‘It’s not my baby’: Woman Expects Younger Sister to Take Responsibility for Her Baby, Younger Sister Puts Her Foot Down

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 18, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet enthusiasts. Family is tough. It's as if there's a phrase about how we don't choose our family…as if the whole world is on board with this notion. The popular phrase is both true, and daunting. We all have members of our family that we'd rather not know. At least it gives us the opportunity to choose our friends wisely, and our partners even wiser. 

When you're the runt of the family, you could either have it easy, being treated like the 'baby,' or you could be dumped with responsibilities which are not your own. When no one else is around to help, who's going to have to pick up the slack? It often could be the person who shouldn't have to. When you're young, you're trying to get your life in order for a better future. When your older sister has a baby that suddenly becomes your responsibility, it will be impossible to plan a normal future as a teenager preparing for college admittance. Read this juicy Reddit thread for the full scoop. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH • 3 days ago EveryReindeer1703 AITA for forcing my family to babysit (so i won't have to)??
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    I'm (19f) living at home, working a part-time job, doing some freelance stuff and taking some online courses all in preparation for attending college next year. My sister (25f) had her 1st child 8 months ago. The father isn't involved and only pays CS.
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    My mom is excited to have her first grandchild and is constantly offering to look after the baby so my sister can feel at ease working full time and afterwards, will have some time for herself to relax. The thing is, about 70% of the time I'll be the one looking after the baby, and while I admit that I enjoy it and like spending time with him, I can't help but feel
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    mad because they don't have any consideration for my time. Mom would drop the baby while I'm in the middle of my lessons because "you can always watch the recordings later" or "just ask someone to tell you what it was about". Or when I'm working in my freelance stuff because "looking after the baby doesn't
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    really require much" when I complain about getting delayed in my projects. My breaking point happened last week when my mother and sister left the baby with me for a whole day because I mistakenly told them I didn't have to work and would be staying at home to catch up with some pending stuff
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    and study. I told them both irresponsible and they called me a spoiled brat. That night, my grandma and other members of the extended family were calling and sending me messages about the importance of helping family, and to understad that my sister doesn't have it easy being a single mom. I got mad and sent a message to the family group chat
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    saying that they were right, helping family is important and we all should be supportive of my sister. I then proceeded to write a schedule in which all of us could take care of the baby. Because one aunt goes to visit grandma on mondays and wednesday's mornings they could babysit those days. Eldest cousin and her siblings ar at ther home fridays
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    afternoon??? well, they can babysit that time... and so on. I left saturday mornings and tuesday evenings as my time to babysit. My sister and my mom were very pleased with the arrangement. The other family... not so much. And when someone pointed out that my sister didn't get the baby for a whole day,
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    discussions about my sister being an irresponsable mother started, with my mother trying to defend her.
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    AITA for causing this??? How come they were expecting me to be my sister's unpaid nanny, but then they get offended when the same thing is being forced on them?? I may be the AH because I caused this and don't regret it one bit.
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    star_b_nettor • 3d ago NTA That was a beautiful way to address that. Everyone always says but family until it comes back on them.
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    Tar... 3d ago • Edited 3d ago NTA You aren't a spoiled brat. Your sister is a spoiled brat. She chose to bring a child into this world thinking other people would parent him for her.
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    The only person responsible for this baby is your sister.
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    JournalistPhysical26 • 3d ago NTA. You didn't have a child, your sister did. She can either pay you or find someone else to watch the child
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    revdj • 3d ago "I then proceeded to write a schedule in which all of us could take care of the baby. ... I left saturday mornings and tuesday evenings as my time to babysit".
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    Not only are you NTA, you are a master. A freaking Jedi.
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    theworldisonfire8... • 3d ago I personally love how you dealt with the flying monkeys. So many posts on here are all "my whole family is blowing up my phone telling me I should do XYZ for so and so" and they seem to just take the abuse, and no one ever
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    seems to put the issue back on the complainers. You think family should help out with childcare? Great, you take Monday, you take Tuesday, etc. Cue the shocked Pikachu faces of those who thought they could gang up on you with no consequences. The
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    added bonus of what you did is that the family gets to see how a parent your sister is being. Well done, NTA.
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    Now, anyone who takes an issue with your schedule, you can confidently tell them that if they don't want to pitch in, they have zero grounds to criticize you for not wanting to be a full-time. nanny for sister, who should be raising her own kid and stop taking advantage of you.
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    fireflydrake 3d ago "My sister and my mom. were very pleased with the arrangement. The other family... not so much. And when someone pointed out. that my sister didn't get the baby for a whole day, discussions about my sister being an irresponsable
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    mother started, with my mother trying to defend her." This. This is a work of art. Apologize for nothing, you masterful mind! You're NTA, your sister and mother are being UNFAIR and it's about high time others noticed it and said something. The
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    only AHs here are the ones expecting others to do all the care for the baby they agreed to care for.
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