‘I’m leaving if you don’t respect me’: Woman Walks Away From Husband After an Outburst, Leading to Family Dispute

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 20, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet enthusiasts. For every story about a couple's dispute, people love to know all the juicy details. When marrying someone and having children with them, they could really change over the years. They could change so much that you feel like you can barely recognize them anymore. People change for the better, and for the worse. 

Take this couple. Even though they already had children, things were good. There's something about that second or third child that could make a person go from stable, to unhinged and out of line. It could induce a side of them you're not used to seeing. When a man is having violent outbursts, it could be time to throw in the towel. You never need to put up with that kind of behavior, or they can go get help for it. Enjoy this juicy Reddit thread about a mother, her husband, and his temper. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH 5 days ago Glad_Candy8957 AITA for divorcing my husband for saying that me and my son don't deserve respect?
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    My husband and I had been together for 7 years. I have a 13yo son with my ex and a 6mo with my husband. Since I gave birth my husband has been weird. He's super hands on, super attentive, loves our daughter more than anything and has overall been super helpful BUT
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    he's.. changed? His patience with my older son is completely gone. He's quick to snap and say that we don't respect him. He OFTEN says "I worked all when it comes to day" near everything. He's been incredibly stressed out about finances. Often vents and tells me he feels
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    like he is failing and that he isn't providing enough. So I know there's a deep routed issue and that therapy would probably be a good thing but he always says "I don't have time for therapy, I'm always working", even though he works 5am to 3pm with the rest of the day off and every Thursday
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    and Friday he has days off (I work from home with a flexible schedule but the same overall hours as him).
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    Anyways, not even 3 months ago I literally told him that if he didn't change, I couldn't stay. He was acting bipolar. Laughing one minute and absolutely I off about seemingly nothing the next. He was persistent and pleaded that he would do better, and he absolutely did up until 2
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    weeks ago. So, we were all hanging out in the kitchen (kids included). I let my son hang out later than bedtime because we were having a good time (playing board games). My husband was okay with this until he wasn't? | guess is the best way to put it. Everything was fine and then he
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    just snapped. I had gotten up to get a drink of water and my husband goes "alright, enough, it's past your bedtime". My son goes "aww, cmon, just a little bit later" and my husband snapped. He starts raising his voice, basically screaming about how "no one respects him'. My son
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    immediately retreated to his room. I'm silent. I start washing the dishes and avoiding eye contact. He goes "great, now you're at me too?" This, admittedly, made me lash out. Maybe because I'm fed up, I don't know. I yelled at him. Told him that maybe if he respected
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    us OR gave us something to respect than this wouldn't be an issue. He then says "what the is there for me to respect?" And then slams out of the house and leaves. It's like 11pm at this point. I text him and tell him not to come home. He doesn't. He slept in his vehicle and went to work
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    the next morning like nothing happened. I packed up me and the kids. while he was at work. I obviously left a lot behind. So I left a note on the table saying "I will be back for the rest of our stuff when I'm able". I then go to the court
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    house and get the divorce papers. I had to get an attorney to actually understand how to fill it out so it took me a little over a week but once I had it all completed, I brought him the paperwork for him to sign. He had been texting and calling the entire time I was gone begging
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    us to come home. Said he was sorry and obviously he respects us but he's just really stressed out and he "didn't understand why you'd let James stay up so late, knowing I had work the next day". Kept saying that me and the kids is the only reason why he hasn't lost himself completely.
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    Says he will get therapy, etc. but I just don't trust him anymore. So when I went there and handed him the divorce papers, he was essentially blindsided because he thought we would be able to work this out. He is refusing to sign the papers as of right now, which I'm not super concerned
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    with. But almost everyone I know is against me on this because he apologized and he "obviously didn't mean it, he was just stressed" and think that I should just work it out with him because he was absolutely perfect up until I gave birth and the stress of finances started weighing on him
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    (he has NEVER been good in high stress environments but it's been 6 months straight and I can't do it anymore). AITA?
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    ETA: tired of seeing it so: I'm NOT keeping our daughter from him. He's had plenty of opportunities to see his daughter, if he so chose. He has seen her once. He's spending so much time begging me to come back home that he is not making an attempt to see his daughter.
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    JarethsBuldge • 5d ago ΝΤΑ "I'm just stressed" yeah well that happens to everyone and it's not a free excuse to abuse your family.
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    It's obvious you've tried to help and tried to encourage him to do something for himself.
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  • 20
    Good for you for doing what's best for your children. They don't deserve to live like that. I'm sure it hurts like , but he's just saying whatever he thinks will make you come home.
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  • 21
    Shichimi88 5d ago Nta. He's lovebombing you to get you back. Stay the course with the divorce. He doesn't think your son is his anymore after he has his daughter.
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    CarcosaDweller • 5d ago NTA, the amount of respect | feel for you right now cannot be overstated. You recognized the problem, tried to find solutions, and when it was clear that his behavior was only worsening and effecting the
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    worsening and effecting the kids, you got out.
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  • 24
    FerroMancer 5d ago Heard this great saying. Prefacing with that to give credit where it is due, and because I'm paraphrasing.
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    Respect can mean different things. It can mean “treat someone with basic dignity" or it can mean "treat someone as a superior”.
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    So when someone says, "If you don't respect me, I won't respect you", what they're saying is, "If you don't treat me as a superior, I won't treat you with basic dignity." NTA.
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    madisengreen • 5d ago NTA if he is that way to your son in front of you, how is he when you're not around.
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