Woman Uncovers Husband's Infidelity After Hearing Him Say Another Woman's Name In His Sleep

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    r/ r/Bestof RedditorUpdates u/Direct-Cat.... 2d. My husband is saying another woman's name in his sleep
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    Original Post May 13, 2022 My husband and I are both in our 30s, married for about 10 years, with kids. When my husband is very tired, he talks in his sleep, not a lot but a few words, usually it's about whatever is on his mind. When our boys were young it was usually about feeding them or giving them a bath, now it happens less than it did back then but it still happens about once a week, usually he says something about work or fishing or his car. Last night he said another woman's name in his
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    This is a woman that lives near us, he knows her but I don't (I work afternoons, my husband gets out of work around 4 and so does she so they're both outside with the kids around the same time). I've never seen them be anything but friendly, I've never seen odd behavior from him. But this has me very paranoid. I don't want to be one of those people who gets mad at their partner for something that happened in their sleep, am I being ridiculous for bringing this up to him?
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    Update thank you everyone. I brought it up to my husband in a joking manner. He immediately got defensive, and began saying he "couldn't believe I was making an issue out of this". I was pretty taken aback by his immediate defensive reaction, I assured him I wasn't accusing him of anything, I had just wanted to bring it up since it happened and make a joke out of it so he knew I wasn't actually upset. He continued to call me ridiculous, dramatic, etc, and if he expected me to stop hanging out wi
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    RELEVANT COMMENTS mfpstacey Put your mind at rest and talk to him. I say and do all sorts of crazy stuff in my sleep, I told my partner he was a danger to me and I was calling the police once lol he really isn't a danger to me. OOP I'm just a little bit alarmed because he's never spoken about anyone else like this, in this way... It's always very straightforward, things that he's thinking about or are happening in real life
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    Personal Regular_569 Honey, trust your gut. His reaction is everything you need to know. That anger he directed at you is masking guilt or shame. He's having inappropriate feelings for the neighbour, whether he's acted on them or not who knows.
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    Update May 15, 2022 (2 days later) After my husbands very defensive response after I bought it up in a really lighthearted way, I began to get a little concerned, especially how he said "if you expect me to stop hanging out with her over this you're out of your mind". Of course I never would have asked him to stop talking to her over a dream, but his response really was over the top. So yesterday I took a half day and got home from work at 4:15, the time they're usually hanging out. My kids and
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    So I walked by the woman's house. She has a pool in her backyard and from the street I could hear the two of them, clearly, in the backyard in the pool, talking and laughing.
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    I literally didn't even go onto her yard. I just yelled out my husbands name and said "Where are the kids?" He was silent for so long. He started to say something but I cut him off (I think I just told him to shut the fk up) and told him just tell me where my kids were. He said they were over his mothers. I told him he had until I went to get them and get back to get his stuff out of the house. He tried to keep talking, at this point he had come out to the street but I honestly didn't want to he
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    I don't believe anything he said, he lied about where our kids were to innocently hang out with a friend? Obviously this is all new, but I have no intentions of reconciling with him, I'll be a coparent and nothing else. It feels surreal to me how all of this started, I still can't really believe it's happening
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    RELEVANT COMMENTS OOP responding to a downvoted commenter I don't understand what you're confused about. He lied about where my children were. He lied about where he was to hang out with her. You have to be a moron to not see he's cheating.
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    Different Management1 I absolutely knew something was up from your first post. I'm so sorry. Do you think they've been having ? Is he trying to save your marriage or no? Is she married? What scum. OOP Yes, he is
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    DifferentManagement1 What exactly is his excuse for sending your kids to his moms so they could have a date? I can't even imagine OOP One of our sons had just been sick 2 days before so he said "he didn't think he would be up for swimming."
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    Foggydaysandnights Did you ask his mother for what she was told? Why she was asked to watch the kids? Does she know what her son has been doing? I'm so happy you are taking care of this NOW. OOP She told him he had to do work on the house and didn't want them around while he did it
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    LuxNocte 2d • OP: Hey, honey, the funniest thing happened... Idiot: YOU CAN'T MAKE ME STOP SEEING HER! Idiot (silently): I am so smooth. She doesn't suspect a thing. 15k
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    Stepjam • 2d ' he outted himself so fast. And didn't even have the smarts to maybe wait til things cooled down before going to hang with his mistress again. What a moron. Glad he made it easy enough for her to learn what he was up to. ← Reply ☑ 5.6k
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    CatmoCatmo. 2d I slathered myself in peanut butter and hugged hi... But...I mean...he was obviously soooooooo smooth and convincing when he got all defensive and yelled at her. There's no way she could possibly still suspect it after that genius cover up. /s He probably spoke to his AP after that and was all like, "You wouldn't even believe it! I acted so natural. There's absolutely NO WAY she suspects anything. I threw her off the scent like a pro and that idiot actually bought it! We have noth
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    pear_melon • 2d You'd think after almost being caught via sleep- talking, the husband would take a week off cheating, but no, got to scratch that itch! Reply 7.2k
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    Snackgirl_Currywurst • 2d Screeching on the Front Lawn 1:1 my ex. Me: "Hey, this woman is visiting my profile on this website a lot. I've seen her being friends with you. You know what she's up to?" Him: "I have no clue, why would you even ask me?? Don't you trust me??? Just ignore her, she's just trying to provoke you! If you ever talk to her, you don't love me!!!!" Proceeds to be I for the next 4 hours 2.3k
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    Dana07620 • 2d I literally didn't even go onto her yard. I just yelled out my husbands name and said "Where are the kids?" He was silent for so long. He started to say something but I cut him off (I think I just told him to shut the fk up) and told him just tell me where my kids were. He said they were over his mothers. I told him he had until I went to get them and get back to get his stuff out of the house. I love the shiny spine on this woman. Reply 3.5k Florence Nightgerbil • 1d She gave him
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    The Ovy • 1d Hey, man, he was only swimming in the pool. And ditching the kids. And lying to his mom about why he had to ditch the kids... I suppose it takes a certain amount of shamelessness to cheat in the first place, so we shouldn't be surprised when they continue to be shameless. 834
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    chonkosaurusrexx • 2d If this was how he usually met up with the affair partner, there sure were a lot of trust in both the kids and MIL never accidentally mentioning that the kids were over at grandmas at a time he had told OP that they were with him. I wonder if cheaters like this genuinely think that their plan is just so good that they'll just never get caught, or if they are constantly stressed out and overthinking if they forgot something. Reply 152
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    WildLoad2410 • 2d He went out to his way to mislead her. Car home, phone home, kids elsewhere, husband with AP. What else does she need to know. He really tried. Failed but tried. Reply 650
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    Bending CollegeGrad. 2d and wholesome he had to do work on the house and didn't want them around while he did it Weird nickname for the neighbor's but okay. Reply 335
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    Stormingbret • 2d Do cheaters ever think "hmm if I actually joke along she won't suspect a thing!" Instead of the usual "if I get defensive, she definitely won't suspect a thing!" It's almost cliche at this point. ← Reply 665 fresh-beginnings • 2d It's a cliché because that's what often happens when people get caught off guard ... 278

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