago Find another job, tell the wife, with as much evidence as you can find, dates, times, etc. Do it anonymously. Tell HR if you think they'll get rid of them both, that way you won't have to change jobs, but be 100% sure first.
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    lucky_lilac555. 1 day ago It's so sad that he claims his wife doesn't care about the marriage but visits him 3-4 times a week and brings him lunch. That doesn't sound like someone who doesn't care about a marriage. It sounds
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    like someone who is still making a small effort (which is actually a HUGE effort when you've just had a baby) John is a liar and he His wife deserves the truth.
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    Jtheguy1155 1 day ago If your work place has cameras, I'd bring it up to hr, I doubt they haven't been seen on camera and let he know that you feel like he is creating an hostile work environment. Make sure you
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    document all this. If that fails reach out to your government system that is in place. After all that is resolved tell the wife anonymously.
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