‘You’re not welcome here’: Woman Stands Up to Her Brother’s Girlfriend After Gf Makes Snide Comments at Their Cherished Family Dinner, Leading to Dispute

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    r/AITAH 3 hr. ago Plane-Translator-192 AITAH for Telling My Brother's Fiancée She's Not Welcome at Our Family Dinner?
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    Hey Reddit, I'm a 20-year-old woman with a big, close-knit family. We have a tradition of having Sunday family dinners every week, which everyone looks forward to. Recently, my older brother, Mike, got engaged to his fiancée, Lisa. While I want to be happy for them, there's a significant issue: I
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    don't get along with Lisa at all. Lisa and I have very different personalities. She's very opinionated and often makes remarks that come off as judgmental or insensitive. At first, I tried to get to know her better and give her the benefit of the doubt, but it hasn't worked. She
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    constantly criticizes our family traditions, the way we cook, and even our choice of topics during dinner conversations.
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    The breaking point came last Sunday. We were having a lovely dinner when Lisa started complaining about the food, saying it wasn't up to her standards and that we should consider changing our traditional recipes to something more "modern." This really upset my mom, who spends hours preparing these meals and takes
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    pride in her cooking. After dinner, I pulled Lisa aside and told her that her comments were hurtful and that she needed to be more respectful of our family traditions. She brushed me off, saying that she was just trying to help us improve. Frustrated, I told her that if she couldn't be respectful, she wasn't welcome at
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    our family dinners anymore. Mike overheard the conversation and got really angry with me. He said I was being rude and unreasonable and that Lisa is going to be part of our family, so we need to accept her. My
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    parents are upset, too, because they don't want any family drama, especially during our cherished dinners.
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    I feel conflicted because I don't want to cause a rift in the family, but I also don't want to sit through more dinners with Lisa making everyone uncomfortable. Some of my friends say I did the right thing by standing up for my family, while others think I should have been more diplomatic.
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    So, Reddit, am I the for telling my brother's fiancée she's not welcome at our family dinner?
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    chrono_explorer • 3h ago Hahaha oh my god he has the gall to call you rude and unreasonable when this woman comes to someone else's house and criticizes the FREE food and not only that but then says the conversation isn't up to her standards. If she has such
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    high standards she can go to wherever that caters to her and not with people who she basically considers beneath her. NTA.
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    sassychubzilla ⚫3h ago Nta. One of those families where everyone keeps quiet to avoid being uncomfortable? Even though she's the one being disrespectful and inconsiderate, hurting feelings, you're the one who gets crapped on.
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    You may need to avoid family dinners and let them. have her for awhile. Let them get their fill of her so when you return, maybe they'll be relieved that you tell her to stuff it.
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    AdWinter4101 • 3h ago If it's your house no you're not the but if it isn't, you don't have any say in the situation just remove and keep your distance.
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    thenord321 • 2h ago Nta Tell Mike "a ring doesn't buy her a seat at the table if she's going to be disrespectful to the family".
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    tryintobgood • 2h ago yeah Lisa is a snob and idiot and your brother should tell her to show more respect in the family home. But.... she wasn't welcome at our family dinners anymore.
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    This is not your place OP. If it's your parents home it's their decision who comes and who gets banned. You shouldn't have spoken directly to Lisa, the conversation should've happened privately between you, brother and/or parents.
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    NTA but should've handled it better.
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    Distinct_Acadia_29... • 2h ago Next time she does it, confront her at the table. Ask her why she's so rude, and why she doesn't stay away if she doesn't like it. Start a fight. She needs it. ΝΤΑ
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    Additional_Way... • 37m ago Have Lisa host a dinner and then make passive aggressive comments about her cooking. Some people learn the hard way
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    nerdybrownie • 3h ago NTA.. Bur ur brother seems like TA paired up with another A.. U did good protecting ur family. If they want a place in the family dinners.. they better appreciate it.
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    Evil-Santa ⚫2h ago NTA - Assuming that you had the right to speak for the whole group. NTA As long as you - realized that you have just told your brother he is not. welcome (couples come as a package deal)

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