'If you want me gone, you would have to fire me': Micromanager pressures employee to quit their job by criticizing all their work, employee finds a way to use manager's methods against him

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    "If you want me gone, you would have to fire me"
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    I am being quiet fired. Help me become a menace.
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    I started a WFH job in September and right off the bat, I was worried. The managers are completely incapable of giving understandable, clear instructions. They expected me
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    right off the bat to know their processes and are punishing me for not asking the right questions. Steadily, things have gone downhill fast. My boss expects me to be on his level and because I'm
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    not, he has started micromanaging me. It started out where I was helping them build these massive campaigns, and I would get a lot done, but he has this obsession with making even the most insignificant edits seem
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    like they have monumental importance. When I inevitably make mistakes because he can't explain what he wants me to do in an articulate way, he has started overseeing everything I do and finding faults in everything. Then
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    he informs the entire team about my failures so that none of them want to give me tasks to do. So I'm sitting at home, waiting for tasks to come in, and he is punishing me for not reaching out to ask if people need me to do something,
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    even though he's created an environment where I feel embarrassed to speak to any of these people. Some of them have been hostile towards me from the very beginning.
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    I can't quit. Not yet. I can tell they want me to quit. I actually think that he is with me at this point. He has gone into my files and comes out with all of these problems that don't even make
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    sense. I actually wonder if he is creating fake problems in order to create a case against me. He booked a vacation at the same time as another coworker and during that week, they gave me some incredibly insane requests
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    that were beyond what any one person can handle. He wasn't even on a real vacation. He was home, gardening. I think he intentionally booked his vacation to go alongside hers so I was complete left to my own devices. It was awful.
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    This week, he has me write a long email to him and the HR person answering questions worded professionally, but essentially asking "why are you so bad at your job?" "What do you think you were hired to do here?" I called my
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    therapist and she confirmed that this man is legitimately bullying me. She thinks he is gaslighting me, like consciously. I think he is too.
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    What should I do to make these people's lives worse while I'm looking for another job? And I'm talking... malicious compliance. Overly nice, overly communicative. Annoying to the core. Any recommendations?
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    NoblePotatoe 19 hr. ago Work to build documentation you think would be necessary to get them fired. They want to choose vacation time that leaves you unsupported, say that in an email to them and ask how
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    they will ensure support for you while they are gone. He gives unclear instructions, send cover your emails asking for clarification and showing how the prior instructions were unclear.
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    He says you should reach out to your colleagues for work, ask him for recommendations and mentoring as to how to do it. When his advice inevitably S s, send followup emails asking for clarification which highlight the bad ideas.
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    He calls out small mistakes in a meeting, send a follow-up email asking for help to grow as an employee and could he explain how this particular error is so bad?
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    The idea is to be absolutely earnest in asking for help while really documenting just how horrible a boss he is. Once you have enough documentation you can put it all together, send it to his boss, then either mic drop and quit or hang around and witness the fall out.
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    KetoLurkerHere - 21 hr. ago During every single assignment, stretch it out by asking for feedback after every single step or edit. With a "just keeping you in the loop!" sort of tag. Or an "I really respect your thoughts and am really looking to learn" (barf). Again, after every single adjustment.
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    Dendrowen 21 hr. ago And when told that you shouldn't ask these questions this often, also ask for feedback on the interval of your questions.
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    omghorussaveusall. 17 hr. ago Yup, use the micromanaging against them. Do a small bit of the task, box it up, send it to him with a detailed report on what you did and ask for feedback. Do this 25 times a day.
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    s33k 13 hr. ago • Make. Him. Fire. You. This man wants you to quit. Spend your time to your own benefit. Update your resume. Take a class. Start networking. But make him fire you and put the reason why in writing. If you quit, he doesn't have to pay unemployment.
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    trustthetriangle . 13 hr. ago Literally ask every question on every step. If everything is so important then you just want to make sure it's right to avoid issues. Is this ok. How about this. Is this right. Etc
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    shankyou-somuch OP. 7 hr. ago Omg, you gave me an idea. I can write out each step of work I do in extremely thorough detail. I'm a graphic designer. So I can say "I moved up this text to this magenta guideline to be in line with the logo. I measured the
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    edges of the design to the exact same width using a square 100x100. Then I noticed that it didn't look optically aligned, so I moved the text to be 3 pixels to the left. (Boss name) says that it's more important for all pieces of a design to be optical aligned than to be mathematically
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    aligned. Our eyes do this thing where they think there isn't balance when there actually is so, we have to fix that. That is when you screw up your eyes, like blur them intentionally so you stop seeeing the words and you just see shapes. Do that and you will see if the text "feels" like it's unbalanced even though it
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    actually, technically is. In order to complete the adjustments boss wanted, I needed to add an additional 237 minutes to apply this change to the 60 assets in which this will be applied.” Very very boring, mechanical explanations for decisions I am making. Then CC everyone on it. God. That would be so annoying.

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