‘No one forced you to have kids’: Woman Excludes Inviting Her Sister-in-law to Family Events Because of Her Kids, Causing Family Dispute

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 26, 2024 1:00 PM EDT

Hey there, internet enthusiasts. If there's one thing about family, it's that it's not always easy. Most people in the world have kids, regardless of nationality. Having children is a normal and integral part of adulthood, and most people end up parents. It's very rare to see a family of 4 and none of them decide to have kids, except for one. Sure, this may make that person with children feel like the black sheep of the family, but didn't they choose it for themselves?

It can be difficult to intertwine family dynamics when everyone seems to be on one page, and the black sheep is on another. It's never comfortable to feel excluded, but at this point, she should just make friends elsewhere, that isn't her family. Like many of the commenters mention, it seems like she just comes from not a nice family. Read the full story for yourself to get the details.

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    r/AITAH • 2 days ago Usual_Ad7541 AITAH for excluding my sil from family gatherings because she has children
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    It's a complicated situation. My husband is one of four children. The oldest child Alice is a SAHM to five children. The second son is a child free gay man. The third child is his antinatalist sister. And my husband and I are child free.
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    Basically, one sibling has a lot of children, the other three siblings don't have any children, and mostly dislike children.
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    My husband and his childless siblings are very close, and their partners. We all hang out regularly, and we all like to host. They will not let Alice's children come to their homes at all. My husbands antinatalist sister just hates kids, and the kids have broken a bunch of stuff his
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    brothers house. I don't want the kids over at our house because if they come over the other two siblings will make up an excuse to leave. And hanging out with Alice and her
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    five kids without anyone I like being over just sounds really unappealing.
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    Alice called me and said that she's upset and feels excluded, because we all hang out without her and post it on social media. She said she's feeling depressed and isolated and she only ever interacts with her children. It's hard for me to be sympathetic
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    because she chose this life for herself. Her family by no means pressured her into marrying young, they actually tried to talk her out of it. FIL offered to pay for her college if she went.
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    I've said she's welcome to come over to the next thing I host if she leaves her kids at home with her husband. She said her husband can't watch them alone and she shouldn't have to leave them behind anyways. She said family should want to spend time with family.
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    I told her she's the one who chose her lifestyle, and if she has a problem she should take it up with her actual siblings, not her sil, and I'm done talking to her. I blocked her number because she kept texting me. AITAH?
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    Sea-Ad9057 2d ago She said her husband can't watch them alone.... and why not why can he not do what so many other fathers do on a regular basis...
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    CantBeWrong1313 • 2d ago I can't help but wonder what kind of zoo OP's husband. must have grown up in that 3/4 of them have an aversion to children and one is having kids on an annual basis. Something is really
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    off. I'm wondering if Alice had to be caretaker to her siblings and that's why they don't think of her as a peer.
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    BeachinLife1 • 2d ago Why can her husband not watch them alone? Is he that incompetent? If she never talks to anyone but kids, she needs to take steps to get out and away from the from time to time. She needs to
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    tell her husband to step up and parent his kids while she get out for awhile.
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    Miss-Mizz 2d ago I need to know what kinda abuse those parents gave to have one daughter who had endless kids and one who thinks none should ever exist?
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    SamTheHamJam • 2d ago "Family gatherings?" Maybe consider renaming?
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    Reasonable_racoon • 2d ago She said her husband can't watch them alone Whaaaaaaaat?
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    InvisibleBlueRobot • 2d ago YTA. Normally I'm on the side of "don't bring kids to a "no kid event" but this seems different.
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    It's deliberate continuous exclusion without any middle ground. BY THE ENTIRE FAMILY. Therefore, I think OP and the family is are a bunch of AH in this situation. There is really no effort at all.
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    There should be some middle ground. Some minimal effort from the family.
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    Of course kids shouldn't always come to adult. gatherings, but always excluding sister and never picking ANY locations or activities she can participate in really sucks as "a family".
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    Basically the family is ganging up to exclude this Mom, because they look down on her and don't like her lifestyle choices. It sounds like their version of "we told you so".
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    To me this is not far different from always excluding a gay partner from family gatherings because of "lifestyle choice" or not fitting in. Or excluding the working class family because they don't have PHD's and
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    conversation isn't as great. Replace kids with money, or education; or sexual preference, culture or anything else and it shows you who they really are. The family is virtue signaling to the Mom she's worse than the rest of them.
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    shakka742d ago YTA. Your "family" sounds like a bunch of insufferable boors.
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