Boyfriend Wakes Girlfriend Up Early Every Morning and Doesn't Understand Why She's Infuriated: 'He says that he does this because normal couples want to spend time together'

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    r/ r/AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC. aitaiamsotired AITA for yelling at my boyfriend for waking me up when I don't need to be awake?
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    For background; my boyfriend and I are both 29 and have lived together for three years, and this morning when I yelled at him, he told me to post the situation to reddit. The whole time we've lived together, he's had this incredibly
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    irritating need to wake me up when *he* wakes up, even when I don't need to be awake yet. He can fall asleep on a dime, but it usually takes me at least an hour to pass out (melatonin gives me the *worst* nightmares, so that's a no go). On top of that, I very
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    frequently wake up a few times in the night. For the record, every time he sleeps, I let him sleep. It's Saturday and I woke up earlier than him? I just hang out quietly on my phone or go to the living room if I'm gonna be any semblance of "loud."
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    He's taking a nap? Lights are off, I make everyone be quiet and I leave him be, because *sleep is important*. He has let me nap longer than thirty minutes maybe four or five times. He says that he does this stuff because "normal couples want
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    to spend time together," but feels like a control thing to me. He is very often out all weekend and some weeknights, which I don't mind at all because friendships are super important, but that shoots down the "quality time" narrative for me.
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    I have two kids from a previous relationship that are 8 and 6. Both kids have strep throat right now and one has scarlet fever on top of it. I currently also have strep. I have a constant headache, my throat and body hurts, and I am especially tired. Last night, he fell asleep at
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    12. I fell asleep at 1:30, and got up for the kids at 2:45 and 4. He gets up at six thirty for work, and he woke me up at 7 for zero reason. Since he pulled this yesterday, waking me up to lock the door for him as he'd left his keys at work (I
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    gave him my spare key the evening before so he could go to the gym, it was on the kitchen counter) I yelled (read: sternly admonished, I can't physically yell right now) at him, asking what on earth he feels the need to wake me up for. Does he feel wronged having to be the
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    only one awake? Why would you not care about the needs of your girlfriend? I don't get it. He gave me the "norMaL cOuPIES" blah blah blah and told me to post it here for judgment. Just for context, he works 8-5. I'm in college full-time and pursuing a
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    separate certificate on top of that. He does not pay my bills (**edit: he pays his half, I pay my half of rent/utilities bills -, bad phrasing, sorry) or for anything my kids or I need, so it can't be resentment from that. All the chores that get done were done by me, (he does
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    start his own laundry and wash his own dishes *most of the time*) so it can't be that either. Pass your judgement upon us, O Reddit.
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    shammy_dammy • 23h ago NTA. Stop living with him.
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    Mysterious_Book8... 23h ago Dude that would seriously be a deal breaker for me.
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    cavviecreature • 23h ago NTA...what do you get out of seeing this guy? I realize i'm leaping to reddit's 'break up' philosophy early, but he doesn't sound good for your sleep at the very least. i hope he's nice/ understanding in other ways i guess.
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    • Eldritch-banana-3102 23h ago NTA. Depriving someone of sleep is absolutely manipulative. You've got a lot on your plate and need sleep. He's a
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    Future-Crazy7845 • 22h ago Tell him Reddit said stop it. Tell him that if he wakes you up again the time you then spend together will be unpleasant.
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    dellaevaine • • 23h ago Edited 51m ago Together for 25+ years. There is NO reason to wake your significate other unless they also have an event to attend to. I wake up and go to work 1.5 before my SO needs to and I let them sleep. Sleep depervation is a war crime for a reason. He is torturing you when you are sick and caring for your children because.....he just wants to. What a flip and childish rationale. That's not an adult response and it sure as heck is that
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    a way to show someone that you love them. I'd be locking his outside until he gets some rationale thoughts back in his head, because if he isn't helping you care for the sick children and his sick SO, then he is a problem. Edited to add: NTA
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    • Horror-Reveal7618 22h ago He told you to post in reddit about this? The hamster running in the wheel in his head must be on vacation if he didn't actually predict how this would turn out. People in reddit are fierce defenders of sleep and food because those are the most basic of human needs. It does sound like a control issue. And I have trouble understanding why are with someone who disrespect you like this and barely manages to pull his weight in the relationship.

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