‘Neither of us wants you’: Adopted 15-year-old kid confronts divorcing parents after they admit neither of them wants to take custody of him

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    My parents are in the middle of their divorce but none of them want custody of me
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    My parents have always been people I have always looked up to. I'm adopted, it's something they never really hid (I'm also Asian and they're white so it's obvious), but they always treated me like I was their actual kid. They say I love you
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    to me, they've always been supportive of my teams, they even paid for a limo for my homecoming with my gf this year. But something happened and now they're divorcing. They haven't told me why but they said to me that they had already begun the process a few months ago.
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    I'm not an only child, my parents have an actual biological kid, my sister (3 years old). For months now I'll always hear my parents argue about custody over her. They'll yell at each other, slam doors, etc. So I
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    decided to ask them about me, and they just said they hadn't decided. That was I think 4 months ago, and ever since then I've asked them again and again who was going to have me or if they would have joint
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    custody, but again they would just say they haven't decided. Yesterday I asked my mom again. She just said idk but I asked still. But all of a sudden she just snapped at me and said "None of us want you".
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    She apologized right after but I just left the house, and right now I'm staying at girlfriend's house until today for a sleepover. I'm not sure how the divorce process works, I think by now custody should almost be decided.
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    I'm also not even mad at my parents really, maybe they have some issues with me, they haven't told the reason they're divorcing either so why would they tell me the reason they don't want me
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    right? But I still feel sad, even if my mom didn't mean it I don't think I do anything bad. Maybe I'm spoiled or something idk
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    Candid-Quail-9927. 13 hr. ago Please let your dad know. This is important.
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    Fine-Pound-2565 OP 13 hr. ago I'll call him soon or I'll tell him in person, whatever works. But when my mom called me she said she told my dad what she said to me. But my dad hasn't called me yet
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    lechitahamandcheese 10 hr. ago Sadly, it's best to not trust what your mother says at this point, because even if she apologized for blurting that out, it's not the type of rejection a parent can ever really take back. Please don't wait longer to call your father
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    and be ready to find out where you stand, either way. The fact that he hasn't called may or may not be for the reason you think, but if it is it's best to rip off the bandaid so you can grieve and begin to move on with your life. I'm so sorry you're going through this.
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    Fine-Pound-2565 OP. 9 hr. ago I'll be fine. I still want to accept my mom's apology because I my heart I believe she is being honest
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    notthelizardgenitals · 13 hr. ago Do you have positive trusted adults in your life, aside from your parents, or access to mental health support? What your mom said was incredibly malicious and hurtful. Has she always been this way?
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    While a divorce may be stressful, SHE is the adult here and needs to keep it together for you kids. There is no excuse for her behavior. Have you told your dad? I am so very sorry that your family is choosing to be hurtful to you.
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    That is a THEM problem though. You are amazing exactly as you are, you matter and I am sending you lots of love. I sincerely wish you all the unconditional love, happiness, good health and positivity in your life.
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    Fine-Pound-2565 OP 13 hr. ago Besides them ig my coaches. They never really show me to my uncles, aunts, etc. And I think for mental support I do, I could schedule appointment by myself in my state, but I don't need therapy or whatever
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    Not really. She makes fun of me a lot but it's just jokes, I'm not offended by them. I haven't told my dad yet also Thank you but I think I'll be fine. My mom called me recently saying she's sorry so I doubt what she said was true
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    tahlyn 13 hr. ago How old are you? Your parents are legally required to house, feed, clothes, and educate you until you graduate highschool or turn 18, whichever comes later. They are legally required to go through the eviction process to remove you from the home. You need to call the cops and CPS if they attempt to abandon you.
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    Fine-Pound-2565 OP 13 hr. ago I'm 15. And I think them just completely abandoning me is just › unrealistic, but if they do for some reason I probably wouldn't tell the cops or something. It sounds stupid but if they ever did that I feel like it would be deserved. I feel like I always make them happy but idk
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    alpacaboba 12 hr. ago As a mom, I want to give you a hug and give your mom a piece of my mind. That is just horrible what she said to you. Talk to your dad.
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    Fine-Pound-2565 OP. 12 hr. ago I hope she's just joking, she makes a lot of joke lot that about me. But i will probably call/tell my dad in person soon. My mom said she already told him about it but still
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    strawberryfae_ · 11 hr. ago Hi sweetheart. First of all, you've done NOTHING wrong. Secondly, you do not deserve this as you are as important in this world as your little sister. Please, talk to your dad and if his reaction is the same as your mom's talk to your gf and her parents about it. If they're
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    letting you stay there for a sleepover they probably do care about you and will try to help you. Never, not even for once let anyone dictate your value as a person. The world is a very cruel place and sometimes we do not understand why bad things happen to us but you're not alone little one. I send you a big Internet hug.
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    • Fine-Pound-2565 OP 11 hr. ago I'll be be able to talk to my dad in a few hours because my gf's mom is dropping me off at my house. And i really do hope they care for me I really love my gf I know the world is cruel, I think I'll be good

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