Welcome back internet girlies. Marriage and relationships can be a scary commitment. You could be with someone nearly a decade and find out something you swore you never would. We always want to see the best in our partners, and give them the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes, a situation like this can make things spiral. The dynamic can allow for bad behavior to continue.
Sometimes integrating in someone else's world can cause distress in ways you didn't suspect.
Imagine your boyfriend, recent fiancé, is spending a little too much time with his male friend. From days long sleepovers, to canceling dates to be with him instead. Sus doesn't begin to cover the skepticism behind this behavior. Sorry, honey, but if it looks like a duck, it's a duck. Don't try to read between the lines. There aren't lines, it's right there in front of you. At least you know before you put the ring on.