Husband Accuses Wife of 'Getting Work Done' Behind His Back After Seeing Pictures of Them Together in Which She Looks 'Half His Age’

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    My (F32) husband (M32) has been acting very rudely towards me because he looks older than I. How do I address this issue and get him to stop?
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    This is a bit of an odd situation that has brewing for about a month or so. My husband and I are the same age. I look young for my age (I'm not bragging, I'm just aware of this, I've had many
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    people tell me this or assume I'm in my early 20's). My husband doesn't look old, but he does look his age. This is not a bad thing, and it all boils down to genetics as my parents didn't start looking
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    older/getting wrinkles until they were in their 50's. Same with most of my family. Recently, he has become very passive aggressive due to this fact, and he has even accused me of
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    going behind his back to get surgery or treatments to look younger than him on purpose to make him look bad. We literally had an argument that lasted over 3 days and ended up with him not
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    speaking to me for a full day because he had convinced himself that I was going behind his back to get filler/botox/laser treatments etc.. I have never had any work done at all. I just look like this and he does not like it.
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    Yesterday his sister came over. She got married about two months ago-ish and came over to show us some of the wedding pictures. My husband and I were in some of these pictures, and as soon as he saw one with both of us in it he
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    shut down, left the room and told his sister to "get the out" of his house. It was very odd, and we were both a bit startled and tried to calm him down but he just blew up even more and screamed in her face to get out, so she did.
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    I got angry and asked him what his problem is and he went off on this whole rant about how it's not fair that I look "half his age", and that women are supposed to "age like milk" (no idea what this means??), while men are supposed
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    to "age like wine". I told his this was a ridiculous way of thinking, since a lot of aging process has to do with genetic or lifestyle, so it didn't make sense to expect everyone (or everyone of a specific gender) to age the same way.
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    He kinda refused to listed to me at this point, and has now become obsessed with looking into plastic surgery/face lifts and keeps passive aggressively asking me how much mine cost and where I
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    go to get mine. He's being very cruel and keeps making all these little digs at me and I don't like it. How do I get him to stop and how do I calm down his fears regarding aging?
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    Individual_Baby_2418. 2 days ago You can't help him. He needs to realize he's unwell and get therapy.
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    DearReply 2 days ago This is very strange. First, a 32 year old man does not even look old. And he is too young for a midlife crisis. Even if he had some reason to be dissatisfied with his appearance, his behaviour is wild. There is something really wrong with him, psychologically. I don't really
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    have any useful advice. Perhaps you can seek therapy to guide you on how to deal with this. I fear that it will escalate. Keep an eye on him for any other signs of irrational behaviour.
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    ThrowRAagingissues OP · 2 days ago He does not even look old at all! He seems to be hyperfocusing on things that are not an issue. He's been complaining about creases on his forehead and smile lines/creases around his eyes
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    but they are normal! We move our faces and that is just what happens. I might try to talk to a therapist for myself, that is a good idea. Thank you.
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    nyav-qs 2 days ago This is seriously awful. I feel like something else must be going on with him for this to be such a trigger for him. If not then you might need to put your foot down and tell him you won't stand for this type of behavior for
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    much longer. The fact that he did this around his sister helps a bit so you can get others to help you out in confronting him over this irrational behavior.
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    ThrowRAagingissues OP · 2 days ago yes, she's been asking what is wrong with him so I am going to tell her and probably his mom. I think they might be able to get through to him a bit more. Or I hope so.

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